They claim a romantic script where they explain away their promiscuity by saying it’s a quest for The One. They don’t believe in a one. The next woman who takes their fancy, they will claim might be the One, so when it goes wrong (his fault) he gets to blame someone else (her).
It’s never their fault.
They’re incapable of monogamy or keeping a woman (r-types), why would they want a one?
What’s their reaction to happily married men? Disgust, confusion and loathing.
Yeah, they don’t want Miss Right, unless it’s followed by Now.
It’s easy to reveal when they imagine she’s simultaneously easy for him but difficult to ‘conquer’ (like an object or land staked by a flag) by all other men.
That isn’t how humans work. Ever. Either they’re sluts or they aren’t, but these guys expect the ‘right woman’, who magically sees Mr Sociopath’s value to use and abuse them, would dote on them like a mother, plus sex. It’s very Freud because mother cannot abandon them and many called a sociopath here in these types of article are misdiagnosed male borderlines.
However, when a woman turns out to be easy, they put her in a list called Not the One.
When a woman turns out to be unreceptive to his advances, same list.
All women end up on that list.
That is his choice.
They expect finding love (conflated with sex) isn’t difficult. That is madness.
But sociopaths are inherently lazy, they expect EVERYTHING to come easy.
Including a person.
When that doesn’t happen, narcissistic rage or manipulation ensues (to provoke the response desired or your own rage, so they can cue their own rage and blame you).
Hence it’s critical you don’t rise to their bait and cut them off from attention, they see attention as a reward for their behaviour. Those so-called bitches are just onto them.
Send them to a professional, they won’t go. Even shrinks cannot fix them.
Men playing the sympathy card flag up.
““I am sure that if the devil existed, he would want us to feel very sorry for him,” Martha Stout confirms in The Sociopath Next Door. “If you find yourself often pitying someone who consistently hurts you or other people and who actively campaigns for your sympathy, the chances are close to 100 percent that you are dealing with a sociopath.””
Men cannot be simultaneously superior and weaker. Pick one.
“Sociopaths want to be the center of your world. If they’re not, it becomes much harder to exert control. To do that, many will introduce another person into the relationship to upset the balance and make you glom onto them harder. A straight-up affair would be too easy (and risky) to reveal. Usually, these come in the form of an old friend who just has to come along on your dates, an attractive bartender he can’t stop talking to, or even his phone. Anything that when you complain about it, suddenly you’re the insecure/melodramatic/crazy one.”
They call that ‘dread game’ but the term round here is called being a shithead.
They think this is ‘harmless’ (lie) or funny (gaslighting).
Relates to triangulation, a form of abuse using a 3rd party.
Simple Q: are they trying to make you feel bad? Out of the two of you, who did something bad?
“Denying what they’re clearly doing is called gaslighting, and it’s an incredibly damaging practice.”
“The sociopath mindset is fascinating. Generally, they believe they are smarter than everyone else, and because of that, life is set up to punish them. Listen to the way your partner talks about themselves. What kind of stories do they regularly tell? And what role do they play? If every story features them one-upping someone (at any cost) or how they were thwarted (by cruel forces clearly out to get them) they may be subtly revealing their worldview.
“The sense of entitlement that comes with sociopathy is astonishing to those who abide by the social laws and conventions of our culture,”
Idealization (lies) and devaluation (lies). Sense a pattern?
“this rage fuels their sense that they have the right to act out in whichever way they happen to choose at the time.”
they are more emotional than an hysterical woman grieving, that’s why they tend to hate women, they project their sensitivity as a sign of womanhood to displace guilt… and excuse themselves when they ‘punish’ women in or with relationships with them
sure, they’re the victim