Link: Mirror syndrome or Cassandra Phenomenon

Mirror Syndrome made more sense, the original term.

Stunning example of lack of empathy

Autism activists vehemently deny that people close to them suffer significant trauma from their lack of empathy, just as they deny that they lack empathy. The truth is that spouses, partners, children and siblings of individuals who have social disorders such as Asperger’s Syndrome (AS) and high functioning autism (Hfa) suffer significantly. They are subject to chronic, repetitive psychological trauma within the context of their relationships with persons with AS. This is a normal stress reaction to the ongoing abnormal interactions within these relationships.

This stress reaction has been named Ongoing Traumatic Relationship Syndrome (OTRS), AKA Cassandra Phenomenon (CP). It is a metaphor for the emotional and physical suffering of spouses and children of adult individuals with AS and high functioning autism, because they are typically disbelieved as they attempt to share the cause of their sufferings with others (Cassandra, the Greek mythological character, suffered because her capacity to predict the future was accompanied by the curse that no one believed her. She could foresee disasters, but could not convince anyone to forestall them. By analogy, family members of adults with AS experience great moral distress because they can predict calamities caused by the individual with AS, but they are not believed or validated by the very individuals to whom they turn for professional help).


Asperger’s isn’t genius.

People with AS do not exhibit reciprocity; do not show empathy or compassion;

no, that’s psychopaths

cannot put themselves in the place of others; have difficulty with mutual communication; do not recognize the NT partner’s reality and attitudes; cannot read others’ intentions and emotions; find it difficult to learn from experience;

no, that’s PURE psychopath

cannot assess complex situations; cannot nurture a relationship;


cannot see their responsibility for their own actions;


cannot negotiate, seek compromises or resolve conflicts;


is extremely busy solely for their own needs; and has inadequate capacity for adult impulse control. 

There are brain scans.

It does not take an advanced degree in mental health to understand the emotional deprivation and extreme psychological stress that would result from ongoing interaction with such a person.

A lot of people claiming autism, especially online, are really psychopaths looking for an excuse.

A diagnosis doesn’t exempt you from criminal behaviour.

You can’t claim to be smarter than everyone then, magically, hypoagency!

A stress breakdown is a normal reaction to a period of prolonged negative stress from enduring repeated violation of boundaries, betrayal, rejection, bewilderment, confusion, lack of control and disempowerment, with seemingly no means of escape and no support.


Just say abuse.

So how have people with AS reacted to the recognition of the detrimental effects of their disorder on those closest to them, and to calling these effects OTRS or CP?


With a stunning lack of empathy. 


1. Be civil. 2. Be logical or fair. 3. Do not bore me.

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