Video: Why do women seem so thirsty?

You got it.

Then there are the ones who respond to sexy like a bitch in heat.

You know the two people you should call sexy? A stripper and your wife.

Why? It’s their JOB.

This applies to men as well, I find it really disrespectful when people drool over a man and call him sexy. It’s a person, not piece of meat. Is this a porn audition? No.

Education secret factor in divorce rates

I saw this mentioned again here

http://uk.businessinsider.com/type-of-marriage-end-in-divorce-eli-finkel-2017-10

and already knowing but yes, it’s true.

https://www.bls.gov/opub/mlr/2013/article/marriage-and-divorce-patterns-by-gender-race-and-educational-attainment.htm

Lower class people are marrying less.

They get divorced more when they do get married.

Uneducated people aren’t as happy in marriage.

I don’t think it’s fair to call these r-types because you can find them among the middle class hedonists too.

‘Educated’ people, let’s say middle class, haven’t been affected by recent changes in the MMP.
Their divorce rate is still low and they marry later. As previously mentioned, female education is the best predictor of low divorce risk. Where is your phony appeal to Bible now?

If you can’t afford to keep a wife, as it was called, you should never marry. It is heavily financial, a monetary yoke. Do you want masculine gender roles or not?

The biggest difference here is obviously as a proxy for IQ. College entrance has an IQ requirement.

http://uk.businessinsider.com/why-your-iq-strongly-influences-your-success-at-work-2017-10

  • A growing body of research suggests general cognitive ability may be the best predictor of job performance.
  • Social skills, drive, and personality traits such as conscientiousness matter, too.
  • Companies currently place a much greater emphasis on personality traits than on IQ.
  • It could be wise for companies to start measuring job candidates’ intelligence and personality traits, to get a more holistic picture of their potential.

Oh look, everything I’ve been saying.

We need more research including the HBD crowd.

Empathy in dating women

Higher EQ, maybe listen.

Guys, Here’s What It’s Actually Like To Be A Woman

Plenty of this is factually false like calling hook-ups “short term mating” to feel less like a manwhore, when that term refers to producing children, from a brief courtship, then abandonment and nothing else. Hence the mating part. It also assumes a man can understand women when you’d never see this article written the other way around, women are too sensitive to be that obnoxious. However, the physical risk is medical and true. Anyway, the fact it exists shows up a huge problem men used to understand: modern men lack empathy. They’re broken on it, defective in feeling and displaying it. They don’t even care for their country, family, one another or themselves. There’s a general callousness. It doesn’t come from women.

Minor note: Scientific misogyny is actually worse, because it deceives (everyone). Using big words and bluffing the findings won’t make you right. We still don’t live in that world. Anyone saying it’s easy doesn’t understand.

Women don’t really discuss their everyday problems because they are so common.

Either we expect to get disbelieved, told we should adopt male feelings (we’re not gay and that’s actually a good category argument for mansplaining) or the ever-present fear of harm. Not just physical harm but reputation damage (men gossip and it is vindictive), emotional harm from insults because broflake throws a mantrum and can’t handle rejection, those sort of things.

Confidence isn’t what they want, they want to act conceited and have everyone roll out the red carpet for their entitled ass. It doesn’t happen, narcissistic rage does. Do you want to be on the receiving end of that, for the crime of having a nice ass?

If it’s so scary to talk to the opposite sex (no), you wouldn’t do it. Nobody is forcing you. That’s your gender role and your personal expectations, nothing to do with women. Don’t blame us. We don’t want strangers coming up to us, and in my culture it used to be partially illegal and socially deeply frowned upon. Edwardian women used to be able to beat men with umbrellas for insulting our dignity, there was one newspaper clipping, and they’d frequently wear those gigantic hat pins to stab men on the Transport who got too fruity. Self-defence, legal as a gun should be.

