I don’t accept the “social-sexual hierarchy” and the classifications of Alpha/Beta/Whatever because it goes completely against my experience.
I have never met an “alpha” because they don’t exist – at least the commonly-accepted definition: “The alpha is the tall, good-looking guy who is the center of both male and female attention. The classic star of the football team who at a social gathering like a party, he’s usually the loud, charismatic guy telling self-flattering stories to a group of attractive women who are listening with interest. However, alphas are only interested in women to the extent that they exist for the alpha’s gratification, physical and psychological, they are actually more concerned with their overall group status.”
That’s a psychopath/narcissist and they should be referred to as such. As for someone fitting the entire definition – they don’t exist.
The PUAs I’ve met have been cowards and douches, every one of them. In fact every one of them has been the bottom-of-the-barrel…..
I must admit, the Alpha Male seems like the Knight of Old, you hear a lot about them but you never see them. In practice they’re as real as a unicorn and I’ve noted a trend where PUAs go around calling other men ‘alpha’ when usually the man in question is repellant to most sensible women (aka not sluts). If they can’t mentalise a woman’s attraction mechanisms well enough to know what we value, it’s no wonder they fail. A site called sluthate make the very good point that Game doesn’t work with women unless you’re physically attractive, and physically attractive men are usually naturals at working with the attention they get or refuse to whore around (they do exist, but when they get married such men are dismissed as beta inferiors regardless of the woman in question). Choosing to wait and marrying his Helen of Troy do not make a man weak.
I must laugh when they call themselves Lone Wolves, because in nature, lone wolves don’t get laid. Their species avoids them and they usually end up dead, without having passed on their genes (as most players refuse to have children, as if arrogantly denying the world your genetics is such a great loss when you have achieved nothing with them).
Personally, I like the scale but it’s a social scale of dominance and applies to both sexes (as both exist in the social sphere and sexual power is rarely manifest). It cannot be sexual because women are just as shallow as men, the PUAs get us wrong there. All of us care about appearance and health (including no STDs), their denial of this is adorably childish. We use the 10-scale too. The exception for famous aka rich men only applies to gold-digging sluts (not most women).
The myths of the PUA and Manosphere get their wires crossed and you couldn’t honestly follow them all without going insane, it’s guesswork. It’s one way to go Dark Triad though, I’ll tell you that. Except you rarely see middle-aged players, do you? Young nubile women begin to see them as “creepy” and men do age out.
From what I’ve observed, the promiscuous of both sexes age out and either give up and marry or form a diminishing series of meaningless attachments which leave them more hollow and empty as time goes on. Male vanity from the supposed harsh truth-tellers deny this occurs as if living alone at 30 is the same as 40, 50, 60, 70….