I think they misuse the term nerd to mean loser.
At least nerds have something going for them. It’s like a caste system, and what they find attractive/repulsive is determined by their position. You have to be pathetic to get a SJW, but this isn’t a norm to all other groups. There isn’t a crossover. If you seek a prep wearing goth gear you’re going to get shot down. Context is key.
I think it’s about this expectation that, while being shallow themselves (after the pretty girl because she is pretty) they have a double standard that the girl in question should have no physical standards and like him for existing, pretty much. They’re fishing out of their league and wondering why they get shot down repeatedly, then bleat how they hate being single, but not enough to date within their league or go without sex (like a normal person) without complaint. It’s very immature.
In dating, you sell yourself. You can’t expect romantic attention for other things that are not romantic in nature (work things, personality, being a “nice person”) – those are a given. Practically everyone has those. Most women would rather be single than with a loser, because their overall value in the future is reduced by dumper-diving in the same way as a man sleeping with a fat woman. Dating isn’t charity work, you aren’t supposed to be a nice person. It’s a social exchange, and these entitled people, truly entitled, bring nothing to the table while expecting a supermodel. If they actually have character or a good personality, that would be one thing to boost their otherwise average looks with the halo effect, but the worst kind befriend you because they’re too chicken to ask upfront, trying to, in effect, blackmail you with friendship feelings into accepting the offer. Those are completely separate from romantic feelings, which are completely separate from sexual feelings, but younger men fail to understand this. When a woman says she likes you as a friend, she means it, in the same way a man says he has no long-term feelings for a fuckbuddy. The ruse uses a woman’s greatest gift, her emotional intimacy, against her. You ever wonder why so many women nowadays have trust issues? THIS sort of bullshit. They can’t even trust their “friends” to be their friends.
You want a free hooker and don’t care about her as a person, she’s just body parts to you, but you refuse to admit it, and furthermore, lie through your teeth to somebody you’re supposed to care about (as a friend or more), saying it’s about anything else than sex (abusing terms like “love”) and laughably, saying you’re doing her a favour. Is it any wonder they hate you? After you put them through that level of emotional anguish? And now you’ve ruined the friendship by making it awkward and weird because you exposed your own plan in throwing a tantrum like a toddler when she declined. “Friendzoned” boys act like passive-aggressive women, thinking if they make the friendship hard enough the woman will give in like a mother figure buying sweets at the supermarket. It’s hella creepy. We don’t even put up with that bitchiness from other women, you’re gone. Friendship finished. Friends don’t deceive one another and certainly don’t start a campaign of emotional abuse. It’s morally repugnant.
When someone asks you out on a date, they are basically saying that they think your standards are low enough to voluntarily go out with them.
It’s an insult. You’re assuming (arrogantly hoping) they’re in your league or think they’re in a comparable league while you know logically they are not, or you wouldn’t be attracted to them (their high SMV). Women can separate feelings of friendship from romantic attraction in the same way men separate sex and love. It isn’t our fault we don’t fancy you, it’s yours. You aren’t attractive enough. It’s like a fat girl asking out the King of the Jocks and blaming him for not finding her physically attractive. Except fat is easier to lose than whatever his appearance-based shortcomings are. Sometimes it’s completely out of your control, like height or race, in which case, get over it. You can’t expect to be compatible with everyone. You can’t negotiate/’shame’ around it and no relationship based on that would last long. Attention from a woman isn’t all the same thing on a sliding scale, like a game of Mario where you rack up points to move onto The Next Level and the final round is sex; in the same way a man wanting to fuck you might fairly balk at the prospect of marrying you. They are completely different considerations. That’s why women run as fast as they can in the opposite direction. It’s like you switched the game between you (relationship) from checkers to chess and demand they play without their consent. Women expect men to know these basic things about them, especially since being in friendships with them, and treat them like individual human beings. Blaming women will just make you more bitter, more of a turnoff in human form and you’ll never resolve the problem. Hint: The problem is you.
There is an issue in the manosphere and fake MGTOWs and a certain type of entitled boy, where, if you tell them the truth, the complete unvarnished truth, they shut down. They refuse to believe it or call you wrong because it hurts their feelings. Maybe they start with the personal attacks when it’s an impersonal topic. You wanted the truth, you don’t get to complain about the taste.
Losers want winners. Winners have a choice. Losers can stamp their feet however much they like, the winners will always be in demand amongst themselves. Life isn’t fair. Your presumptions are baseless. Self-improve and STFU.