Ishtar energy and sexual ruin

Roughly speaking, something to bear in mind.

As for married couples, I’ve noticed a process.

Madonna/Whore comes from the male inability to reconcile the woman he loves with the woman he fucks. They view the wife like a replacement mother and feel disgust or rejection of their desire projected onto the wife, especially if she’s dutiful – they see her fussing over the business of the home and childcare. They disgracefully think lust and love are meant to be separate and always kept separate (this stupid false belief literally causes men health problems inc. impotence and it’s also why they marry sluts). It’s like they think they’re corrupting her with their conjugal rights. It becomes a serious turn-off, like she’s tainted or impure for desiring him (repulsed by her lust) or it isn’t “safe” to sexually express – with their SPOUSE. Husbands CANNOT repress their sexuality and basically rob their wives of that cherishing experience. It ruins marriages, sex is the glue that holds marriage together and while ebbs and flows are normal, either depriving the other, while bad, isn’t as bad as seeking it outside the union (always adultery). That’s a divorce category because it ruins the union, spoils the trust, the connection itself is divorced between the parties. No splitting or the woman senses this and retreats, in passive femininity and trust (how women solve problems), assuming he needs his own space, he’ll come back soon and then he feels abandoned when actually, she’s waiting for him to be the Man first. Because he is. A wife is the most sexual woman. It’s the total experience including fertility, modern men fear the completion of the cycle is the “wrong” thing but actually it’s postmodern sterile sex that’s incomplete* sexuality (and likely causes most of the psychiatric issues associated with promiscuity). Men experience the fulfillment of their sexuality when they become a father, this is why their hormones change for about a year after the wife gives birth!**

Husbands also stop flirting with their wife in modern times, a fact I am certain is a divorce risk… like, no? Why would you think that’s a good idea? The Bible says if you don’t get everything at home you’ll be tempted outside it. Flirt with your damn wife, women are verbal creatures! Women need that verbal affirmation, or society will replace it. Missionary work, crash dieting, various passive-aggressive unconscious punishments that take her energy outside the union and onto worldly things (so not cheating but damn close and it seriously raises the odds she’d escalate to that).

Women get (passive) the verbal (flirting) then men get the physical (sex).

It’s a very simple process and I have to keep explaining this to people. This is old common knowledge. Usually there’s nothing actually “wrong” in the initial stages of marital “problems”, they just don’t flirt! It doesn’t occur to them!!

It isn’t something you do for courting or that kids do.

It’s verbal glue.

You have fewer arguments. Seriously. This is so simple so a therapist (if they know) will NEVER EVER tell you because it’s FREE. Free puts them out of a job.

A husband who wants his wife to be less sexual shouldn’t have married her, frankly. And he can’t expect her to degrade herself, (stares at America) sexuality isn’t doing everything, that’s a sign of a problem where the lust is covering it. There isn’t any shame in marital sex, American Christians need this hammered into their skulls. It isn’t dirty if you’re married. Sex is marriage glue. Repeat this until you know it in your bones.

*Imagine you kept eating and eating and eating food but were never satisfied and actually got more frustrated. Congratulations, sexually, that’s hook-up culture. Nobody says this because they don’t want to offend the single or infertile but sorry, that’s evolution. It’s like saying we need air to breathe, it could offend people with breathing problems but so what? Doesn’t change the fact.

Ancient times measured sexual encounters as satisfactory based on whether or not they were “fruitful”. They knew. Those were incredibly patriarchal societies, well, this is the kernel of truth behind all patriarchy.

You don’t see the father of five wishing he had two.

It’s also why broody men in our culture are shamed as patriarchal.

**And miscarriage or infertility can provoke divorce. In biological terms, you fall in love for two years to conceive and then the parental bond is the heightened connection, the sight of proven fertility, parental oxytocin from interactions. I wonder if childless marriages (by choice) are also a divorce risk, I’d assume so since it replicates infertility.

Random but I wonder if a Roe v Wade repeal would include the Pill abortifacient? Biologically, it must. It’s a chronic Morning After pill, another chemical abortion. Both are given to minors, more grounds.

“An affair does not make you a better spouse”

There are people who would actually question that logic.

