This discussion is important. Why are the number of claims in excess of the real ill?
- Absolution of responsibility.
- Victim cred, can be exchanged for a career as Professional Victim.
- A bulletproof excuse.
- Argument winner (that’s low, mentally ill people are conflict-avoidant in the first place).
n.b. The people who went to a therapist in good faith, told the truth and were among the overdiagnosed who actually have nothing wrong with themselves? You have my sympathy. You were let down. You should be glad you aren’t ill, you don’t have a disease. The therapist in a position of trust let you down, they weren’t being objective and you should consider suing, especially if you were on harmful medications. I don’t address you herein. You go away, you do you honeys. I’m here if you wanna vent.
The people who think it’s like picking out sweets to excuse their personal failings going through the DSM and self-diagnosing, with no training or background, who refuse to see a professional or listen to someone objective or lie to the therapist? For personal gain? No personal suffering unless you count being insufferable to those around you? Fuck you. That’s disgusting. It’s the mental equivalent of pretending to be disabled.
Most people can’t be mentally ill. The abnormal cannot be the norm, it’s an oxymoron and mathematically impossible.
Often, the fakers, ignoring Munchausen which would be deeply ironic, present their character flaws as a clinical problem because they were raised to rely upon the authority of the Medical Model instead of their parents. This is why Freud started out as a surgeon and brought in childhood stuff, recently validated in epigenetics.
However, your past doesn’t excuse your present if you aren’t literally ill. Medical test, brain scan ill. Positive psychology is for normal people who want to self-improve, the self-improvement sector stems from this line of theoretical thought. You aren’t ill, you’re capable of change and your brain is plastic. Well done.
Those with the temerity to self-diagnose (ignoring the people whose parasites gaslight them into believing they’re ill for personal gain, those parasite people in your social sphere might be ill themselves ironically) even avoid the clinical responsibility to work on their “disorder”. This is vital. A mental illness causes suffering. You want to do the work. For years. Decades. Forever. You want the pain to stop. You want to be “better”. Absence of this desire (barring anhedonia, you can test for) is …alarming.
Patients have as much responsibility for their condition as their therapist. This is what they mean by “You have to want XYZ” because you work together, you work with them. This differs from regular medicine unless you count the niche of lifestyle factors, and the fakes have trouble with this fact for obvious reasons. They hate standards.
Mental illness is for life, and then comes the liar’s rejection of the whole shebang because hard work is hard.
They skip appointments out of laziness, they refuse medication knowing and sometimes openly complaining it does nothing (regular patients want it to do something). Having any illness and following any prescribed work is hard work, and you can spot those people like red flags in a sea of white when they start acting up with their character flaws and pretending to be without agency when it’s convenient (a chorus of – I can’t! I can’t! I can’t!) or that they can’t be at fault or blamed for anything because Condition. Real mentally ill people are mortified at this abuse of their illness for expedience and never do it. This is a known problem when they take on too much, refusing to acknowledge the limits of their condition from pure motive: they try too hard. Often for the sake of loved ones. Sometimes they break down and grudgingly admit their condition was the cause of some problem or perceived failing, but surely observers can see the difference between the real deal and the fakes?
Some bad therapists use these fake people like cash cows, knowingly diagnosing them to either 1. make them go away foisted onto someone else or 2 make money off the diagnosis (yes, they do) and the pills (whether they’re taken or not). This is part of the reason we have personality disorders, treated in spite of the acknowledgement they can never be treated (go team logic). Essentially, their job is to stop the character flaws harming those around the cause, nothing about protecting the cause themselves.
Around the Turn of the Century, psychology went from discussion of character to personality. Personality is often nonsense, useful for hiring and other practical applications but clinically invalid. Character is about building up and working on skills and yourself. It’s a maturation process of growth anathema to the Millennials this in-authenticity afflicts in particular. The 20th century chose the easier convenience approach to Self and has been regretting it ever since. It doesn’t bloody work.
A great therapist hurts your feelings for your own good.
That is their job. They don’t tiptoe around your problems so you’ll be a good feeding trough. They want results.
They aren’t an adult nanny. They aren’t Mary Poppins of the Mind. You aren’t supposed to like them, that’s child psychologists for literal children (owing to the lack of maturation again).
They have more in common with Hannibal Lecter. They will go deeper into your psyche than you are comfortable with and extract the worst pain, watch you cry, be truly vulnerable, then comfort you and help you move on from it productively. You become a better person in their hands because they force you to become one, they mold you into a better version of yourself.
Yeah that’s all I can say on the subject of fakery without getting angry and unprofessional.