If you’re going to call out something dysfunctional, nobody gets off scot-free.
If modern fathers were so great, their kids wouldn’t be whining on blogs about their bitch of a Mom, there wouldn’t be a criminal element or out-of-wedlock birth rates. Emotionally disturbed children are low fitness. A child is not like a talking dog or a car you can throw in the garage while you continue a Peter Pan bachelor deathstyle.
There aren’t many studies on single fathers because most men are too cowardly to stick around and do the hard work of raising a child they produced, a slight bias in the sample. Naturally, this scorn I heap on doesn’t apply to the widowed or those abandoned without a choice. Indeed, those men are truly courageous and society should support them. Real Patriarchs, great men. Doubly so if they don’t harm the child by re-marriage and commit to the greatest responsibility a person can have, re-marriage is selfish and purely for the parent’s sex life and social status. Look up the Cinderella effect for starters. Gen X onward gave us plenty to study, fake parents fuck you up. The abusive step-father is a cliche.
Single mothers are actually, as implied by studies like these, better-equipped to raise alone (but not ideal and not to be encouraged). Their struggles are largely external and economic, rather than inner psychiatric like the fathers who get easily overwhelmed and murder the children in all the newspaper stories to spite the mother. Scientifically, you would expect this difference from evolution, women have childcare, men have warfare. Questioning either one is pure idiocy. There are dimorphic reasons for this advantage like female empathy, EI, neural responsiveness to a baby’s cries, lower chance of infanticide by far compared to easily frustrated men but socially, women were often widowed after wars. Brothers, uncles and cousins would step in and help past the tender years. Single parents with a ‘support network’ of extended family are completely fine, considering. When compared, it is worse to have a single parent father than a single parent mother. Yet nobody dare say anything.
You people make me sick, claiming to care about the children. Stefan is shit-scared of this topic and he discusses almost everything.
But about the ones who choose to neglect their spawn, a form of abuse…
How could you be so selfish to deliberately harm your future children like that, especially after criticizing women for doing the same thing?
I know someone in child psych (academia-famous name) who calls people who deliberately become single parents “monsters” because all the life outcomes and even the kid’s physical health suffer. “How could someone do that on purpose? There are some evil people, they aren’t just little Mini-Mes.”
And it is always about the narcissistic parent. Spend fifteen minutes researching the damage of being raised by one, it’s the template for dysfunction.
They swear off having kids themselves, from spite and we can’t really blame them. If you don’t learn healthy parenting in a dual-unit healthy household united by a strong marriage with no cheating (distrust is the killer), it’s difficult to come back from. It’s like bargain-basement child-rearing, also, why are people trying to make this one thing so cheap? This is the one thing you don’t want to cheap out on. Nothing else in your life matters. If you wouldn’t die for your child, don’t have one.
They, that neglectful type, have the nerve to then complain about women fobbing off kids to daycare and nannies, oh, so they won’t do any less than 100% of the childcare, all by themselves? Right?
No room to move on that standard?
The narcissism of small differences is aptly named.
Having children is bigger than marriage. If you won’t get married, you can’t handle kids. If you want to inflict the cold world of rootless parenting into a child’s life, please get sterilized, it’s for the best. Those parents end up hating the child once they realize the hard way what it’s about. You can’t return them to the store or dump them like a girlfriend.
The mental issues are caused by being taken care of by strangers and an absentee or inferior parent. These guys are never dedicated. They love their drinking buddies more. Seriously.
Children take up all your time, even bathroom time. They couldn’t babysit for a week, I’d bet money. Solo, no help, for a week, none of them wanna do it. So much for being alpha and taking responsibility, lol. If it’s so easy, if it isn’t hard work, get paid for it?
They’re little children themselves, they cannot handle it. Most deny what it takes.
That means only part-time work max, no nights out, no business conventions and no holidays. Like, ever. No holidays. Considering how many of these guys complain about freedom, it’s a little like they’re locking themselves into a Houdini straitjacket. Plus chunky padlocks.
The good parents aren’t online saying how easy it is. No good parent says it’s easy. Those are outside observers or the shit ones.
This is with two parents and a marital support. Everything comes second to kids, especially companies: you are no longer an individual when you have dependents.
Not to mention, surrogates have pitiful quality genes. National IQ India: 82.
“Babies from multiple pregnancies are more likely to be premature or have cerebral palsy or learning disabilities”
When Tanderup asked doctors if they told surrogate mothers how many embryos they transfer, one answered: “No, we never ask them and they are not even informed how many are going to be transferred. They are illiterate, uneducated girls.”
Clinics typically reduce the number of fetuses according to commissioning parents’ wishes. A lethal solution is injected into unwanted fetuses around week 10 of pregnancy.
Then there’s your children you murdered for being inconvenient. Turns out, men can get abortions too!
Nobody says a fucking thing.
Last month Thailand outlawed surrogacy services for foreigners following several scandals, including an Australian couple that allegedly abandoned a baby with Down syndrome with his Thai mother but took his healthy twin home with them.
When you mix chocolate with shit, it all becomes shit. Don’t be shocked if it’s retarded, and I wonder if you’d indulge in the 24/7 round the clock care required?
I don’t think so.
[And yes, the risk of birth defects and disabilities skyrockets with artificial methods. The fact they didn’t look this up, first page Google-tier, doesn’t surprise me. They’re low IQ.]
Parents must cooperate, Trivers researched why and even proved it mathematically. Children need a balance of their influences. And if you think girls or boys are innately inferior, you don’t deserve to breed. I ask the men planning on using a surrogate, what happens if you have a little girl? You understand nothing about little girls. Great way to make a lesbian, though. Look up role model theory.
Unless you’re going to cross-dress and roleplay the feminine influence too?