Like a marriage is anything else but a ceremonial monogamy.

And hypothetically, if it were true, the same would apply to women. So cucks have logic, at least, one-sided cheats don’t.

They admit loyalty is valuable when they want to take it from the other party without giving it.

https://disenchantedscholar.wordpress.com/2017/07/17/signs-of-an-emotionally-immature-adult/

Update: I knew I’d read about this in Western canon.

https://www.poemhunter.com/poem/mary-pity-women/

You call yourself a man,
For all you used to swear,
An’ leave me, as you can,
My certain shame to bear?
I ‘ear! You do not care —
You done the worst you know.
I ‘ate you, grinnin’ there. . . .
Ah, Gawd, I love you so!

Nice while it lasted, an’ now it is over —
Tear out your ‘eart an’ good-bye to your lover!
What’s the use o’ grievin’, when the mother that bore you
(Mary, pity women!) knew it all before you?

It aren’t no false alarm,
The finish to your fun;
You — you ‘ave brung the ‘arm,
An’ I’m the ruined one;”

Victorian deadbeats.

Kipling nailed the sniveling cowardly type of man perfectly.

Alienation of affections

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2018/07/28/jilted-husband-awarded-8-8m-after-suing-wifes-lover.html

I wrote a post ages back on the old laws that protected marriage.

https://disenchantedscholar.wordpress.com/2015/07/04/which-laws-kept-marriages-intact/
“Protection from adultery is the crucial means of safeguarding marriage for future generations.”

Protection from cheats is one.

Marriage is a contract. Yes, you should be held to your oath of monogamy.

Holding the seducer responsible doesn’t divide the house.

https://disenchantedscholar.wordpress.com/2015/10/30/std-free-blood-tests-before-marriage-kept-it-good/

Also counts under criminal conversation. “Open marriage” cucking is effectively already illegal.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Criminal_conversation

Way more expensive than a hooker.

Modern men’s sexual dysfunction

https://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relationships/unveiling-madonna-whore-complex

Ah, the projection is funny to watch. The woman who slept with two men including them is a “whore” but the speaker at 20+ is as morally, spiritually pure as virgin snow. Pull the other one.

The delusions….

Having a tendency to ruin themselves on cheap types and, once burned out, wonder why they hate decent people as boring and resent good women and marriage.

Orgastic impotence (bad sexuality) intrudes too. Plenty of fuckboy types write long articles online that just telegraph to anyone with a functioning upstairs brain that they’re sexually damaged and incapable of intimacy, physical or emotional (typical of narcissists).

As it applies in the context of relationships in modern times, Madonna-whore complex generally manifests itself after marriage or the birth of a child as Dr. Suraci explains:

“A man may think of his wife as a mother and not an appropriate sex partner.

Conditioning.

He is accustomed to having intercourse with a sexy woman and his wife does not fit the bill.

Rude.

She is now the mother – Madonna. Unconsciously, she may remind him of his mother who cannot be a sexual being,” he said.

Idiotic.

You should be able to divorce for that, the husband has duties. Sexual performance and sexual fidelity, physically and emotionally.

According to Dr. Joel Block, Ph.D., a psychologist who specializes in couples and sex therapy, some of these men have a difficult time committing:

They “stray” to keep their vulnerability in check.

emotional immaturity

Cannot have emotional intimacy.

They are usually unconsciously fearful of getting too attached.  Having a woman on the side gives them a better sense of control.  With all this effort, many guys do start seeing their women, especially in long term relationships, resembling their mom”, he told Alternet.

Then they complain when she files for divorce from the biggest baby.

Ask yourself why cheating is the most common reason for divorce.

Well, it’s better than stoning, isn’t it?

While Stefan is going on about the importance of marriage, special attention needs to go on the basic common sense DON’T CHEAT.

However, Dr. Kanaris says that the disorder is exacerbated in a variety of ways, not necessarily just through affairs, but essentially manifests through the male diverting sexual energy away from the primary relationship

That’s what adultery is.

That’s it.

– such as toward pornography or erotic massage.

Still cheating, seeking physical satisfaction elsewhere. How would they feel if the other spouse did it?

Normalised in this society is not normal.

