Video: Cult psychology and lovebombing

Fight Club was about a cult, actually. Only a heavily insecure person would long for that as Family. There’s no security, it’s self-loathing – the talk.

There’s no such thing as seduction though, it’s a word Hollywood uses to excuse their abuses. The definition is a person doing what they do not want to – that’s non-consensual. Narcissists and cults do not respect you, nor your No, it’s abuse and the coercion is sadistic humiliation. The hunt – predatory.

Seduction is historically demonic.

This is why we can’t have nice things

>Women look like women, normally.
>Harassment and stalking, male superficiality and baseness.

Pick one.

Nobody thinks you really want the number or a chat.
There’s only one type of woman that gets solicited in the street, everyone knows it’s an insult.

Anything less than full androgyny is not hooker attire.
Looking female =/= sexual? The most matronly women have worn skirt, dress or heels. It’s a cultural norm.

Don’t talk to strangers.

Not just etiquette for kids!

It is still weird to solicit (actual word meaning) strangers in the street for any purpose, whatever American comedians tell you. Some of us are raised better. Instant bad impression, whoever you are.

She missed out the schizo verbal abuse when you try to politely, passively avoid the pervert interrupting your day.

Imagine if someone at a bus stop called you a bastard for not talking to them. Multiple times a day.
Men would be horrified. Oh, and you can’t physically defend yourself or pepper spray them, and their revolting hands might grope you…

Because they liked your “outfit”.

Gee, why do so many women dress like shit, wear huge coats in public, avoid men or get fat?

Maybe…. men’s behaviour had something, some tiny, little, fleeting influence on that?

Ask yourself: is this something ghetto trash would do?

If so, never ever do it!

You know, if a woman likes you, she can talk to you first?

Or a hey if she didn’t notice you and you’re in the same place for a while?

Avoid the circle of personal space. She can close the gap.

If she keeps it short, move along. A minimal response is basic politeness, savoir vivre.

You never see men’s mags say “15 signs she isn’t interested”.

Subtitle: and how to make a classy exit.

This would be useful.

It explains the entirety of the problem, forcing a reaction (abuse). Kinda like putting your job interviewer in a headlock. One step down from kidnapping.

So what you really have in most cases are men with no idea how an adult is supposed to behave, think you can “tease” people like in school, and worst of all, that think you can talk someone into fancying them.

The fat girls can’t do it, neither can you. Nice guy = great personality. No.

Men over-estimate their attractiveness, excessively. Not fancying you isn’t a personality flaw, it should be expected (most humans don’t fancy most humans), especially when you’re enraged about it. Doesn’t strike the casual observer as sane.

Whether someone is single doesn’t matter. Maybe, just maybe, they aren’t a slut?
Look at the statistics, young people are sleeping around less than their elders.

Why?

Those elders (Boomers, Gen X, some Y) and the young vibrants that think porn is real constantly being lecherous at them might have something to do with it. Women do not work like men. Random compliments make us feel worse. We weren’t thinking about how we looked and suddenly this sleaze has an opinion, feels entitled to tell me and thinks I should respond to it?

Like a literal magic word? (how stupid do they think women are?)

Like insincere compliments are hard to get?

Bad compliments are insults.

Why?

They make a heap of degrading assumptions.

For instance, women wear “woman” clothes because actually, they’re physically practical! A low neckline ventilates a hot bust! A breezy skirt prevents thighs from chafing (even in thin, non-anorexic women). Do I have to explain the sweat benefits of sleeveless?

Women already know this, ask women you know about the practical reasons for wearing clothes. It has nothing to do with men and entirely what we like. Not melting in summer is among them. Women probably stopped fainting because we could get some sweet, sweet breeze circulation!
If you had two globules of fat on your chest overheating your core body temperature, like a heat pad on your heart [1], you’d want low-cut tops as well. In the Victorian era, this was understood to be the only part you could bare – for practical reasons! Nothing to do with showing off or sex. You’re a perv.

Lingerie ads tell men what we wear has anything to do with them. Not really.

Some women try to dress to avoid male attention and need to wear deodorant under the boobs. Some women with large ones, all over. All over the boob. Sexy, right?

Most women hate compliments because most are from strangers, shallow, rude and poorly thought out.

Street harassment is totally okay if we’re allowed to pepper spray or shoot them.
Since women are the physically weaker sex and a random guy walking up to anyone, m/f, is threatening. Whoever they are. When they seem interested in taking things, willing or not, suspicions are confirmed.

It’s like lending a mugger your wallet. No, we don’t want to “talk”/give a #/”go out”.

We want to walk down a public street, in public, as an unmolested member of the public.

Huge ask, I know.

Walking down a street isn’t an invitation to impose yourself on anyone – man/woman/child.

Think how weird it would be to a man or child. No less weird to a woman.

This used to be standard protocol throughout the entire First World until the 20th century.

I think a lot of you would be shocked by how polite I am IRL. Self restraint is important.

Observation:

If you compare the way schoolboys harass and intimidate one another, it’s exactly the same with street creeps.
Invasion of personal space, cutting off avenue of escape, forced conversation, rude comments, stupid questions, illegal touching, acting like you’re the one with the problem.

[1] do that experiment, internet! Men could not last more than an hour.

The irritating fact of boob ownership is in winter, you lose heat from them.

WHO DESIGNED THIS?

