Porn ruins marriages

It ruins your pair bond. Accept it and forgo use (you shouldn’t need medically and do not need psychologically) or don’t complain when you’re a bitter divorcee. A crack addiction is less harmful to marriages than a porn one because crack addicts admit they have a problem and society (including marriage counselors!) doesn’t tell them it’s good for them! A marriage is literally a pair bond enforced with sexual monogamy, there is nothing else. That is what the religious vow and the law bind. They bind the two individuals before there is a bond between them and the marriage is the bond’s maintenance.

It’s considered the man’s duty to keep a marriage good because they are the ones sexually performing. If they cannot perform and maintain the bond, if they are impotent, what marriage is there exactly? This was the Catholic Church’s position!

How does porn ruin marriage? [I hate these posts, might stop doing them.]

https://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=4081&context=etd

It’s unnatural.

Porn user = Incompetent husband. (I’d say the same thing about an addicted wife). You should be working out any kind of sexual energy on the spouse, that’s their role. At least, masturbate in private and not directing those vital energies outside the marital bed.

The male typical skills valued in the marriage are lost.

“her male partner’s low engagement, responsiveness, and accessibility in their relationship was predicted by his pornography use”

Insecure attachment predicts divorce, it can literally simulate a damaged childhood.

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/committed-relationship-youre-wired-for-it

The vital point is that our pair bonding penchant arises from physiological events, not mere social conditioning. It evolved from the infant-caregiver mechanism, and the two mechanisms still overlap in the brain’s reward circuitry. So, even though many Westerners appear to be caught up in a chaotic hook-up culture for the moment, it doesn’t mean that we humans are, by nature, as promiscuous as bonobo chimps or that pair-bonding inclinations are superficial cultural constructs.”

The Sexual Revolution was a lie and water is wet.

“In short, if you are hooking up with multiple partners purely for recreation you could be an outlier. Your behavior is not typical human behavior—a point that is easily overlooked by Western researchers.”

Low historical rates of cuckoldry in Western European genetic ancestry
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/comment/3650#comment-3650

Suck it, most men and women are NOT cheats and neither were their ancestors.

Honour culture wasn’t a farce.

https://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2275&context=etd

It’s an addiction, a valid reason to terminate a marriage, Biblical adultery aside.
The heart of all addictions is selfishness.

“Online sexual activities, including pornography use, have drastically increased in recent
years. Many studies have examined the impact that pornography use can have on marriages and
families. One of the key findings has been that pornography use can negatively impact trust in
relationships. This study focused on understanding the mechanisms involved when a husband’s
pornography use negatively impacts his marital relationship and his wife’s emotional well-being

That’s called emotional abuse.

The selfishness of addiction is such that they will always expect it to go one way. Of course, when you’re married you are no longer an individual and this is why selfishness becomes the worst possible sin. What you take for yourself, you take from your spouse.

A taste of their own medicine may be warranted, since that’s the one way the stupider men can learn if all else fails.

If the woman wants to teach him what it’s like, just flirt with any man more attractive than him when he’s around and tell him it isn’t your fault, it’s evolution. Or sitting there ogling pictures of Channing Tatum in that stripper film, maybe frame it on a wall and stare.

He can’t get defensive, the guy isn’t really there, in the bedroom.

Or masturbate to gay porn where both men are better looking than he is.
It’s just porn, right? No big deal, no reason to get upset. It’s just energy he was never going to require from you anyway, right? It isn’t like you owe him 100% as part of the marriage thing or there’s less to go around for him or there’s an insult against him personally in the act at all. Right?

“(1) a breakdown of expectations and assumptions central to the marriage, (2) a sense of distance or disconnection from their husband and (3) a general sense of being emotionally and psychologically unsafe and insecure in their relationship. Further, it was found that loss of trust was greatly influenced by the sexual nature of pornography and the deceit surrounding its use. These two factors combined to produce a loss of secure attachment, particularly for attachment-oriented and attachment-idealizing wives, who hold the belief that pornography use is not appropriate.”

You don’t get to change the rules after they were agreed upon. You show me one woman who would marry a porn addict if she knew that beforehand.

It’s cheating, the brain doesn’t know the difference. A man who needs porn to get it up or orgasm is impotent, by dictionary definition.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/impotence
http://www.dictionary.com/browse/impotence

It also used to mean lack of restraint (like a man who cheats…) because the husband’s energy is directed outside the marital unit.

https://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=3946

It’s poor performance with a real life woman, the wife in this case.

“A common problem among men characterized by the consistent inability to sustain an erection sufficient for sexual intercourse or the inability to achieve ejaculation, or both. Impotence can vary.

So if they can’t get it up to their wife, but they can still do it to a mistress or porn, they are still impotent. This is basic medical fact. They can train other circuits but there is still an impaired circuit, the only important one.

It can involve a total inability to achieve an erection or ejaculation, an inconsistent ability to do so, or a tendency to sustain only very brief erections.”

That performance failure of male duty used to be sufficient reason to get divorced when the Catholic Church was in power, that’s how major it is.
The man’s sexual function in a marriage is more important than the wife’s participation. To blame the woman for his chosen addiction is weak.
If he can’t get it up, that’s his body. She isn’t controlling it Svengali style. He needs a doctor.

“Overall, it was found that a husband’s involvement with pornography can result in a lack of emotional, psychological, and physical availability and responsiveness, and a decrease in closeness and intimacy.”

Exactly the same result as literally going out and screwing those women. Note the type of porn they watch is intended for you to replace the male “actor”, it’s psychological cheating.

