So maybe the housewife cheating stereotype is based on taking back control?
When one party has too much power (in the marital dynamic), they take advantage. Financial abuse is rather common, because it controls by limiting the freedom of the other (you can’t leave, you’re so lucky I’m paying the bills, I’m good to you giving you an allowance like a child).
Creepy parental dynamics, people.
So no, we can’t go back to the imaginary model where the man is 100% provider, were that even possible.