To look with lust in your heart yada yada.

Porn ruins marriages

It ruins your pair bond. Accept it and forgo use (you shouldn’t need medically and do not need psychologically) or don’t complain when you’re a bitter divorcee. A crack addiction is less harmful to marriages than a porn one because crack addicts admit they have a problem and society (including marriage counselors!) doesn’t tell them it’s good for them! A marriage is literally a pair bond enforced with sexual monogamy, there is nothing else. That is what the religious vow and the law bind. They bind the two individuals before there is a bond between them and the marriage is the bond’s maintenance.

It’s considered the man’s duty to keep a marriage good because they are the ones sexually performing. If they cannot perform and maintain the bond, if they are impotent, what marriage is there exactly? This was the Catholic Church’s position!

How does porn ruin marriage? [I hate these posts, might stop doing them.]

https://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=4081&context=etd

It’s unnatural.

Porn user = Incompetent husband. (I’d say the same thing about an addicted wife). You should be working out any kind of sexual energy on the spouse, that’s their role. At least, masturbate in private and not directing those vital energies outside the marital bed.

The male typical skills valued in the marriage are lost.

“her male partner’s low engagement, responsiveness, and accessibility in their relationship was predicted by his pornography use”

Insecure attachment predicts divorce, it can literally simulate a damaged childhood.

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/committed-relationship-youre-wired-for-it

The vital point is that our pair bonding penchant arises from physiological events, not mere social conditioning. It evolved from the infant-caregiver mechanism, and the two mechanisms still overlap in the brain’s reward circuitry. So, even though many Westerners appear to be caught up in a chaotic hook-up culture for the moment, it doesn’t mean that we humans are, by nature, as promiscuous as bonobo chimps or that pair-bonding inclinations are superficial cultural constructs.”

The Sexual Revolution was a lie and water is wet.

“In short, if you are hooking up with multiple partners purely for recreation you could be an outlier. Your behavior is not typical human behavior—a point that is easily overlooked by Western researchers.”

Low historical rates of cuckoldry in Western European genetic ancestry
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/comment/3650#comment-3650

Suck it, most men and women are NOT cheats and neither were their ancestors.

Honour culture wasn’t a farce.

https://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2275&context=etd

It’s an addiction, a valid reason to terminate a marriage, Biblical adultery aside.
The heart of all addictions is selfishness.

“Online sexual activities, including pornography use, have drastically increased in recent
years. Many studies have examined the impact that pornography use can have on marriages and
families. One of the key findings has been that pornography use can negatively impact trust in
relationships. This study focused on understanding the mechanisms involved when a husband’s
pornography use negatively impacts his marital relationship and his wife’s emotional well-being

That’s called emotional abuse.

The selfishness of addiction is such that they will always expect it to go one way. Of course, when you’re married you are no longer an individual and this is why selfishness becomes the worst possible sin. What you take for yourself, you take from your spouse.

A taste of their own medicine may be warranted, since that’s the one way the stupider men can learn if all else fails.

If the woman wants to teach him what it’s like, just flirt with any man more attractive than him when he’s around and tell him it isn’t your fault, it’s evolution. Or sitting there ogling pictures of Channing Tatum in that stripper film, maybe frame it on a wall and stare.

He can’t get defensive, the guy isn’t really there, in the bedroom.

Or masturbate to gay porn where both men are better looking than he is.
It’s just porn, right? No big deal, no reason to get upset. It’s just energy he was never going to require from you anyway, right? It isn’t like you owe him 100% as part of the marriage thing or there’s less to go around for him or there’s an insult against him personally in the act at all. Right?

“(1) a breakdown of expectations and assumptions central to the marriage, (2) a sense of distance or disconnection from their husband and (3) a general sense of being emotionally and psychologically unsafe and insecure in their relationship. Further, it was found that loss of trust was greatly influenced by the sexual nature of pornography and the deceit surrounding its use. These two factors combined to produce a loss of secure attachment, particularly for attachment-oriented and attachment-idealizing wives, who hold the belief that pornography use is not appropriate.”

You don’t get to change the rules after they were agreed upon. You show me one woman who would marry a porn addict if she knew that beforehand.

