They wouldn’t dare put a real pathology in the DSM V.
The parents might not be able to blame their children. They might stop paying their shrink bills. Quelle horreur.
Peter Pans – almost always male.
When sexually mature, promiscuous and critically, definitively incapable of commitment (seeing it as tantamount to prison, do not expect logic, but preposterous metaphors from them). As you can expect, problems with pair bonding, even purely social connections with other men. Therefore, they tend to befriend one another. Mature and successful men avoid them but they rationalize this as a virtue and brag about it.
They regress frequently to various stages of childhood, notably when stressed in an argument (especially one they started, quite the bully to relieve their random anxiety). They tend to violence and physical aggression, but not when a parental-like figure e.g. police, boss, or other authority e.g. club bouncer is present. They laugh at the law until before a judge for their ignorance/recklessness/cruelty, when they play victim. Remember, sorry is the magic word and you can break any law as long as you pretend you’re sorry after…
The male (at least 9/10, he is male, it is a male condition based on physical aspects of denial, as they cannot menstruate, that brings women to speedier emotional maturity as it’s hard to deny*) is easy to spot because they act like a teenager into their twenties, hold similar expectations for themselves and their life into their thirties and, humiliatingly for their relations, beyond. As other men begin to accrue success in their 20s/30s, they’re still stuck doing the same nonsense as their school years. They blame society for this, they are always blameless because they are always duty-free, the Real Victim Here (TM). There is no midlife crisis because in their mind they are still fifteen. They are simply immature. The world is forever their oyster. In myth we find nothing like this, the young gods have to die to get anywhere. Or else otherwise grow up and renew into adulthood. The ancients would’ve cut them off and forced them into real employment. Nowadays they whine on blogs about the many ways The Man has wronged them and start up pretentious forums blaming literally anyone else for their personal life. Conspiracies are popular. It alleviates some of their deep-seated guilt. They sometimes try to pull rank where it is least appropriate, with the green rudeness of a child e.g. correcting a Christian on the Bible as an atheist, lecturing women on babymaking and so on. They attempt to appear as if they have moral authority and we find many con artists and fraudsters in their ranks. It would be fine if they kept to their own but so ensured of their own superiority and legal invincibility, they see the world as both inferior and a mark, with goods they earned but didn’t deserve as much as him, because he has real feelings, unlike everyone else. Real feelings and excessive volumes of them, as well as poor control of himself in general, make him worthy of pity. Everyone is out to get them, as they are out to get everyone. Paranoia (vague, unfalsifiable) is aggression projection.
They see any societal obligation as a trick, a prison. However, to everyone else, they are a Fool, with none of the luck, thinking society will hold them to special, zero standards (yes, narcissism) and to think they are being put upon, asked something in excess of average. Is it any surprise their father abandoned such a case? Emotionally or physically? At a certain point they do become completely insufferable and cannot be helped by anyone but a professional. Do they seek a professional? Never. That would be a responsible thing to do. Instead they’d rather waste their life and suffer, and cause others to suffer around them as well. They’re the first to tell you how nice and great they are, like a child at a reunion begging for attention.
They project their own flaws onto women. Much like serial killers, they have a dependent relationship with their mother. All other women are whores, or something to be used. You see, the world is their playground. We are all toys (Machiavellianism with none of the wit).
They see ‘feminine’ virtues as weakness e.g. compromise, popularity, empathy, fortitude, all these for ‘suckers’. By making it female-exclusive, they can never be accused of them, in their twisted mind. If you remind them of Jung’s balance, they get offended.
The hard thing is never necessary, and they would argue, seldom the right thing either. This is awfully convenient for them.
