The modern painful transition to adulthood and encouraged immaturity

In the Valley, it’s pride. They’re all terrified of saying I don’t know. It’s like an extension of school full of people-pleasers, it’s conditioned into them. It’s sad to see old men pretending to be teenagers. Their model of maturity (where they’re going) is defined by going backwards, it’s bizarre. Kids don’t know shit, it’s a pseudo-religious secular argument about purity from worldly corruption when children are only pushed in media because of pester power (how annoying they are) and having spare pocket money to burn (from their parents). They aren’t more creative, they’re more reckless (and very rarely it pays off, an availability heuristic), most studies for magnum opus peak at middle age because one is both learned and experienced.

http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/10/27/growing-up/

Such a result is not surprising, given what we know about neurology. In adolescence, our brains are quite pliable and moldable, and are easily shaped by the experiences and tasks we pursue and work at every day. These experiences create well-worn pathways in our brains. In our mid-twenties, our brains start to “set,” and “excess” neural matter is pruned away; that which we’ve been regularly using stays, while that which we haven’t exercised is reduced. Thereafter, while our brains remain “plastic” and changeable, creating new habits becomes more difficult to do. All of which is to say, that if we train our brains in our youth in how to tackle adult tasks – how to plan, delay gratification, stick with a challenging task, work in a disciplined manner, etc. – performing these tasks in our thirties, forties, and beyond is much easier. If, on the other hand, our brains “set” before we’ve ever challenged them, picking up adult habits becomes a much more difficult endeavor.

Children need a gradual increase of REAL responsibilities. Millennials are especially bad for this. Only athletes and the elderly need the gym, a form of empty exercise, it does nothing for the calories burned. The rest of us should get enough exercise actually accomplishing something – doing chores, running errands, building something, volunteering, ANY-THING.

Real meaning manual labour type of work. It helps boost immune function, bone density and muscle strength.

So, the second reason growing up is so hard to do, is that rather than gradually being initiated into the world of adults, we’re often expected to take on mature responsibilities all at once. Without a couple decades of training, this can feel like a shock to the system, which leaves you drowning in a world for which you haven’t been prepared.

It’s deliberate encouragement of dependence.

Learned helplessness.

1. Be civil. 2. Be logical or fair. 3. Do not bore me.

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