It’s cheating, the brain doesn’t know the difference. A man who needs porn to get it up or orgasm is impotent, by dictionary definition.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/impotence
http://www.dictionary.com/browse/impotence

It also used to mean lack of restraint (like a man who cheats…) because the husband’s energy is directed outside the marital unit.

https://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=3946

It’s poor performance with a real life woman, the wife in this case.

“A common problem among men characterized by the consistent inability to sustain an erection sufficient for sexual intercourse or the inability to achieve ejaculation, or both. Impotence can vary.

So if they can’t get it up to their wife, but they can still do it to a mistress or porn, they are still impotent. This is basic medical fact. They can train other circuits but there is still an impaired circuit, the only important one.

It can involve a total inability to achieve an erection or ejaculation, an inconsistent ability to do so, or a tendency to sustain only very brief erections.”

That performance failure of male duty used to be sufficient reason to get divorced when the Catholic Church was in power, that’s how major it is.
The man’s sexual function in a marriage is more important than the wife’s participation. To blame the woman for his chosen addiction is weak.
If he can’t get it up, that’s his body. She isn’t controlling it Svengali style. He needs a doctor.

“Overall, it was found that a husband’s involvement with pornography can result in a lack of emotional, psychological, and physical availability and responsiveness, and a decrease in closeness and intimacy.”

Exactly the same result as literally going out and screwing those women. Note the type of porn they watch is intended for you to replace the male “actor”, it’s psychological cheating.

It’s voyeurism too, would voyeurism IRL not be cheating somehow?

Masturbation isn’t so much the problem, masturbation and pornography use/addiction are completely separate things.
If he can’t masturbate without porn, which is almost always the case… he has a problem.

“Interacting with the impact of deceit, a spouse’s pornography use clearly provides ample opportunity for the breakdown of secure attachment at a level that can be classified as an attachment rupture or trauma.”

Same result as literal adultery. HD videos trick the brain into treating events as real. It’s worse than real actually, it’s a supernormal stimulus. He wouldn’t film himself screwing one of those women, would he? No, that would seem extreme…..

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/10720160903202679
The term emotional infidelity is useful here.

Love and cherish?

“Analyses uncovered three attachment-related impacts from husbands’ pornography use and deception: (1) the development of an attachment fault line in the relationship, stemming from perceived attachment infidelity; (2) followed by a widening attachment rift arising from wives’ sense of distance and disconnection from their husbands; (3) culminating in attachment estrangement from a sense of being emotionally and psychologically unsafe in the relationship. Overall, wives reported global mistrust indicative of attachment breakdown.

Well, escalation involves going out and literally re-enacting it. So yes, practice?
If a spouse practiced murdering you for fun, you’d feel less safe. This abandonment threat is very real and backed up by all metrics, as you’ll see.

Building on this data, we build an attachment-informed model of effects of pornography use and concomitant deception in the pair-bond relationship.”

Pornography is literally clinically damaging to the user.
It does cause ED (PC term for impotence, amazing how men resent un-PC terms on anything relating to them…)

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5039517/

“Traditional factors that once explained men’s sexual difficulties appear insufficient to account for the sharp rise in erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, decreased sexual satisfaction, and diminished libido during partnered sex in men under 40.”

Alterations to the brain’s motivational system are explored as a possible etiology underlying pornography-related sexual dysfunctions.”

Aforementioned training of responses.

“This review also considers evidence that Internet pornography’s unique properties (limitless novelty, potential for easy escalation to more extreme material, video format, etc.) may be potent enough

I see what you did there. Subtle. I like it.

to condition sexual arousal to aspects of Internet pornography use that do not readily transition to real-life partners, such that sex with desired partners may not register as meeting expectations and arousal declines.”

Husband’s sexual failure. He might as well cut it off, as far as his wife’s concerned, because he’s preventing her from working with it by breaking its healthy function.
She literally cannot do her job, far from it being her fault.
He also makes his own satisfaction impossible, which is deserved all things considered.

It’s like a cocaine user complaining their nose doesn’t work.

Cause and effect doesn’t stop at particles, mate.