It’s voyeurism too, would voyeurism IRL not be cheating somehow?

Masturbation isn’t so much the problem, masturbation and pornography use/addiction are completely separate things.
If he can’t masturbate without porn, which is almost always the case… he has a problem.

“Interacting with the impact of deceit, a spouse’s pornography use clearly provides ample opportunity for the breakdown of secure attachment at a level that can be classified as an attachment rupture or trauma.”

Same result as literal adultery. HD videos trick the brain into treating events as real. It’s worse than real actually, it’s a supernormal stimulus. He wouldn’t film himself screwing one of those women, would he? No, that would seem extreme…..

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/10720160903202679
The term emotional infidelity is useful here.

Love and cherish?

“Analyses uncovered three attachment-related impacts from husbands’ pornography use and deception: (1) the development of an attachment fault line in the relationship, stemming from perceived attachment infidelity; (2) followed by a widening attachment rift arising from wives’ sense of distance and disconnection from their husbands; (3) culminating in attachment estrangement from a sense of being emotionally and psychologically unsafe in the relationship. Overall, wives reported global mistrust indicative of attachment breakdown.

Well, escalation involves going out and literally re-enacting it. So yes, practice?
If a spouse practiced murdering you for fun, you’d feel less safe. This abandonment threat is very real and backed up by all metrics, as you’ll see.

Building on this data, we build an attachment-informed model of effects of pornography use and concomitant deception in the pair-bond relationship.”

Pornography is literally clinically damaging to the user.
It does cause ED (PC term for impotence, amazing how men resent un-PC terms on anything relating to them…)

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5039517/

“Traditional factors that once explained men’s sexual difficulties appear insufficient to account for the sharp rise in erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, decreased sexual satisfaction, and diminished libido during partnered sex in men under 40.”

Alterations to the brain’s motivational system are explored as a possible etiology underlying pornography-related sexual dysfunctions.”

Aforementioned training of responses.

“This review also considers evidence that Internet pornography’s unique properties (limitless novelty, potential for easy escalation to more extreme material, video format, etc.) may be potent enough

I see what you did there. Subtle. I like it.

to condition sexual arousal to aspects of Internet pornography use that do not readily transition to real-life partners, such that sex with desired partners may not register as meeting expectations and arousal declines.”

Husband’s sexual failure. He might as well cut it off, as far as his wife’s concerned, because he’s preventing her from working with it by breaking its healthy function.
She literally cannot do her job, far from it being her fault.
He also makes his own satisfaction impossible, which is deserved all things considered.

It’s like a cocaine user complaining their nose doesn’t work.

Cause and effect doesn’t stop at particles, mate.

“Clinical reports suggest that terminating Internet pornography use is sometimes sufficient to reverse negative effects, underscoring the need for extensive investigation using methodologies that have subjects remove the variable of Internet pornography use.

Translation: they don’t want to look “sex negative” i.e. medically realistic.

If a sex therapist tells you to use porn to spice up your marriage, run.
They make more money off divorced sluts, remember!

I mean, if Elon can be turned off by Amber, this is some major shit we’re dealing with here. Impotence isn’t really a laughing matter. Okay, maybe one prod…

Hardness! Hardness! My billions for some consistent hardness!

Had to get that out of my system. In many cases, the original cause is guilt and the outcome is depression. Since the cause is guilt, the depression is never resolved. Therapists are pussies in this century.

In the interim, a simple diagnostic protocol for assessing patients with porn-induced sexual dysfunction is put forth.”

Translation: we know it’s bad but we don’t know what to do.

Porn addiction and brain damage


https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3050060/

A significant postulate of this commentary is that all addictions create, in addition to chemical changes in the brain, anatomical and pathological changes which result in various manifestations of cerebral dysfunction collectively labeled hypofrontal syndromes. In these syndromes, the underlying defect, reduced to its simplest description, is damage to the “braking system” of the brain. They are well known to clinical neuroscientists, especially neurologists and neurosurgeons, for they are also seen with tumors, strokes, and trauma. Indeed, anatomically, loss of these frontal control systems is most apparent following trauma, exemplified by progressive atrophy of the frontal lobes seen in serial MRI scans over time.”

In short, no, they cannot make the decision for themselves to continue its use.
That’s like letting a suicidal person cut themselves, also an addiction.

No, they are not allowed that choice. It isn’t a choice. They have to stop.

I know it’s hard. Or at least it would be, if they’d stop.

Compare it to a bad sex diet.

http://alfredadler.edu/sites/default/files/May%20MP%202015.pdf

” Ironically, a common correlate of pornography use has been found to be a damaged marital sex life.”

No, it makes them worse lovers. Obviously it would, it’s calling doing it not watching it.

Porn has no educational value. There are books and damn, cartoons even depicting and describing positions. Women have no problem viewing those and magazines are full of them. You aren’t supposed to be distracting yourself with masturbation while studying.

“Elliott and Umberson (2008) investigated this very subject, the nature of sex in marriage, and found that 94% of their participants established that sex is a keystone and integral part of marital success; and furthermore, describe sex as a barometer of the health of their marriage.

No, it isn’t just orgasms. It isn’t just sex.

Consequently, marital sexuality also creates a context for potential harm where that vulnerability is not held by one spouse with complete fidelity and trustworthiness.

Porn’s purpose is clear, it’s cheating intellectually. It’s reverse cuckoldry, in a way. They get off, but on the fact they’re picturing themselves doing it with another, instead of actually viewing their Other with someone else. They’re poles apart but very similar.

