Ever-changing Alpha – is it an illusion?

Inspired by http://uncabob.blogspot.co.uk/2012/08/the-lost-boys-of-manosphere.html

The animal examples do not cross-apply to humans, for many reasons, including technological society and free will. However, just because they aren’t perfect doesn’t mean they’re useless as a metaphors. The constantly changing opinions on what constitutes Alpha is likely a wish-fulfilling escapism. These men dream of a better world, one they deserve, and to lighten the pain of this mess, they imagine an Idealized Masculine, who can be distilled into one word: potency. 

Our society shames male power, the label of Alpha is a convenient newspeak way of signalling pride in their own sex and its abilities. For this reason, I do not see the concept of an Alpha as shameful, excepting those who, cowardly, use it as an excuse to justify behaviours, as a poor Christian to God, or a feminist to “social justice.” I believe that is the dark pit the manosphere could fall into, they may become so set in their ways e.g. denying men have a Wall or declining quality of fertility, in spite of science, or that sleeping around reducing bonding capability applies to female and male brains, that they are the polar opposite, albeit just as bad and insufferable as the feminists. An Alpha needs a woman like a fish needs a bicycle. 

There are social dominance hierarchies, and I see the Alpha-Omega listing as a rough attribution of particular behaviours along that line, so no man is Alpha, they’re chasing an impossible dream, and I believe they enjoy it that way.

It begs certain questions, which fall in line with a few feminist myths e.g. all men want the same thing, all men should follow the same path, the opposite/desired sex is always bad/this way, the use of emotions like shame to silence dissent, and a peculiar self-defensiveness which betrays the insecurities of the movement and its members.

In short, I think the concept of an Alpha (m/f) is a just one, in theory, but the term in practice has been corrupted by those who wish to soothe their guilty conscience and make idols of their poor impulse control. The mark of truth is the notable absence of prominent middle-aged Gamers and above. Players “age out” or burn out with drugs, alcohol, STDs, who knows what else. Games are for the young and anyone claiming to care about the wellbeing of men shouldn’t have a cutoff point in age. It is undeniably sad to see someone chasing their youth, m/f, and I hope the manosphere matures into a space where men can address the changing considerations brought about by aging, not least the loneliness and acute pain of no genuine, lasting human connection in one’s winter years. It is the feminists who denied male feeling. The manosphere should be the tactics and skillsets arming men to take personal control over their lives back, and how to manage the fruits of those powers. It shouldn’t be a blame-avoiding exercise, as feminism has become or an excuse to check out of any external responsibilities, where they exist. Being an adult confers certain expectations, and it is childish to throw tantrums at the downsides when you readily indulge in the upsides. The responsibilities are the price you pay and you know this, you know there is nothing for free (unlike the feminists). For this, I believe MGTOW are the future of the manosphere. Rather than blame women for being women, a futile exercise, they forgo women until they perceive a good deal, if ever. A healthier society would have been full of such prospects for these clear-minded men.

Fucking one hundred sluts who would have fucked someone anyway is not morally superior to raising one healthy son in this broken world who will care for you in old age. Do not lock yourself up in a closed option without knowing what you discard and certainly for something better than the lure of a sated ego (it is insatiable and begins to eat its host). Pretending you feel no pain, as a sociopath (or natural) will turn those damaging impulses inward.

1. Be civil. 2. Be logical or fair. 3. Do not bore me.

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