“Clinical reports suggest that terminating Internet pornography use is sometimes sufficient to reverse negative effects, underscoring the need for extensive investigation using methodologies that have subjects remove the variable of Internet pornography use.

Translation: they don’t want to look “sex negative” i.e. medically realistic.

If a sex therapist tells you to use porn to spice up your marriage, run.
They make more money off divorced sluts, remember!

I mean, if Elon can be turned off by Amber, this is some major shit we’re dealing with here. Impotence isn’t really a laughing matter. Okay, maybe one prod…

Hardness! Hardness! My billions for some consistent hardness!

Had to get that out of my system. In many cases, the original cause is guilt and the outcome is depression. Since the cause is guilt, the depression is never resolved. Therapists are pussies in this century.

In the interim, a simple diagnostic protocol for assessing patients with porn-induced sexual dysfunction is put forth.”

Translation: we know it’s bad but we don’t know what to do.

Porn addiction and brain damage


https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3050060/

A significant postulate of this commentary is that all addictions create, in addition to chemical changes in the brain, anatomical and pathological changes which result in various manifestations of cerebral dysfunction collectively labeled hypofrontal syndromes. In these syndromes, the underlying defect, reduced to its simplest description, is damage to the “braking system” of the brain. They are well known to clinical neuroscientists, especially neurologists and neurosurgeons, for they are also seen with tumors, strokes, and trauma. Indeed, anatomically, loss of these frontal control systems is most apparent following trauma, exemplified by progressive atrophy of the frontal lobes seen in serial MRI scans over time.”

In short, no, they cannot make the decision for themselves to continue its use.
That’s like letting a suicidal person cut themselves, also an addiction.

No, they are not allowed that choice. It isn’t a choice. They have to stop.

I know it’s hard. Or at least it would be, if they’d stop.

Compare it to a bad sex diet.

http://alfredadler.edu/sites/default/files/May%20MP%202015.pdf

” Ironically, a common correlate of pornography use has been found to be a damaged marital sex life.”

No, it makes them worse lovers. Obviously it would, it’s calling doing it not watching it.

Porn has no educational value. There are books and damn, cartoons even depicting and describing positions. Women have no problem viewing those and magazines are full of them. You aren’t supposed to be distracting yourself with masturbation while studying.

“Elliott and Umberson (2008) investigated this very subject, the nature of sex in marriage, and found that 94% of their participants established that sex is a keystone and integral part of marital success; and furthermore, describe sex as a barometer of the health of their marriage.

No, it isn’t just orgasms. It isn’t just sex.

Consequently, marital sexuality also creates a context for potential harm where that vulnerability is not held by one spouse with complete fidelity and trustworthiness.

Porn’s purpose is clear, it’s cheating intellectually. It’s reverse cuckoldry, in a way. They get off, but on the fact they’re picturing themselves doing it with another, instead of actually viewing their Other with someone else. They’re poles apart but very similar.

“Many authors (Brezsnyak & Whisman, 2004; Regan, 2000: Sprecher, 2002; Leavitt & Willoughby, 2015) have found that sexual desire plays an integral role in the marital satisfaction. Consistently, respondents who perceive their marriage to be “happy,” report creating positive experiences within their relationships, tend to label sexual interactions as one way to facilitate and nurture closeness and intimacy with their partners (Impett, Strachman, Finkel, & Gable, 2008).”

My advice to those women is to stream gay porn constantly without doing anything. After all, it’s “entertainment”, like a film? No need to object.

I cannot be bothered to look up any more for now.
The fact this is a subject of discussion is ridiculous, none of you have bothered to look it up.

In medical terms, a thing is harmful until proven healthy. That’s never going to happen with porn but they tried.

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/10720160600870711?src=recsys

“A review of the research that does exist was undertaken and many negative trends were revealed. While much remains unknown about the impact of Internet pornography on marriages and families, the available data provide an informed starting point for policy makers, educators, clinicians, and researchers.”

Men are pathetic in direct proportion to their sexual desperation.

Porn is causing that, all the attributes of the pajama boy.

It weakens you as men.

Back to the under-covered attachment thing, briefly.

A few studies on how insecure attachment styles (like those caused by porn) make divorce almost a dead-cert. The marriage is over the first time you click online instead of turning to your spouse, really.

