I KNOW WHAT I SAID. FIGHT ME, I READ THE WHOLE DSM AND ICD TO HOLD THESE OPINIONS. I EARN MY NERD RAGE HONEY.
The self-pity post-hoc rationalization is characteristic of BPD, along with the pattern of interpersonal self-destruction whenever they start to gain security and be happy (self-sabotage), and also constantly basing your entire identity off of random other people. That’s oddly specific. Also shown the other way in All About Eve and the recent lesbian queen film. The limerence is common to all creeps but normal people get it too, mostly kids with a strong nasty ‘crush’ because their brain is sludge. Rage at a fantasy for ‘not living up’ is criminal erotomania. Stalking is courtship disorder. BPDs cannot be single, they find the One and another one and another one…..
A psychopath would just plan to gaslight and rape her, no delusion. Maybe a grandiose ‘making the world better’ or ‘taking her down a peg/teaching a lesson’ dehumanization but no actual delusion about their actions. A Sociopath would rationalize it after the fact like ‘game’ (a trafficking term) to normalise and blame shift. It’s like you’ve never met these people.