“Many authors (Brezsnyak & Whisman, 2004; Regan, 2000: Sprecher, 2002; Leavitt & Willoughby, 2015) have found that sexual desire plays an integral role in the marital satisfaction. Consistently, respondents who perceive their marriage to be “happy,” report creating positive experiences within their relationships, tend to label sexual interactions as one way to facilitate and nurture closeness and intimacy with their partners (Impett, Strachman, Finkel, & Gable, 2008).”

My advice to those women is to stream gay porn constantly without doing anything. After all, it’s “entertainment”, like a film? No need to object.

I cannot be bothered to look up any more for now.
The fact this is a subject of discussion is ridiculous, none of you have bothered to look it up.

In medical terms, a thing is harmful until proven healthy. That’s never going to happen with porn but they tried.

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/10720160600870711?src=recsys

“A review of the research that does exist was undertaken and many negative trends were revealed. While much remains unknown about the impact of Internet pornography on marriages and families, the available data provide an informed starting point for policy makers, educators, clinicians, and researchers.”

Men are pathetic in direct proportion to their sexual desperation.

Porn is causing that, all the attributes of the pajama boy.

It weakens you as men.

Back to the under-covered attachment thing, briefly.

A few studies on how insecure attachment styles (like those caused by porn) make divorce almost a dead-cert. The marriage is over the first time you click online instead of turning to your spouse, really.

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1300/J087v31n01_07

“attachment style, as a personality trait, has implications for the higher divorce rate. The purpose of this study was to explore the relationship between attachment style and marrying multiple times. The findings indicate that multiple marriers are more likely to be avoidantly attached and less likely to be anxiously attached. Additionally, those marrying for the first time to a previously married person have similar insecure attachment Styles.”

Like attracts like.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3061469/

“Husbands’ lower initial level of marital satisfaction measured around the first child’s transition to school was the only significant predictor of marital dissolution.”

Yep, the dude’s fault again.

“In one study of dating relationships, Kirkpatrick and Hazan (1994) found that in a 4-year period, individuals with a secure attachment style had more stable and committed relationships than those with insecure attachment styles. A 31-year longitudinal study (Klohnen & Bera, 1998) revealed similar results.”

You might say, oh, but how do we know porn is making it worse? A fair objection. The methodology would be unpopular but ethical and possible. You study the child’s attachment when it forms and record it throughout the teens, also recording initiation into pornography addiction. If previously secure boys become insecurely attached men, porn is literally ruining men for women by reducing the husband qualities required.

Study women too, that’s fair. It’s just hardly any will statistically count as porn addicts.

If women are to follow their husbands in anything, they must feel supported.

 This study revealed that low levels of perceived spousal support among women characterized as ambivalent were associated with significant declines in marital satisfaction for both the women and their husbands.

Porn takes that away, as studies above show. This is not a minor point. It would be like going to a mechanic that hates cars or a hydrophobic plumber. If something’s wrong, you’d leave it to fester.

How does it work?

The woman senses this emptiness from the man first before he feels the effect on the pair bond between the two of them.

“Another possibility is that attachment security buffers against declines in marital satisfaction, such that the differences between secure and insecure individuals become larger over time.”

That one.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11584789

It would make sense to spot insecurity early and seek treatment. In a eugenic society.

However, a spouse who brings it on themselves merits no sympathy for the choice they know will harm their partner.

The second possibility (buffers) because insecure children also present problems that are consistent and grow over time.

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.1111/j.1744-1617.2010.01352.x

“insecure infants are at an increased risk for behavioral disturbances, poor peer relations”

I don’t think you can pin that on a spouse they don’t have?

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2741157/

This study extends the existing adult literature on insecure attachment as a predictor of depression and anxiety by examining these pathways in a sample of adolescents. In addition, dysfunctional attitudes and low self-esteem were tested as mediators of the association between insecure attachment and symptoms of depression and anxiety. Youth (N =350; 6th–10th graders) completed self-report measures of attachment, dysfunctional attitudes, self-esteem, and symptoms of depression and anxiety in a 4-wave prospective study. Results indicate that anxious and avoidant attachment each predicted changes in both depression and anxiety (after controlling for initial symptom levels). The association between anxious attachment, but not avoidant attachment, and later internalizing symptoms was mediated by dysfunctional attitudes and low self-esteem. Effects remained even after controlling for initial co-occurring symptoms.

Also no spouse to blame.

Imagine if women had some ailment with their mammary glands and blamed their husband. Impotent men who blame the wife are insane, it’s completely disconnected from reality.

In fact, improper attachment may contribute to mental diseases.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3266769/

Specifically, we review research findings showing that attachment insecurity is a major contributor to mental disorders, and that the enhancement of attachment security can facilitate amelioration of psychopathology.

Yes, they can make their spouse suffer. The personality changes caused by the porn are inherently abusive, more in common with a psychopath (psychopaths are almost entirely porn-addicted).

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.3402/tdp.v3.28647

It’s the brain.

Recent models have moved towards the incorporation of neurodevelopmental, biological and psychosocial approaches to human development. Consequently, there has been a significant conceptual shift, where social experience is currently seen to play a role in shaping the biology and genetic programming of human development,

hence any damage from minors viewing porn is at least somewhat permanent

This is not a church lady problem, it’s worse than drugging kids who hate school. Those seldom cause damage like that, it’s psychological circumcision. It’s horrifying. Addictions disable the mind.