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1300/J087v31n01_07

“attachment style, as a personality trait, has implications for the higher divorce rate. The purpose of this study was to explore the relationship between attachment style and marrying multiple times. The findings indicate that multiple marriers are more likely to be avoidantly attached and less likely to be anxiously attached. Additionally, those marrying for the first time to a previously married person have similar insecure attachment Styles.”

Like attracts like.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3061469/

“Husbands’ lower initial level of marital satisfaction measured around the first child’s transition to school was the only significant predictor of marital dissolution.”

Yep, the dude’s fault again.

“In one study of dating relationships, Kirkpatrick and Hazan (1994) found that in a 4-year period, individuals with a secure attachment style had more stable and committed relationships than those with insecure attachment styles. A 31-year longitudinal study (Klohnen & Bera, 1998) revealed similar results.”

You might say, oh, but how do we know porn is making it worse? A fair objection. The methodology would be unpopular but ethical and possible. You study the child’s attachment when it forms and record it throughout the teens, also recording initiation into pornography addiction. If previously secure boys become insecurely attached men, porn is literally ruining men for women by reducing the husband qualities required.

Study women too, that’s fair. It’s just hardly any will statistically count as porn addicts.

If women are to follow their husbands in anything, they must feel supported.

 This study revealed that low levels of perceived spousal support among women characterized as ambivalent were associated with significant declines in marital satisfaction for both the women and their husbands.

Porn takes that away, as studies above show. This is not a minor point. It would be like going to a mechanic that hates cars or a hydrophobic plumber. If something’s wrong, you’d leave it to fester.

How does it work?

The woman senses this emptiness from the man first before he feels the effect on the pair bond between the two of them.

“Another possibility is that attachment security buffers against declines in marital satisfaction, such that the differences between secure and insecure individuals become larger over time.”

That one.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11584789

It would make sense to spot insecurity early and seek treatment. In a eugenic society.

However, a spouse who brings it on themselves merits no sympathy for the choice they know will harm their partner.

The second possibility (buffers) because insecure children also present problems that are consistent and grow over time.

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.1111/j.1744-1617.2010.01352.x

“insecure infants are at an increased risk for behavioral disturbances, poor peer relations”

I don’t think you can pin that on a spouse they don’t have?

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2741157/

This study extends the existing adult literature on insecure attachment as a predictor of depression and anxiety by examining these pathways in a sample of adolescents. In addition, dysfunctional attitudes and low self-esteem were tested as mediators of the association between insecure attachment and symptoms of depression and anxiety. Youth (N =350; 6th–10th graders) completed self-report measures of attachment, dysfunctional attitudes, self-esteem, and symptoms of depression and anxiety in a 4-wave prospective study. Results indicate that anxious and avoidant attachment each predicted changes in both depression and anxiety (after controlling for initial symptom levels). The association between anxious attachment, but not avoidant attachment, and later internalizing symptoms was mediated by dysfunctional attitudes and low self-esteem. Effects remained even after controlling for initial co-occurring symptoms.

Also no spouse to blame.

Imagine if women had some ailment with their mammary glands and blamed their husband. Impotent men who blame the wife are insane, it’s completely disconnected from reality.

In fact, improper attachment may contribute to mental diseases.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3266769/

Specifically, we review research findings showing that attachment insecurity is a major contributor to mental disorders, and that the enhancement of attachment security can facilitate amelioration of psychopathology.

Yes, they can make their spouse suffer. The personality changes caused by the porn are inherently abusive, more in common with a psychopath (psychopaths are almost entirely porn-addicted).

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.3402/tdp.v3.28647

It’s the brain.

Recent models have moved towards the incorporation of neurodevelopmental, biological and psychosocial approaches to human development. Consequently, there has been a significant conceptual shift, where social experience is currently seen to play a role in shaping the biology and genetic programming of human development,

hence any damage from minors viewing porn is at least somewhat permanent

This is not a church lady problem, it’s worse than drugging kids who hate school. Those seldom cause damage like that, it’s psychological circumcision. It’s horrifying. Addictions disable the mind.