Link: Sexual coercion

http://what-when-how.com/interpersonal-violence/coerced-sexual-initiation/

It isn’t about “inhibitions”, like not being a tart is a bad thing, it’s about the ability to resist.

“not currently included in the legal definition of rape” False, it’s always been under seduction law.

Telling people what we should be told as children is great because everyone loves you except for the rapists, who out themselves in the process of complaining about warning people how to spot abuse.

Maybe…. don’t abuse? Then you won’t get “falsely accused” of it?
An accusation isn’t false because it happens to you, narc. (They reinterpret reality. Called gaslight.)

Sexual coercion can easily turn into rape, because if one No isn’t good enough, they won’t listen to dozens more either.

What is Pathological Altruism?

Old but gold. A lot of new people won’t have seen this.

The gist of the concept? To assist the outgroup at the expense of the ingroup.
To ‘help’ in such a way that objectively and permanently hurts.
Where soft-heartedness becomes sadism.
Where conscientiousness becomes toxic and kindness, abusive.
Compassion as harm or self-harm. Self-loathing is part of it, a socially desirable means of self-destruction.
The self-righteous people who virtue signal, are covered in her book specifically.

This lady wrote the book. The seminal intellectual standard on the topic.

It has its own wikipedia page:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pathological_Altruism

Chapter 1 sample:

http://barbaraoakley.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/000Chapter-1-Pathological-Altruism-Oakley-Knafo-McGrath.pdf

It’s an official academic book published by Oxford University Press.

Can’t get more legitimate than that, can you? Read it, keep it, it’s a classic.

Gift it to Guardian readers if you’re feeling salty.

Best Amazon review:

Of particular interest to me, as a clinical psychologist, is how the information in this book illustrates the phenomenon of infantalizing people or otherwise restricting their emotional growth which then renders them, from a developmental standpoint, perpetual adolescents and thus pathologically dependent on others. The research provided by the multiple contributors to this amazing book provides very convincing, if not concrete, examples of doing for adults what they can do for themselves, and how it harms them for a lifetime. It also covers the areas where narcissistic individuals, to include doctors, lawyers, psychologists, social workers, and politicians, “do for others” against the others’ wishes. To infantilize someone the process is simple: Take over or dismiss their decision making process, remove personal responsibility, remove lessons or consequences for life choices, and then blame other people or institutions for the disastrous personal choices one makes. As well, to continue to save someone from him or herself is the primary construct of the infantalization process. The targets of pathological “care” never learn to adapt to life’s slings and arrows, they never learn critical thinking skills, and they remain vulnerable, controllable, and dependent on others for their daily life decisions. This incredible book describes the process thoroughly. It should be required reading in any university “helping profession” curriculum as well as for every politician in office. To those who insist on cradle to grave “caring” of others, you may need therapy after reading this book.

Comic: Assault and attention

No, it isn’t a witch hunt of alleged abusers because it isn’t one group, a collective, it’s only a temporary cluster that actually slots into guilty/innocent. A group would be abuse victims and statistically they make the bulk of accusers (liars of both sexes are rare and should be punished). A witch hunt requires the party is 100% innocent at all times. This is mostly European history so can Americans stop murdering our historical term. This English term doesn’t just mean scapegoat, it’s very loaded and again, even scapegoats if you look at the history, are blemish-free.

It isn’t just men, it isn’t just straight men and it isn’t just public figures.
That’s kind of the point here.
Anyone can be a victim, anyone can be an abuser. Is it anyone’s fault for the prevalence data? Only the abusers.

Should the courts handle it?

Yes.

Will they?

No.

Arbitration agreements aren’t meant to apply to criminal abuses but I’m sure some American will write it in.
It’s making headlines because it’s been known for a fact for many years.
That’s the shocking part. Should it be? No. It should’ve been carried to justice soon as it happened, but there’s no deadline on justice. There shouldn’t be. The victims, male/female, old/young, have to live with that. In the First World, we try not to let criminals get away with it because they’re rich and powerful (even niche industry power).

We have an opportunity to prove ourselves and predictably, the shallow internet narcissists are making it about them. You people make me sick.

There’s no way to win.

If you have a nervous breakdown, your testimony is crazy and can’t be trusted. (Sorry, are we under Sharia law?)
If you keep calm, you must be lying (that isn’t how body language or liars work, genius).
I would call them Freud wannabes but he was smart and actually over-diagnosed abuse because he had a soul, he had a mind to help and didn’t want to miss anyone in need.. They are technical bigots, not caring for the truth if it leaves a bitter taste. They’re always playing Cynic, the chronically miserable bring it on themselves.
Does theft cease to exist because of insurance scams?
Each case should be considered individually and anyone who thinks otherwise has no human compassion and can go to Hell. Gaslighting is itself a form of abuse and compassion isn’t one-sided. Could there be false accusations? Given the circumstances, no, and if so, the litigiousness of America will ensure they get plenty in a lawsuit plus extensive media coverage. It hasn’t happened because the only ones outed were open secrets, protected by their power. The story isn’t abuse, that’s sadly common; it’s the fact the beautiful people suffered it too.

Hardly the same as everyday assault but we assume celebrities are protected.

Sneering at them because they have something you want is low.

Be hopeful!

Any abuser can be brought to justice. This is great news for everyone.

It is also a good sign the gaslighters, presuming insanity of people they never met, are scared. They should be, there’s nowhere to hide their despicable games on people.