“I suppose I meant love as in respecting someone as a full person, but thinking about it, you obviously don’t need love for that, since you can respect (and should respect) the people you hate. You can despise someone and still treat them like another human being.
Respect is not something which should only be given to those you love, nor should loving someone make lacking that respect somehow acceptable.
I probably should have worded my response better. What I meant was that respect is the very baseline of human decency, and without that, it’s totally beyond belief to try and pair two characters up and imagine that there could ever be mutual healthy love there.
When you love a person you love that person for who they are, not for who you want them to be, or who you think you can make them. You do not control them. You cannot force them to do anything against their will. You respect their independence and autonomy.”
They just suppress it.