The priming to bring in young boys too, by showcasing schoolgirls. The grooming element of that, imagine a parade of schoolboy porn*, the MRAs would have a field day. Imagine that was considered normal in society, how sick that society must be.

*If it does exist, don’t tell me. Please, I’ve suffered enough.

rather than the simple ‘unfolding’ of a predetermined sequence of developmental stages. In the case of human infants, developmental models need to account for the increasingly recognised contribution of the infant to the social environment and their capacity to interact with and shape environmental responses.

Training. Training their own brain by their chosen habits.

The resilience required of a spouse, especially a husband, is wanting.

http://scholarworks.lib.csusb.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1457&context=etd

 

“According to Sroufe (2000), securely attached children are fundamentally different from those classified as insecurely attached. At two years of age, they are more likely to be enthusiastic and persistent in solving easy tasks”

Useful in a marriage….

“Secure school-age children are more sympathetic to peer distress, more assertive about getting their needs met, more likely to be leaders, are better prepared for school”

Useful skills in a future husband.

insecure attachments (i.e., “attachment trauma”)

A child with a history of an insecure attachment may struggle with trusting the intentions and emotional responsiveness of others

So ironically they cause this in spouses with deceitful and demeaning behaviours (including requests of humiliating performance from the spouse to compete with literal whores) pushing them away to validate the paranoia. Yes, that’s what borderlines do too. It’s sadistic. They enjoy breaking people. Testing their limits, crushing their self-respect.

may learn to cope with stressful stimuli by inhibiting strong feelings

Cheating of any sort is a punishment to the existing spouse. Passive aggression is still aggression.

are more likely to have behavior problems, poor peer relations, and lack resilience

problems includes addictions, FYI

Resilience is the number one required quality in a husband.

Boys’ hedonism ruins them as men

I’ve been looking for this.

Yes, there’s even a GDP difference between Christians. They don’t dare mention other religions or the GDP connection to IQ (Protestants socially select the smartest workers to breed with, a “helpmate”, Catholics do not). That’s why there was a British Empire but the Vatican just sits there, pouting. Catholicism killed the Romans.

I think daytime alcohol consumption might factor in though.

Since there’s no such thing as a teenager, why don’t we hold teens responsible for their hobby choices? This is the time of greatest potency in learning and you can cherrypick me all the studies about response time you want, those exist in a vacuum. As in, when compared with any other use of time, including SLEEP, it’s the leisure equivalent of brain rot.

Imagine a little kid trying to convince you that because one sweet won’t kill you, they can live off sweets (this is also what vegans do).

And all around the internet, grown men with the same vices complain.

Why can’t we do anything?

Well, it’s a little like sawing off your feet at the shins then entering a marathon.
It isn’t that the other guy or girl has an advantage, you spoiled yourself.

In a healthy society, the words Spoil Yourself would garner the reaction of Kill Yourself.

You can’t blame adults or society for compulsive addictions like picking up the game controller to escape reality the fifth time that week.

Why not exercise? I don’t mean lifting weights, that’s bad for you. Human joints can’t take it, they’ll be the old geezers in wheelchairs while the rest can still walk. The price of vanity.

I mean gentle, everyday exercise our forefathers got by running errands.

You have every right to be lazy. However, if your brain learns nothing else, one day you won’t be able to turn it off and whose fault is that?

You gonna blame Ubisoft?

Don’t get me started on the damage of porn.

It’s worse than the pop music. And you think that’s repetitive.

If I forced you to watch some independent French film involving a tunnel for hours every week, you’d want to shoot me.

Involve a pair of tits, on the other hand…

and this is without going into the illegality of minors viewing such material, the grooming aspect.

Grooming for what? Well, that’s the wrong question. Grooming what out?

Ambition.

Ask any man who doesn’t really use porn or never did rely on it (the toxic 3D video kind), and men who broke the severe psychological addiction to its release (everything bad for men is scientifically referred to as self soothing) and you’ll find they have more energy. Freud knew this, which begs the question why was free porn allowed?

In an age of nuclear war, the world doesn’t need men. It doesn’t need soldiers. Men who are meek – capable of aggression but also capable of self control – so it beats it out of them. Or it ingeniously makes them beat it out of themselves.

Anything heavy on the endorphins is not good for you.

The scourge has a name but it goes disused – hypofrontality.

Vices do not just get a mention because everyone is a wet blanket. They destroy an individual’s life and that’s fine, they chose it and nobody cares. You wanted to ruin your own life, okay. However, they tend to spread like diseases. The wages of sin we see in modernity – bad fathers  > bad families > bad children > bad economy > bad marriages > bad children > bad fathers.

If men want to lead society, they must first reject vice. The cycle of Empires is clear about this. There is no way around it. That’s the fee, anyone can buy power if they suffer for it first. It’s just that men have the best natural advantage to grab for it – if they don’t androgynise themselves with destructive hobbies first.

The destructive hobby is a 20th century invention.

Think about that.

Prior to that hobbies were either useful, fruitful (including money) or self-creative.

(Exception: the original feminists maintained little girls were wasting themselves on pointless occupations, busywork.)

Hobbies used to be lifestyle choices. There is no such thing as a suicidal lifestyle choice.

The men did well out of that. By keeping teenage men out of the workplace too, it is great for the old men who couldn’t keep up but wastes their time when at least apprenticeships or some part-time work are vital to retain brain functions.

One of the biggest false takeaways from this: let’s make learning fun! – lazy teachers everywhere

You can’t throw ipads at this problem until it goes away.

Learning is not fun. It is a job. It is hard. It is work. That is its value.