The priming to bring in young boys too, by showcasing schoolgirls. The grooming element of that, imagine a parade of schoolboy porn*, the MRAs would have a field day. Imagine that was considered normal in society, how sick that society must be.

*If it does exist, don’t tell me. Please, I’ve suffered enough.

rather than the simple ‘unfolding’ of a predetermined sequence of developmental stages. In the case of human infants, developmental models need to account for the increasingly recognised contribution of the infant to the social environment and their capacity to interact with and shape environmental responses.

Training. Training their own brain by their chosen habits.

The resilience required of a spouse, especially a husband, is wanting.

http://scholarworks.lib.csusb.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1457&context=etd

 

“According to Sroufe (2000), securely attached children are fundamentally different from those classified as insecurely attached. At two years of age, they are more likely to be enthusiastic and persistent in solving easy tasks”

Useful in a marriage….

“Secure school-age children are more sympathetic to peer distress, more assertive about getting their needs met, more likely to be leaders, are better prepared for school”

Useful skills in a future husband.

insecure attachments (i.e., “attachment trauma”)

A child with a history of an insecure attachment may struggle with trusting the intentions and emotional responsiveness of others

So ironically they cause this in spouses with deceitful and demeaning behaviours (including requests of humiliating performance from the spouse to compete with literal whores) pushing them away to validate the paranoia. Yes, that’s what borderlines do too. It’s sadistic. They enjoy breaking people. Testing their limits, crushing their self-respect.

may learn to cope with stressful stimuli by inhibiting strong feelings

Cheating of any sort is a punishment to the existing spouse. Passive aggression is still aggression.

are more likely to have behavior problems, poor peer relations, and lack resilience

problems includes addictions, FYI

Resilience is the number one required quality in a husband.

They don’t quote this line

You know when there’s a refugee thing and they say about the person passing through like it’s at all the same thing?*

http://biblehub.com/proverbs/5-20.htm

For why should you, my son, be exhilarated with an adulteress And embrace the bosom of a foreigner?

Cheating is literally in the ten commandments. Don’t pretend like “sowing your wild oats” exists or cheating is expected because of some fairytale about blue balls.

You can’t save the fallen, they chose it for themselves. Stop fixating on the “bad girls” porn trains you about. Men are brainwashed to like them, more than women (18+) like “bad boys”. Physical strength is nothing to willpower. The average man is larger than ever thanks to gym memberships, but those muscles are completely useless, he fears hard work and he has no masculine control.

http://biblehub.com/proverbs/5-9.htm

http://biblehub.com/proverbs/5-10.htm

And foreigners will be filled with your power and your labor enter into the house of strangers

I think it’s fair to say you were warned that wanting to eat** (you laugh at people who believe in free lunches?) and sleep with foreigners will be your own death.

The Bible is expressly against feeding foreign invaders, actually…

Literal translation:*

for even when we were with you, this we did command you, that if any one is not willing to work, neither let him eat,
There’s no exemption for children either, they can do “chores” and earn their keep.

https://www.biblegateway.com/verse/en/2%20Thessalonians%203%3A10

and the ever-reliable

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thou_shalt_not_steal

**if we stopped importing the foreign food, the foreigners would leave
really, their group identity is that fragile

Kebabs or a future, pick one.

Bonus:

Part of Proverbs, section 5.

“And he will be held with the cords of his sin.”

If you were wondering about the karmic bond exchange of two people having sex (especially Satanic orgies, all orgies are Satanic because of this) then yes, that’s what it means. You can lump in demonic magic into the list of sins there, especially since the impure woman is impure already, which is great for her temporarily.

New readers see explanation here

https://disenchantedscholar.wordpress.com/2017/10/15/ever-notice-how-many-satanists-are-misogynists/

The concept of karma is literally the same as the Biblical concept of sin. It weighs you down, torments you, it can be shared. Modern people claim to be shocked by this last property until you ask them whether they avoid unlucky people… yeah… should actually be immoral people.

Cords of sin, karmic (energy) cords in New Age dogma.

http://www.insightfulinnovations.com/zykrblog/the-ties-that-bind

The ultimate curse falls onto the heads of those who attend orgies. Like, this negative bond thing, this pollutant parasite, is literally all a curse is.