Video: The perils of being desirable

They miss out one thing: the higher rate of harassment and stalkers.
Obviously anyone can have antisocial troubles, but if you present as bait or alluring, it’s more likely. The Bitch Shield should really be the Model Shield but the blokes coming up with this stuff aren’t bi so they don’t notice. It’s too easy to approach someone based on a thing they aren’t trying to be and force them into your expectations so you can use them. Nobody wants to feel used. And people do want to exploit it to make themselves feel better or look good. Doesn’t need to be sexual at all. It’s social, primarily.

Otherwise, yes, I identify with all of these partially. I think a lot of people identify with identity crises based on how we look and how much it informs other’s treatment of us.

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If you aren’t nice on the inside to match, at all times, people are likely to blame the outside, when it might be an off day or their rude treatment causing it. Sticking up for oneself is bitchy, you’re expected to be nice as apology for something you often dress down. It’s like being famous but with all the downsides of attention and paranoia. Attention leads to kidnap and rape, and creepy people will joke about these things to your face.

They mistakenly treat you like you’re thick too. Beckhap’s Law doesn’t really apply because IQ isn’t the only intelligence, it isn’t common sense, it’s too mathematical, and Beckhap ignores the moderate for the extreme. There is a moderate correlate of above-average IQ and above-average beauty. They don’t bother to get to know you because you’re just another attractive person to them. This never ends well. People keep trying to do you ‘favours’ to control you later (classic friendzone feign) or give you ‘free’ stuff, where there is always a string. Always.

We’re expected to take advantage of others, because from the outside we get stuff, stuff we want, sure, but the cost is always worse than earning it ourselves. Like dignity, or morality or something very obscure that sounds like a First World Problem. People keep insisting I go to their shows and sit in the front row.

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It feels like a weird topic to bring up. Like you can’t complain about a gift.
More of a curse nowadays. No politeness or societal protections, especially for women. I’ve known men be continuous victims of predatory women too. No respect, like they’re Ken dolls.

They are not there for you to play with. Respect their right to consent, to reject, to be without interference, like a beautiful bird… with abs.

I can’t go to Fashion Week stuff anymore, I get hassle. It makes me a sad panda.

When you meet a person, try to think what makes them unique, instead of drooling over them.

I don’t expect any of you to believe me, since you haven’t seen me.
Well, maybe you’d have seen me but you wouldn’t know it is me. Put it that way.
There’s a gloss of politeness a person over six? has to adopt, so less people randomly hate us, it makes intellect or wit less apparent. We get patient about showing the other sides to see if they treat us like dirt first, based on assumptions about our Look. The obvious ways they try to manipulate us like dumb little kids can be funny when it isn’t scary.

e.g.

Like no, I won’t let you buy me a drink, because then you’ll think you can talk to me and grab my upper thigh like a ghetto kid launching at KFC, like the last fifteen guys in the past hour, ranging in age from fake ID to old man that’s a creepy Santa. As it is, I get free ones from the bartender. Because he isn’t a jerk. So I’m nice. Attractive people are not constantly available or open for attention. They’re just people. I’m busy with a friend. Please leave. Please.

There’s an assumption that the way people treat you won’t get a differing reaction. You must either be rude to everyone or a ‘slut’ to everyone (being nice?). Nope. Better looking people are more polite but with stronger limits, to contrast with the catcalling monkeys that can literally follow you down a road mentioning lewd porn acts. Not OK. If we wanted to be treated like shit and controlled, we’d join the military and get paid. Or get a sugar daddy. Or become a model/actor/presenter. There are respectable ways to make money off being demeaned. Bloke number 324 who spends way too much time believing in the women of porn is deluded that a bitchy line is the magic word to Aladdin’s cave. Those do not exist. People don’t have passwords. STAHP.

Snape is underrated as an inspiration

Women are the more emotionally intelligent sex, right? We can tell when you lyin’.

It would be like expecting a magic line to make a man sign over his life savings. Not going to happen. Game is supposed to be about healthy social intercourse between the sexes, in theory, now it seems to be gimmicks and con tricks about dumb bitches and the insecure boys who pursue them only to complain they got hurt, in both cases.

But hey, at least I can explain how attractive people might view this topic. If you didn’t believe it’s relevant to me. I like being anon like this, it’s liberating. Nobody treats me nicely based on my looks because you assume I’m an ugly weeb. I’m just a person. Nobody should feel ashamed of presenting themselves well either, I’m not saying that, but the information is useful e.g. makeup is fine, as it can be tricksy to handle tactfully.
False modesty feels wrong when you’re lying about something everyone can see.
When someone insults your appearance it’s quite funny, because they’re always uglier, by a margin of at least 3 points and as many stone in fat, so we avoid more personal insults with a layer of dumb and assess what the other person projects onto us. Imagine if someone came up to you and started screaming because you looked like someone who bullied them at school. It’s weird.

Idiots can’t tell when you’re acting dumb but they get enraged when you’re smarter than them too. The word unfair is used.

Snape was a role model in some ways

It may be passive-aggressive or sarcastic, but we owe those people literally nothing. They didn’t approach us like a person but a product. screw ’em and their entitlement issues

Normally they throw out things that don’t even apply e.g. you’re old/ugly/nobody likes you/ things a schoolgirl would say. From a grown man. It’s sad but also funny? And they have no sympathy, not truly. No emotional connection, so a conversation is out of the question. They don’t see you as an equal, but a potential living sex doll. Bye, bitch. 

I had a post on mansplaining and what it really is if you’re attractive and men talk to you wherever you go. I should upload it.

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