LEARNING IS WORK.

Don’t fear work. Don’t lie to them. Don’t make it seem easy. Have faith in them. Stop infantilizing everything.

Let the lazy kids drop out and ruin themselves pre-emptively (13/14 should do it) than hold back the rest. Head Start failed. You can’t make everyone college material.

Asia is pounding us in league tables because they still learn by rote, the Victorian method that worked. It isn’t some patronizing fun task. You take it seriously, it’s a job. Stop measuring little kids like Nordic countries do or they’ll give up too soon. Pay students, a meagre amount, maybe means-tested. Take education seriously or standards seriously fall.

This includes: fire all teachers below a certain IQ. They make terrible role models. There used to be morality requirements of a teacher, to prove character. Bring those back.

No mixed schools. Lower performance, optimize for performance.

Oh, and PE classes are ridiculous. Why should little girls be doing army drills, no wonder they become mannish? It releases testosterone.

Bonus observation:

The American economy will never recover until the video game industry dies. Gamergate happens, a lot of men opt out of new releases and a short time later the economy is doing better. Coincidence, friends?

Stupid “men” learn to consider success in a fake world as real. It’s kinda like status Communism, they get all the shots of adrenaline and endorphins pumping, so why try? So why seek that the hard, real way? The biochemistry makes it feel real already.

Link: Amygdala and political threat, liberty, morality

https://www.sott.net/article/339931-A-scientific-explanation-for-why-people-cling-to-their-political-beliefs

snort lol laugh haha hmph derision yeah duh really uhuh mhmm princess bride

related

https://www.sott.net/article/339728-Political-cognitive-dissonance-and-the-psychology-of-soft-slavery

Soft slavery on the other hand, is covert. It is neither apparent, nor self-evident. Everything is hidden behind comfort, apathy, security, convenience, indifference, and the illusion of freedom.
The house slave of today is the typical state citizen just going through the motions, unaware of the extent of their own slavery.”

right

https://www.sott.net/article/339699-Why-freedom-without-virtue-is-a-dangerous-thing

“Therefore it’s a tragedy for both individual freedom and the common good that the word “virtue” has been banished from our vocabulary.”
“Let’s put these paradoxes and these wise men to the test. Does the libertine really enjoy liberty? Is “free love” really free or does it come at a terribly high price?
They are now addicted to their “freedoms”– the booze, the drugs, and the sex. But for all their proclamations of their “right” to be “free,” they are less free than the rest of us. The truth is that bad habits become an addiction, and those suffering from addiction are not free. In a perverse paradox, they have enslaved themselves in the name of freedom.”

Common Filth’s notion of a ‘deathstyle’.

Worse, or at least as bad, they have taken liberties with others in their taking of liberties for themselves. How many naïve young people have been seduced into this life of slavery? How many have been ensnared by these addictive bad habits in the name of an illusory “freedom”? How many owe their slavery to their being abused by those promising them liberty? How many people living vicious and pathetic lives are doing so because they were abused by vicious and pathetic parents or friends? ”

The evil love to corrupt the pure, it’s literally the only thing that brings them joy.

Don’t make excuses for degenerate adults. They could repent but it was ‘go forth and sin no more’ and they find the second thing problematic. I hope there’s a Hell for these antisocial people, truly. They make Hell on earth.

It all comes back to the Sexual Rev, the slavery to our bodies and its base, animal drives.

“Having put the three wise men–Wilde, Burke and Solzhenitsyn—to the test, we can perhaps agree that the libertine is not only taking liberties from others but is actually taking liberties from himself when he takes such liberties. It’s a lose-lose situation. He makes his own life miserable in making the lives of his neighbors miserable. There are no winners in this economy of self-gratification.”

Yes but he chose it so the ‘social harm’, damage to the social fabric and critically, sympathy, is entirely on the people who are the victims.

it reminds me of the silly modern cliche of watching someone get a drug habit then calling them brave for doing the right thing, finally – no, the right thing is not becoming a druggie in the first place, like getting out of debt isn’t as impressive as never getting into debt

a little stoicism would help these people tolerate their boredom a lot better but this doesn’t bring in the shekels so it’s hedonism beyond what the ancient hedons actually did (more like the modern perception of an epicurean, they didn’t seek out pleasure nor so frequently, mostly festivals a few times per annum)
they don’t know the system is using them, drugging them with their own dopamine and when they’re fried out, a debt slave with no prospect of true, fiscal freedom

the wages of sin are entirely deserved, no sympathy when the time comes for the people who choose, repeatedly, every day, to continue to be a terrible, terrible person…

makes them easier to out-compete tho

can’t complain on a game theory front

we can steamroll them pretty easily

no one ever gets me bbc moriarty sherlock

sometimes it’s really as simple as suggesting there’s a druggie rave held the night before a big meeting, a week in advance to let them rationalize it or leaving their favourite alcohol in a conference room before a presentation

degenerates are not smart

it’s the hypofrontality

and like any neurodegeneration, it only progresses with time

so yes

they are very

progressive

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Female disgust reflex triggers

http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2015/11/04/hookinguprealities/why-women-are-sexually-disgusted-by-players/

The personal addictions point is crucial, we tend to see it as compensation for some other flaw.

Why do you think women are hard on one another socially for dating druggies? Simply being proximate socially is socially damaging.

The simplest way to be more attractive to women is to cut out whatever disgusts them, but most men don’t like that advice since it’s harder to subtract than add.

