Male or female.
The instability (emotional) is the BIG one.
Much like a psychopath, they cannot hold down a (healthy) relationship. Bonds between a couple must be stable.
However, like a codependent, they feel they’re nothing without someone, ANYONE.
Stop and start. Stop and start. Lots of small connections, one night stands.
The typical one night stand (m/f) has a far higher chance of being borderline.
Lashing out at anyone rejecting them, however trivial.
Yep, the angry phone number guys. The occasional woman who gets angry if a random man doesn’t want to fuck her. The entitlement.
Borderlines DO NOT DO rejection. It’s a main trigger.
They have no self to fall back on. Obsessed with self-improvement, no identity though. Constantly trying new things that never seem to work out (think Madonna’s looks). Lots of “bad luck” with the opposite sex. Tendency to idolize others, have idols, especially online. They gain a sense of self via this Other. The stans who can delude themselves into stalking, harassing or raping their idol, dangerous people. A courtship disorder is possible or simple limerence at a distance. Feeling a sense of ownership, viewing other humans as objects or property.
Vengeful, rage tantrums, can attempt to justify abuse with some imagined or minor slight.
“You provoked me” or “you made me hurt you” or “why can’t you behave”?
That would be the classic “bunny boiler” or “disturbed young man” type.
It’s common to hear, “I own you” …. they actually think this.
Both are big on gaslighting so can be confused with a narcissist, which actually isn’t (usually) as bad.
It’s the men who ask to an abused woman “what did you do to make him hit you”?
Classic BPD, sick bastards. They never man up, nothing is ever their personal fault, even the actions of their own body don’t feel like they belong to them. When they picture themselves as the man (issues with empathy for the opposite sex), they assume the man was never at fault, even if he threatened murder.
They will FIND an excuse to hurt.
“I’m the real victim here”, as the other party is bleeding and traumatized in the corner.
They can seem glib like the psychopath or narcissist and can be at times grandiose with narc features. However, it’s an act, usually in response to attention. It’s fake. Their come-down is when this reality hits them again, which can look bipolar. They claim to be depressed when they don’t want to do something, a lot of small compulsive lies.
A rollercoaster of emotional bullshit. Like psychopaths, they deny their own condition but ALSO spread outright lies about it (we’re nice really, we’re the real victim, we suffer, pity us, you can fix us etc).
The logical reply is “wait, if you don’t have it, how do you know so much about it?”
This makes them angry. You wouldn’t like them when they’re angry (they can intimidate by threatening this “loss” of temper, which is a deliberate choice to abuse). Adults don’t lose their temper, toddlers do, because toddlers are still developing the brain areas to control it.
Anger isn’t really an emotion, it’s an impulse. They have issues, emotion is quite healthy but being angry all the time is bad for your body. The Bobo dolls study and others show feeding anger makes it stronger and more frequent. “Let it all out” applies to tears, not physical abuse. Angry people get an endorphin rush, abusers enjoy abusing.
Like the psychopath, they study a lot online of how normal people think. They can quote forum posts to act normal or pass for intelligent, to lure in victims. It’s vapid trivia masquerading as knowledge.
A dichotomous view of life that is too shallow to withstand scrutiny.
e.g. all men are rapists/assholes v. all women are whores/crazy.
The common denominator there….
See, they find it helpful to define themselves in terms of what they’re not.
They deny their Shadow Self and project it, it’s stereotypical they claim they’re incapable of that Evil Terrible Terrible Thing. But the Enemy is FULL of it, to bursting! It’s so obvious!
Race they belong to generally but self-loathing can present if encouraged.
Sexism is far more common because of parental issues.
So it’s the misogynist who says
“I’m not sexist, I just don’t trust or believe or respect women.”
For balance, the misandrist who says
“I’m not sexist, I just don’t like or rely on or hang around men.”
It can present in so many ways but they’re blind to it, having projected it far, far away from what they believe is physically possible.
Anyone who thinks it’s impossible to be sexist personally, ever, at any point, is living in a bubble. Prejudices exist in all humans.
Being suspicious of all women is dodgy, being suspicious of a seductive woman, taking a sudden, keen interest in you, as warned in the Bible, is common sense.
Being distrustful of all men is off, being distrustful of a man who is insincere and keeps pushing boundaries is survival instinct.
Sexists are just lazy. Within a race, there are too many personal similarities to claim a broad genetic danger.
The psychotic thing is obvious.
“The world hates women” and “The world hates men”.
Obvious bullshit, there’s moderate but clear evidence on both sides (balance) so neither sweeping statement is true. It’s another excuse. Not to try, to abuse the “enemy” group, to get perceived revenge yada yada.
The world hates (substitute for Self) so I am morally allowed to (do terrible, evil thing).
Like the #KillAllMen or Elliot murder spree fans.
It’s a selfish Crusaderism. If they clashed with that group, say SJW women to anti-SJW women, they’d hate that supposed group they claim to care about, the most of all. Thatcher gets the most hatred of any dead politician because she was a woman. In a sickening display, they got the radio to play “ding dong the witch is dead” on news of her demise. The working class loved her so the Left despise her. Great men and geniuses are envied most by omegas, they plot to literally kill people, other men are just last. It’s like Marx leeching off of Engels, a man who owned means of production. Marx lived off the blood of the worker happily.
These people are dangerous and abusive.
You love the sinner and punish the saint, you are evil. Defending deviants, rapists (of m/f), whatever it is specifically. This is not First World culture. This is childish and bitter. This is anti-justice.
“We’ll show them” they plot.
The world was right to reject them, really. That’s all they showed.