Now, if you are a heterosexual man, it’s possible that you simply haven’t particularly noticed that men are complicated and difficult to figure out. There’s a good chance you haven’t noticed, because you haven’t dated them. But that doesn’t mean women are any more complicated than men to decipher… it just means the fact that dating men is complicated doesn’t impact you at all, if you are a heterosexual man.
Here is where the hardcore defenders of the “Why are women so…?” trope will reply with the following defense:
“I never said that men are not (stupid, angry, dishonest, etc). Sure, they might be that way too. But at this moment I’m just asking about the women!”
The problem with that is that, to put it bluntly, asking the wrong question can lead you to the wrong answers. If the reason some people are complicated and difficult to figure out have to do with general human characteristics, then looking at specifically female traits will not lead you to the correct answer. It’s misdirection. It will make it harder for you to actually be able to figure out what’s going on.
The blame game is popular with liars trying to excuse their own personal failings and loser status.
The question is loaded. It’s a false dichotomy that implies men are Not X.
However, while whining and guffawing over NAWALT, on the topic of rape they pipe up with NAMALT.