BDSM changes your brain

http://www.mercatornet.com/articles/view/hooked_up_and_tied_down_the_neurological_consequences_of_sadomasochism

….In The Brain That Changes Itself, psychiatrist Norman Doidge summarizes research on the neurobiological aspects of sexual development. He writes: “The human libido is not a hardwired, invariable biological urge but can be curiously fickle, easily altered by our psychology and the history of our sexual encounters,” and he goes on to conclude: “Sexual taste is obviously influenced by culture and experience and is often acquired and then wired into the brain.”

Examples of cultural pushes into fetish/unnatural sex: spanking from public schoolboys in the 19th century, oral during the 50/60s with the pressure to perform for a boyfriend before marriage, and most harmful of the three from an STD perspective, nature’s petri dish anal ‘sex’ since the 90s promotion of the ‘gay lifestyle’.

With BDSM, the story of the brain gets even more complicated. Here, a person is not just forming neural networks or brain maps in the areas of the brain responsible for sexual interest, sexual arousal, sexual climax, and so on. With BDSM, a person is fusing distinct neural networks that were meant to operate separately…..

I am awed and cowed by sublime perfection.

Whenever a feminist tries the “don’t knock it until you’ve tried it” lie/line of “pushing boundaries”, “exploring oneself” and “there are no limits, it’s harmless”, bear this type of research in mind. You know, science. Medicine.

Human beings have neural networks related to sexual behavior, and these are shaped in subtle ways by our sexual experiences. We have separate neural networks related to anger and aggression, and these are shaped and strengthened when people engage in violent or domineering behaviors. We have still more separate brain maps for fear and anxiety, which are shaped and reinforced by frightening or anxiety-provoking experiences.

If you think about these three emotional experiences—sexual arousal, aggression, and fear—they are typically quite distinct emotional experiences. There is some overlap between them in terms of physical or bodily response: all three, for example, involve increases in heart rate, respiratory rate, and blood pressure, because all three involve activation of the sympathetic nervous system. And yet, for most healthy individuals, sexual arousal, aggression, and fear remain distinct emotional, cognitive, and physical experiences. This is, I will suggest, a good and healthy thing.

You shouldn’t need a further high from Nature’s own ultimate high.

So these neural networks and these experiences normally remain distinct—unless our experiences begin to fuse them together. When this fusion happens, the brain gets confused…

Porn addiction studies: Sexual orientation versus sexual tastes

Yes, you can be taught to become aroused at other stuff. And untaught.

http://yourbrainonporn.com/are-sexual-tastes-immutable (all quotes from this site)

The suggestion that sexual tastes can be profoundly re-conditioned is not purely theoretical. A male rat can be conditioned to prefer a same-sex partner by jacking up his dopamine. And it doesn’t take very long. Researchers injected a male rat with a dopamine agonist (a drug that mimics dopamine), and then placed him in a cage with another male. The two rats just hung out together for a day. (The dopamine agonist is out of the system in about one day.) Researchers repeated this 2 more times, 4 days apart.

This is the premise on which all abnormal sexual therapies reside and that study makes me laugh at the people who say to ban supposed “gay therapy” for political reasons. If it didn’t ever work, why would you wanna ban the freedom of trying?

Similarly, I’ve written about transsexuality via fetish before, but I do wonder how many have a porn addiction mediated by neuroticism following this information: http://yourbrainonporn.com/ask-us-iam-attracted-to-gay-transsexual

Much of this FAQ is geared towards those with homosexual obsessive compulsive disorder (HOCD).

Perhaps this is why they get the two-spirit Dualist idea into their heads they were “born into the wrong body” [impossible rationalization] and wonder why castrating themselves doesn’t immediately remedy the problem. You’re thinking with the wrong head boys.

As for transracial, transpecies, otherkin etc – I think it’s anime and manga use. Including pornographic forms of children’s shows. It would make logical sense as a uniting cause.

There is also a social dominance and sexual dominance dividing effect to this:

Interestingly, if the buddy was also a virgin the conditioned rat and he just demonstrated a social affinity.

Bros before hoes. Timing is important. Early bonding is non-sexual (I would argue from lack of appropriate hormone signalling, which would explain the lesbian brain hypothesis below).

However, and somewhat mysteriously [hardly], if the buddy was a sexually experienced rat, the conditioned virgin showed more erections, more genital investigation, and even female-like solicitations —as opposed to normal male mounting behavior. The researchers emphasized that the treated male rat wasn’t gay, as he didn’t try to mount the other rat. Yet he had definitely changed. (Is this evidence of how easily adults might influence youngsters’ innate sexual behavior?)

Trans. = if he was taught to get turned on by his own sex, non-mutual hormone displays might be involved, he doesn’t want to be the dominant one (so it’s more about switching that OFF and replacing it with something else), he passively replies in a sexual way and becomes more docile, submissive, feminine. Maybe this is how women were taught to be feminine socially, for centuries.

There are implications for human sexuality, including the notion female homosexuality must be different (probably prebirth);

Interestingly, female rats couldn’t be conditioned this way – only males. Also, 45 days after all experimental manipulation had stopped, the artificial sexual conditioning had evaporated and the males had no preference for their buddies. Does this help explain why, after ex-porn users stop reinforcing their fetishes with dopamine-raising porn, they often report that their fetish porn tastes evaporate?

Women are naturally socially receptive, but can be taught to be more feminine, so this makes complete sense. I wonder if the HBD lot will touch this with a bargepole since we can’t do it on humans for ethical reasons. There is the question of minors watching porn because phones exist and whether that changes orientation (twin studies should be good enough to observe that) but we’ll never know [mostly ethics]. Even studying rats it’s hard to tell.