It isn’t women that terrify them but the burden of fatherhood. If they happen to cause a pregnancy, they’ll blame the woman. You see, in their minds, they do not believe they are fertile, because what child can have children? They are deluded, at times possibly psychotic e.g. accusing a woman they consented to have sex with of rape, because she fell pregnant. They often make excuses to abandon the woman and that’s how deadbeats are made. The more psychopathic ones will torment their new family out of resentment for curtailing ‘his’ freedom (belonging to and only due to him, as the only Real Human) and slowly push them away, often with male-seeming outlets e.g. strip clubs, porn addiction, affairs, also cutting off financial support (this being the one objective form of abandonment that cannot be concealed, either they pay or not). Still, they are a veritable cornucopia of excuses when pulled up on this objective fact, like a child who ‘forgot’ his homework. Physical or other abuses of the mother are also common, since her body shackles him to his spawn, intellectually, and he probably identifies with a male child too much to hurt it (narcissism). They are the type to murder their children to ‘get back at’ the mother and then kill themselves in faux grief to avoid Patriarchal legal punishment or to simply beat/punish the female children for reminding him of their mother. Usually, child abusers start on the little girls, for various reasons (access, sociability, gaslighting, guilt-tripping, lower odds of revenge or being believed, acting out/up accusations, ‘straight’ sex, and so forth) if they can.
A good Patriarchal society whipped this scum out of town at the first sign and let him starve. They knew better than to think it could be fixed by kindness, such people are a cancer. Their enemy is the Patriarch, the Father they came to hate, although they are liars. They often call for a Patriarchal system, believing it will increase their power as a male, extending it to all males, rather than installing it to families, including mothers. The childless receive no benefit from a family-oriented system but he is quite stupid. The urge to control others is as strong as their urge to be ‘free’, with their perverse definitions of all taking and no giving, no duties, no responsibilities, to travel and use people like disposable objects, only to be revered in old age as if hedonism or owning genitalia is an accomplishment. They seem to believe too, that speaking out cheaply for the cause of Patriarchs now will prevent them from being treated as they justly deserve if that system came about e.g. they wouldn’t be kicked out of society away from the nubile daughters and rich drinking buddies.
Nowadays they keep secret social media accounts or avoid them altogether, terrified of the parental figures of society, like employers, from knowing what they are and denying them opportunities. You see, they can abandon you, but you cannot abandon them. You must give them everything because they deserve it. They probably have a list.
Do not pity them, they want you to nurture them like a mother figure so they might use you, as a parasite.
They die alone, having no true friends. They are forever lonely because they cannot connect with themselves and refuse to grow (modern parlance: sell out). They are stuck but aging. If they have children, they are loathed for their ultimate failing, in secret or openly. Strangely, they balk at open accusations of how they behave, wishing to rebel Them Vs The World, while openly admitting their actions/beliefs when it is socially desirable (compulsive deception, stemming from no true identity, possible borderline feature). For example, they will claim to be monogamous but also claim monogamy is impossible or over-rated (cognitive dissonance doesn’t affect children as they are incapable of logic, these men are retarded in many ways) to make themselves seem more appealing in other men’s estimations and gain their favours (this is also wrong, and hardly ever works, but they are too dense to see it). They cannot connect with women, because they are not truly men. They do not deserve the title, instead accurately, they are adult male. Women are an alien creature to the man-child. They do not like (read: temper tantrums/mantrums) being reminded of their age or its consequences, they project their ignorance (or innocence) onto the object, and call women crazy/stupid/wrong etc. Here we find a glib misogynist (you cannot hate something you do not understand) that dismisses anything he doesn’t understand or that goes against his preconceived beliefs as <relates to women speciously, therefore I may ignore it>, this neurosis enables his lifestyle. Escapism and emotion (that they inaccurately dub masculine for egocentrism) are their sole purpose in life, these combined they call experience. A postmodern monster. The fuckboy is also a Peter Pan with a focus on the psychopathic sexual aggressions (people merely as soil to stake a flag in, porn as real). Modern society enables these people e.g. the parasite single of the Japanese male. The Western equivalent either mocks them, projecting by geography, or idolizes them (Japanophiles and some very creepy sexual attractions you must take seriously).
Quite the pearl-clutchers, they are easily offended. It’s always your fault.
I don’t blame the parents, when the child is an adult.
*I’ve seen a handful of female variants, but they were very masculine, presenting like the male case, hating themselves, and they were always on the Pill, usually from their teens. They deny fertility as a responsibility or any other aspect of physical and sexual health. Never want children, love abortion. Refuse to get sterilized, because that’s a limit and infertility is associated with age.