The expectation women should think like men and men are objectively correct on the wholly subjective subject of feelings (not to mention another autonomous human being’s, the definition of possessive) is the reason a lot of those dating guru types are forever alone. Not just single but actively repellent. It’s gaslighting, like the friendzone fraud who keep trying to repeat until she gives in: you want me, I’m best for you, you’ll never do better. Well, that’s her decision and considering you only want her body, you’re averse to putting a ring on it and all you wanna do is bad things to it, you are totally wrong on all counts.

Women don’t work like that.

Again, I have to painstakingly explain this every time the subject of women comes up, you cannot ask a man how women think and assume he’s correct, you can’t even do that with a single woman, there’s a range of normal. Anecdotal fallacy, please stop.

Women don’t work like that.

They are not the same.

This is good, this is fine, this is biological.

Yet the idiots claim women are just as lustful as men, if not more (ignore the rarity of male hookers) and cannot be trusted (look at abuse and crime stats, just look).

With exceptional cognitive dissonance, they go on to say women are aliens and need to be treated in various subhuman ways because it isn’t abuse if they secretly like it, according to the abuser?

On a purely intellectual and logical basis, they are full of shit.
That’s the mindset and behaviour of a misogynist (and yes, the sexes reverse).
Simplest explanation? Occam’s Razor?
The men who are bad with women never consider the fact the entire sex is seeing them clearly and they are in fact bad. Bad prospects, bad at being men and bad suitors. We evolved for this, we evolved to spot this and swerve. All that shit you complain about, the coldness to a total stranger, lying about having a boyfriend, fake numbers and names, the flaking, it’s to get enough distance so by the time the rejection kicks in you can’t kick us. This is good and sensible and right, you’re a spoiled entitled brat if you expect random women to just trust you, randomly. Trust takes years to develop. Instead they say whatever’s convenient to their feelings (actually ego, they don’t really have feelings that aren’t self involved), because the probability of getting punched by a man you rejected (it happens) is totally the same as hearing a word you needed to hear a long time ago and will never take for an answer.

If you don’t respect no, you’ll never hear a real Yes.

This is your fault, as instigator and then disrespecting the etiquette involved in trying to chat someone up.

In an era of acid attacks for rejection and shootings for pathetic scum like Elliot, women are right to avoid men until further notice. Nobody is entitled to approval. Nobody is entitled to respect, but in public, there is a line, there is a wall everybody deserves to be respected, the perimeter of personal space.

Women approaching other women in public is weird and even that isn’t sexual. We made it illegal for charity workers to harass us in public so no, Nice Guy act won’t work.

Women are not like porn. Porn stars themselves need to be paid to act like that. Even they aren’t like that. You’d think this is obvious, but no.

They never treat men like dirt by the way, because they know they’d get hit if they talked all that shit.

If women catch onto this intellectually, there’s apparently something wrong with us.

Nope, you all look dumb, and it’s nothing to do with us. Stop acting black and pull your pants up.
They never mention all those workplace deaths are typically hubris.
Better known as vainglory.

Look at the long term mate choice studies.
What do women want? Empathy. (Search terms conscientiousness and agreeableness, yes, ALL women, huge studies).

What do you refuse to develop? Empathy. You have only yourselves to blame and no, a ‘condition’ doesn’t change the facts. You can develop coping mechanisms to be considerate, you just don’t want to, you don’t see the point. Aspergers for example, is about as bad as sociopathy. We don’t have to sign up for that. You are not a child to mind. You need the basics down.

What do people have in scant amounts for you? Empathy. They can sense you don’t give a shit about them so why bother? It’s the golden rule, not that you’re smart enough to see the flipside, making rape jokes and wondering why nobody trusts you don’t spike your drinks.

Update: See this guy?

https://www.indy100.com/article/woman-summed-up-why-men-never-understand-female-twitter-flowers-address-7987681

Don’t be this guy. The one pretending a creepy man is just being ‘nice’.
Why are the dumbest men so cocky? What are you feeding them America?

The one completely missing the point that stalkers can and do rape and kill. A gay man should’ve asked for comparison.

Which causes more damage in society, the errant pen or the stupid penis?