Most people would consider orientation in line with behaviour, since if you act it out, that’s your orientation. The sort of person to get addicted and never see it as a problem is also likely to seek outlets to “experiment” with whatever novel source of their hit may be, as modern society has no morality around “finding yourself”. (Thanks, feminism!)

TL;DR: I think cutting out masturbation to Internet porn may have helped fix my ephebophilia/pedophilia.

No one is gonna address that possibility, let’s be honest. This same guy also said he used to watch hentai, which is a form of anime you don’t want to Google. I see the connection but *shrug* nobody’s gonna study it.

Speaking feminists;

[female dominance fetish] Little did I know that the fetish I thought was hard-wired within me, was simply the result of my porn-viewing habits.

Maybe that’s why they love getting men hooked on porn.

Yet as we’ve seen, morphing sexual tastes often lead to escalation (tolerance) rather than fulfillment.  This even happened to the father of modern sexology, Alfred C. Kinsey:

There was something grim in the way Kinsey was approaching sex, not only in his private life but in his research. In both areas, he was becoming more compulsive, like a man who had become addicted to risk taking. The sexual escapades in his attic [sadomasochistic acts with his male lovers] were political dynamite. … Yet not only did he go right on staging these sessions but he compounded the danger by creating a visual record.

How many S&M gay guys do you know?
Tolerance of bad things (unhealthy) isn’t a good thing, even when it’s for nominal research purposes. I need that sentence on the wall at work as reminder.

In other words, Playboy was passing entertainment; hardcore video is brain-training.

Officially, anyone wanting to get Lad’s Mags, Page 3 or Playboy-type stimuli banned should take a more extreme disgust to video porn (they rarely do, for personal and political reasons – charlatans).

Timing: http://yourbrainonporn.com/why-shouldnt-johnny-watch-porn-if-he-likes

By his twenties, he may not exactly be stuck with the sexual proclivities he falls into during adolescence, but they can be like deep ruts in his brain—not easy to ignore or reconfigure.

I wonder how Japan fits into all of this.

Maybe their problem isn’t too little sex, but too much digital material.

Adults also often assume kids will naturally leave impulsive behaviors behind at adulthood. Indeed, studies suggest that college-age kids do tend to outgrow binge drinking, pot use, etc.  However, Internet porn habits may prove to be different.

And then there’s the sad video game addict comparison (same platform and many unusually popular games have porn elements);

For many, the lingering effects of heavy Internet porn use are likely to be analogous to effects on online gamers. Overstimulation leaves the brain with a need for intense stimulation (unless it is consciously restored to normal sensitivity). Other activities seem boring in comparison. In this short TED talk, The Demise of Guys? famous psychologist Philip Zimbardo describes the ill effects of widespread “arousal addiction.”

(If you can just put down a game for years at a time, you’re fine. If that thought makes you freak out, I got news for you son…)

Before the question of Hook-up culture – yes, overdoing it there can damage their relationship future too: http://www.amazon.com/Hooked-Science-Casual-Affecting-Children/dp/0802450601
(Bonding chemicals to a given partner and I wonder if the reduction is connected to dopamine/if they use porn too). To anyone staunchly avoiding LTR and marriage on principle (PUA/MGTOW) this shouldn’t be an issue, unless they’re lying to themselves.

http://yourbrainonporn.com/recent-internet-addiction-brain-studies-include-porn

The brain changes found in all addictions include sensitization, desensitization, hypofrontality, and abnormal white matter. An Internet addiction is no exception, whether a user is viewing Internet porn, Facebook, www.reddit.com, or a combination Internet stimuli.

Heheh, someone tell the reddit atheists who think they’re so superior.
SJWs and Tumblr/Twitter/smartphones?
I’ve disappeared from here for years at a time without issue so I think I’m allowed to judge.

People talk of getting their “dopamine rush” from chocolate, music, the stock market, the BlackBerry buzz on the thigh — anything that imparts a small, pleasurable thrill. Familiar agents of vice like cocaine, methamphetamine, alcohol and nicotine are known to stimulate the brain’s dopamine circuits, as do increasingly popular stimulants like Adderall and Ritalin. source

Hello most of the annoying people on reddit. [To be fair, most annoying girls with their iPhones.]

I need to see hypofrontality tests and see if it relates to r-types. That study would be interesting. I would pay.

Research on other addictions has already established that decreases in frontal-lobe gray matter and functioning reduce both impulse control and the ability to foresee consequences. source

When heavy users give up porn, they report increased pleasure from all aspects of life (often after a miserable withdrawal).

Sounds like they had had anhedonia (partial version?)

Dopamine is also part of the brain’s salience filter, its get-a-load-of-this device. “You can’t pay attention to everything, but you want to be adept as an organism at recognizing things that are novel,” Dr. Volkow said. “You might not notice a fly in the room, but if that fly was fluorescent, your dopamine cells would fire.” In addition, our dopamine-driven salience detector will focus on familiar objects that we have imbued with high value, both positive and negative: objects we want and objects we fear. 
source

– and we come full circle to scary porn habits and concerns over permanent sexual orientation [clue: love]. Men, you can’t trust your dick http://yourbrainonporn.com/can-you-trust-your-johnson [Women, similar sentiment] IF you intend to make good decisions with it.

Sexual desire is an additional layer onto the desire for novelty.
Why do we instinctively look down on addicts? Especially non-drug ones like gaming? They’re expending their dopamine on low-status desperate easy behaviours. At least buying drugs requires getting off the couch.

