Shame isn’t something that comes from outside. It’s only triggered.
Alongside guilt, regret, contrition and remorse, they are emotions caused and produced and experienced in yourself.
If you feel shame for doing a thing, you should.
The system is fully operational.
And then you should also learn from it, by not doing it again.
Or there’ll be even more shame, however repressed, in your future.
Are there shameless people? Yes. They have bigger problems, believe me. See title.
Anyone who refuses to grow up is wasting year after year of their life they could’ve fully experienced.
Sometimes you won’t feel good things.
Welcome to being a good (or better) person.
Shame is based on actions. If you didn’t do a wrong thing, what’s the problem?
Shame is not disapproval. Bad people disapprove of good ones, it infers nothing of the moral high ground as an opinion and people with the least moral authority carp “only God can judge me!” and “how dare you say that, who are you to say that?” or “you’re (noun) shaming!” which is just… descriptive.
Yes, shaming a man for doing something wrong is valid.
Nobody shames a man for existing.
They shame him for being bad at the man thing. This isn’t about your genitals, it’s about trying to absolve yourself of responsibility for your own life using your genitals and trying to foist the blame (agency) onto other people. Otherwise, make a penis hat and go on a march.
Sorry, forgot you already did that. I’m picturing some middle-class boat shoes, bad shorts and a single, lonely tiki torch in the corner of a room, never to be lit again.
It’s funny they’re even trying this with other men now.
Oh, does he hate men too? Nice thought-terminating cliche, morons.
Because guess what – the person who notices and tries to draw attention to your faults and improves you – they care, and best of all, they’re trying to help you.
What would you prefer? Mollycoddling?
Should men/women/both lavish praise on you, fake praise and humour you like a little kid? Do the equivalent of praise your crappy crayon drawing?
Holding men to a high standard isn’t a bad thing. They wouldn’t say it if they didn’t think you could do it.
This “man shaming” thing
[that won’t ever ever be a thing, men aren’t shamed enough for the bad things they do compared to women]
is more nonsensical than the SJW’s slut shaming. It isn’t woman shaming, is it?
I’ve never, ever been slut-shamed. Guess why!
[Women have tried to start rumours, guess what they were. Didn’t work.]
And to be totally fair:
So it isn’t being a man, don’t blame other men or assume they’re like you. Part of the problem is blaming the collective but trying to take credit for simple things as an individual. That’s what little kids do.
And it won’t make you happier. As people who have overcome that phase have been trying to tell you!
Bitching about man shaming is proving the very reason you should be shamed.
Pic for clarity:
It isn’t about being a man though. Is it?
Deep down, you know.
If you think any group is beyond reproach or question, go get a plushie lobster in a Peterson-esque safe space and cry into a copy of Fight Club.
“Someone, somewhere, doesn’t like me!”
If you had a life, you wouldn’t care.
This post could have been a lot meaner.