They’re sealioning. They’re pretending to be polite so later on they can be the biggest cunts and blame you. It doesn’t matter how you act. Even if you’re a woman too, or a woman against a male feminist, they do this. There is no such thing as co-operation, they are trapping you into their frame of being “polite” e.g. ideologically neutered because they define what that entails and then comes the tone policing etc.