Let’s look at a MGTOW God – Tesla. Clearly addicted to his dopamine rush, which he gained in a productive, pro-social intellectual way via his inventions. Hence it isn’t a bad thing your brain has this wireup, it’s the use you choose to put it to (no excuses), which is a hopeful message I’m gonna finish on.

Drugs #101: Addiction and Physical Dependence

They’re completely separate things.
A drug is a typically organic substance that can impair physiological functioning or kill when given to the healthy population and a drug as medicine is a chemical composition that will repair your improper bodily functioning or you will die without it in an individual body, long term. Addicts may develop non-medicinal physical dependence but medically-obligated physical dependents are not addicts per se.

A drug user with medical physical dependence only can take a processed form of their medicine without the psychological effects (commonly a high) very happily whereas an addict would require the high, the specific form of drug is merely a trigger for the brain created by past memories of use by the amygdala. These extreme-intensity usage memories create many of the symptoms of withdrawal (psychosomatic) and delude the brain into believing it genuinely needs the drug e.g. claims marijuana is as healthy as a vitamin and the push to normalize (the societal danger of addict populations, social contagion and acceptability).

The sole cause of addiction beyond a doubt is beginning use in the first place. It is impossible to be addicted to (or physically dependent on) a substance the body (and brain) has never experienced. This is a self-selecting type of stupidity (hubris/arrogance) regularly found in teenagers (immature prefrontal cortex) because such users do not think or disbelieve their mind could be compromised by addiction. Their brains already create this illusion to necessitate the anticipated reward (high) prior to initial use or they wouldn’t take it (such as the processed form with no high). The foolproof layman method to test for addiction is simple: substance deprivation for a year. Prepare for a list of excuses.

A physical dependency is often created by doctors to treat patients with chronic conditions, usually chronic pain symptoms (ongoing). Addicts try to ape this category (some sincerely, others deceptively) but are increasingly thwarted by processed (reward-weakened) variants of their poison. Specific advocates for drug legalization ignore the essential fact of escalation and compensation. As part of the brain’s hedonic treadmill, it craves increasingly more of the reward from use, compelling drug users to harder toxins (harder reward, creating deeper addiction and physical damage) and this is the biological component of addiction that makes the habitual behaviour of use so challenging to physically extinguish from the brain.

Physical dependency creates withdrawal symptoms too but the patient’s individual physical needs (inc. not dying) and substance type distinguish this from addicts e.g. insulin to a diabetic.The human brain is connected to facilitate the reward response feedback loops because they are evolutionally guided by the basic needs to survive (food, water, sex) and this is why there is no such thing as a food addict, water addict or sex addict, merely people with impulse control issues seeking a social ‘displacement of responsibility’. Beyond these essential elements for the sustenance of our individual life and species general, anything chemical creating a vacuous boost in the reward system is a drug, whether you like it or not. Drug users resent the stigma for their activities whether or not their poison is legal (ethanol/alcohol, tobacco, marijuana, cocaine etc) because the positive emotional response loop (dopamine, serotonin release) caused by their usage memories creates defensive dissonance when challenged by non-users. Even polite persistent enquiry can sometimes trigger a psychotic episode where the patient is completely detached from reality and VERY DANGEROUS. This is why trained professionals intervene. In the latter stages, the drug/s become integrated into personal identity and extraction or therapeutic measures become unlikely to resolve the issue without constant medical care (rehabilitation facilities). Moreover, this reduces the risk of sudden death caused by the somatic shock of going ‘clean’ and allows overall physiological strength to be built up (reverse what the drugs did) while the problem is gradually resolved.

If a substance exists in a natural form within, say, a foodstuff, it is not addictive because food reward circuits are natural and normal and can never be extinguished. This is why milk (dairy), sugar, chocolate, chilli, coffee and caffeine ‘addiction’ is a misnomer. However, a person habitually needing a purified artificial version of these may constitute a non-medical physical dependence or perhaps a behavioural addiction e.g. alcoholism. Behavioural addictions require holistic (whole life) perspective for diagnosis e.g. someone who works online cannot be an internet addict if those hours online constitute their occupation (add to their success and life) and they can easily disconnect for a while. Behavioural addictions where they do exist are more accurately termed compulsions and relate to personality disorders or obsessions created by unmet needs. Substitution is the norm where one behaviour is broken, another is taken up. Social contagion is a significant factor for poor impulse control. Behavioural or result-based addictions when positive are discounted for lack of stigma nor bodily harm e.g. ‘high’ grades, promotion (power/status boost), painting. However, they can display withdrawal symptoms from endogenous neurotransmittor levels e.g. low serotonin creates acute compulsiveness completing the cycle to repeat a rewarding behaviour and low dopamine creates psychomotor agitation including pacing and fidgeting, also apathy, chosen social isolation and anhedonia (nothing is enjoyable and everything fast becomes boring).

 

By most definitions, Sherlock Holmes is not an addict. However, he qualifies as an addictive personality with a high arousal threshold and high need for cognition.

By most definitions, Sherlock Holmes is not an addict. However, he qualifies as an addictive personality with a high arousal threshold and excessively superhuman high need for cognition.

Related terms: Dosage Response Curve and (innate) Arousal Thresholds causative of addictive personality tendency.

Post inspired by this video, Sherlock Holmes’ withdrawal symptoms

Mark the positive addiction withdrawal symptoms from endogenous behaviour-triggered stimulation.

And yes, you can be addicted to love.