Saviour complex and toxic relationships

Something I don’t want to mock, excellent!
You’d think for the part of the internet that goes on, and on, and ON about victim complex, they’d also cover literally the other half?

https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/10/savior-complex-toxic-relationship/

“If you want to be the savior, you’re essentially saying to your partner that you see them as a project to be fixed.

Even if the challenge of their flaws isn’t the primary reason you’re attracted to them and even if they want your help, it still sends the message that you think they need to improve and better themselves somehow.

First of all, you’re dating someone, not flipping a house. You might convince them to make minor lifestyle changes, but you can’t expect them to completely overhaul themselves. It’s a little bit condescending to treat them as your personal pet project.

Unless you’re at least psychologically healthy, don’t. Sick people make other sick people even sicker.

Maybe they do want to make changes. Maybe they do have a certain goal in mind. That’s great. Allow them to accomplish something on their own. You can support them without spoon-feeding them.”

Don’t throw off the power dynamic, it’s unhealthy and neither one will be happy.

“You’re their partner, not their parent.”

And there it is.
Paging Doctor Freud…

“Second of all, your partner might be perfectly fine with the way they are and not want to make any changes. If you look for flaws as a means of finding a purpose or direction for the relationship, that speaks more to issues you might want to address within yourself.”

This is a male problem in particular. Hoe > Housewife? Hoe isn’t short for housewife.
They’re a person, they aren’t a broken car. Fix, repair, review are not words you apply to people.
You need to like them and they need to relax and be human around you without panicking you’re jotting a performance review in your head.

You may laugh but I’ve seen a lot of men do just that and wonder why every woman resents them. They intellectualize their controlling tendencies for ego. Golden rule, dudes. They never ‘improve’ other men.

Rescuers have a condition, the expectation you’ll save them back. In abundance of their effort.
It isn’t altruistic unless you mean the pathological kind. It’s calculating and dishonest.
This is why you pay therapists, the motive to help is clear.

If one person is Dad, but Tyrannical Dad, and always right, you’re wrong to be with them. They don’t want a relationship, they don’t want to relate and be vulnerable, they want an assistant.
If they can’t see themselves clearly, they can’t see you over their issues.

“Your partner is not your therapist, nor are they obligated to heal your past wounds.”
^This.

Where do they learn this? Ally McBeal?
I’ve seen men complain woman B, C, D… was evil because they didn’t ‘prove’ they were different from woman A. That’s an issue with woman A. Your issue. Especially if she’s your mother. Without woman A, you’d see those others clearly. They’ll never fix it or admit they seek rescue because it would mean being humble and accepting weakness or wounds. Avoiding help isn’t impressive, ’tis but a scratch, right?
Don’t get me started on the ones so jaded and terrible they’ve managed to turn the greatest thing in LIFE, into a child’s game.
Better to punch yourself in the nuts repeatedly, it’d hurt less.

Even if you do save them, what then? You have nothing in common anymore.

If they’re perfect, why would they stick around with you, the one who thought they were broken, instead of moving onto someone better? Objectively better.

Why hate on fairytales? The originals were hardcore. Anyone who believes the Disneyfied versions is already too simple to educate.

Never listen to the dregs

comment credit _svd

Why would you listen to drags on anything, anyway? Majority of modern men are shite, that’s why historically 60% of our kind (and 20% women) never procreated during sexual free market of pre-agriculture, and that’s why we are so mad about forming hierarchies. But now, we are weak, spoiled brats, even the best of us. And of course that means that women are shite too. You can’t lower the standards for half the species; men and women constantly involved into mutual conditioning.

It is too easy for the boys. Boys must never have it easy, or they will stay boys forever.

We shouldn’t listen to the dregs and keep our banners high. They always back-rationalise their losership. “Women are not ladies, hence I’m not interested, hence the fact that they ignore me is ok, because I wouldn’t accept their attention anyway”. Yeah, right.

Women are no longer obedient housewives from 1950s, rushing to make you that sandwich wearing only an apron (you can remember your grandma, right? Was she ANYWHERE close to that?)? I hear you pain, pal, you being a man from 1950s, who muddled through Great Depression with a wife and three kids, and now got back straight from your voluntary shift on Normandy beaches with a shrapnel in you hand only to see no decent women around!

