If you have to call yourself nice, you’re not nice.
Everybody is basically nice, it’s nothing special.
It’s like having a sense of humour, most people do.
They tried to trick (let’s say for argument) the hot woman into finding them desirable, and failed.
In a new study4 the research team asked a sample of 167 couples how long they had known each other (as acquaintances) before they started dating. What they found was that for couples who knew each other for very little time (less than 1 month) there was a very strong correlation between each other’s attractiveness level (ranging between .53 and .72). But for couples who knew each other 9 months or more before dating, the correlation between partners’ attractiveness was basically zero.
Like to like-like.
A similar effect was found when the researchers asked couples if they were “friends” before dating (I put the word friends in quotation marks because it’s always possible that one partner could be secretly crushing on their friend). For those couples who were friends before dating, there was a much lower correlation between their attractiveness levels. So the take home point is that people are less likely to match their partners’ attractiveness level if they knew each other for a long time before they started dating….
This is hardly the rule, however.
What usually happens is rejection, but these studies only study on the couples where the offer was met with acceptance.
Another implication might be that the best strategy to date someone “out of your league” is to become friends with them first and be patient.
Yes, leagues totally exist, contrary to what some whiny men have complained on here. Science!
One of my childhood friends calls this “playing the long game.” However, we do not have any data yet about whether this is an effective strategy.
Trans.: It only works on stupid people who don’t know or appreciate their own SMV.
That’s why the orbiters whine. And the mark gets insulted. The whole friendship was a lie, a sneaky fuckers-style sexual strategy (kleptogamy) to blind the woman to her own perceptions of sexual attractiveness.
It might work but only a small percentage of the time. Hopefully future research will help us discover whether “playing the long game” is generally successful, or if some people are more successful at it than others.
In the successful cases, the bridge between SMV must be small, in my observation. Like, 2 points MAX.
From the woman’s perspective, being the mark of such a loser is incredibly insulting (from SF link);
When low-status males have no chance of accessing females via traditional routes such as fighting or signalling their prowess, they may attempt more deceptive means of getting a mate.
Assortative mating applies to long-term pair bonding i.e. marriage. So all the guys in the manosphere below a 7 (standard bearer for attractive) expecting to marry a supermodel are never going to marry.