“What’s troublesome is how far we take the analogy, even if we don’t particularly like the alpha males in our office, our circle of friends or our sports league. Because the power dynamic is reflected in the natural world, we’ve internalized the notion that dominance by an alpha male is the natural order of things. As such, we’ve come to recognize the characteristics of a classic alpha male as virtues. Though unseemly at times, we accept them as necessary traits for effective leadership.
I would argue, however, that they are not. While I recognize that our world needs leaders, I would caution anyone away from choosing the asshole lifestyle in the pursuit of alphadom. Because we are not animals. While this behavior may win you a momentary position of power, it won’t last.”
Counters, and consequences;
1. There is always someone bigger than you, and they might kill you. You never know if the person you just pissed off in the bar is an assassin. They never look like an assassin, idiot. The loudest person in the bar is least likely to kill you. The quiet guy who doesn’t want any trouble? Buy him a drink and run.
2. Great way to lose friends who call you out and get surrounded by sycophants.
3. What all prisoners have in common for $200.
4. There are these things called rights and they’re legally enforceable.
Here’s a fact, most murderers and rapists begin as lower level abusers, domestic or habitual fighters.
Terrible link but it gets the gist. There are mathematical patterns to this.
They get a sense of invincibility from it and finally ‘graduate’ to murder or rape (both involve taking). They get a sexual thrill out of violating personal boundaries (hence the emphasis of this as a red flag). From medical accounts, they prepare for their future crimes psychologically (what if, but dark) and anticipate it, almost willing an excuse, and sometimes it forms a masturbation fantasy. TMI but true. Plenty of serial killers/rapists are compulsive masturbators. Drug use and alcohol abuse are also common, they like being out of it. Later this forms part of their legal defense.
They begin as antisocial, the clinical behaviours of aggression, and escalate. If they’ve lost one marble, odds are they’ve lost the rest, you just don’t know it yet. You don’t owe anyone your life trying to ‘fix’ them. That’s how you end up dead.
Uncontrollable anger isn’t alpha. Toddlers have it. I’ve yet to hear a single valid virtue of the alpha male that shouldn’t apply to all men (boohoo you aren’t special), and usually most people, in fact. But hey, the self-improvement cult on social media doesn’t care about pesky logic.