Weak; and soft; and spoiled; and bitter; and entitled. All of us.

I finally worked through my backlog of comments from pre-hols. Another few slipped through the suspicious net.

The majority were lovely but the few crazies Missing The Point remind me why I hate the internet. No test for use. It’s always the posts about psychiatry and abuse that bring out the crazies. Never post about BPD or ADD or domestic abuse or sexual harassment unless you’re prepared to confront true cray.

It’s worth it for the smart ones.

I commented: They refuse to accept the duties with maturity. Adulthood means parenthood. Ready to screw, ready to follow through.

_svd

Well, The Pill and abortion tipped the balance here.

But then again it only applies if you are a “tis not fair!!!!!1!” kind of … ma… male.

My thoughts on this: men rarely have any deep ambitions of our own to follow and mature on the way. Most often, we have to be pushed by our needs, maturing during interaction with harsh environment (i.e. mass-poverty until 60s or so) and by fulfilling enforced obligations (early marriage as a social expectation; caring about your elders and siblings – and of course of yourself).

But now there’s nothing of it left. What’s in place though is:
* parental support well into late 20s – because your parents only have you – and maybe one more, but not 12; and they can afford to work in their 60s. Mine kicked me out of the door at 15 (to Uni), and stop paying my rent at 19, when I took a part-time job.
* sexual liberation: she’ll put out for nice set of pecs and abs; you don’t have to really be masculine, just apply some masculinity make up – fake self-confidence, learned ZFG attitude and ripped muscles from local gym. She’ll see through it after a month, sure, but you’d be tapping next ass by then. All in all – no commitment have to be paid to acquire sex. Girls screwed the role of being the gatekeepers to sex with nice “if you want to be a ‘housewife’ in your 30s, you’ll have to start with ‘ho’ in your teens” model they’ve been provided with by “society”.
* massive welfare state that picks up the smithereens. People are bailed out of the consequences of their bad choices – so they keep doing more o them.

You need to add some real stress to the system to change the pattern. And it will probably take a few decades.

Lovebombing in romantic connections

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/reading-between-the-headlines/201703/the-manipulative-partners-most-devious-tactic

This isn’t news and I’ve mentioned it before.

The article mentions narcissists and sociopaths as typical predators who use this technique.

Yes, it’s also a PUA one.

However, many sociopaths are actually misdiagnosed borderlines and male borderlines try to control when their fear of abandonment kicks in. In effect, the lovebombing is a bribe – how can you leave me after all I did for you?

Sounds a little better when they re-tell it than:
I won’t let you leave!
We’ll be together forever!*

They miss out their long list of conditions, “*as long as you put up with my…..”.

That’s not love, folks.

It’s just a form of compulsive lying.

It uses romance (courtship gestures, that have requirements, they aren’t empty displays like Americans think) to get close to a person, in their head actually.

They’re the guys who went around claiming to be Nice, when they really mean – manipulating with flowers, like the classic deadbeat husband that buys flowers every time he cheats. It’s the reason women are suspect to ‘nice’ guys. If they’ve gotta tell ya… force that belief in through a wedge… our EQ kicks in.
Their defense is flawless, to other parties, the fault lies with you for rejecting their affection – what’s wrong with you? Society tells you these displays are always wanted, good and sincere. Well, Disney tells us that, it teaches us romance is guileless.

Ha.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201707/6-common-traits-narcissists-and-gaslighters

It’s a type of gaslighting, forcing certain beliefs into them.

i.e.

If they’re your soulmate, surely you don’t have to convince them?

If you have a long future to look forward to, then you’ll be around to plan it, you don’t need to keep mentioning it?

It’s cult behaviour but between two people.

You believe this, yes? You believe this because We believe this.

Note one party loses their identity but the other gets to retain their individuality, full freedoms and gain a newfound sense of control over the other…. that isn’t love, that’s slavery.