Link: Seneca, Shortness of Life

Click to access on-the-shortness-of-life.pdf

Why do we complain of Nature? She has shown herself kindly; life, if you know how to use it, is long. But one man is possessed by greed that is insatiable, another by a toilsome devotion to tasks that are useless; one man is besotted with wine, another is paralyzed by sloth; one man is exhausted by an ambition that always hangs upon the decision of others…..

Character is important.

I’m tagging this with masculinity purely because it’s more important for men.

12 pages

Vices beset us and surround us on every side, and they do not permit us to rise anew and lift up our eyes for the discernment of truth, but they keep us down when once they have overwhelmed us and we are chained to lust.
Their victims are never allowed to return to their true selves; if ever they chance to find some release, like the waters of the deep sea which continue to heave even after the storm is past, they are tossed about, and no rest from their lusts abides. Think you that I am speaking of the wretches whose evils are admitted?

Fornication discouraged in men, 1892

I don’t like it when SJWs lie about sexuality and pretend men could be the biggest sluts they wanted, forever, without consequence.
I don’t like it when men lie about their historic sexual habits either. There’s no excuse.

I was going to quote but screencaps deter liars. This was the common opinion and backed by the doctors of the time. They just can’t stand the idea their ancestors would be ashamed of them and think of them as just as slutty as the women they insult.

I guess their red pill got stuck?

Continence (sexual control) and sexual hygiene were the rule throughout history, we hear about exceptions because they were exceptions.

(And rich, usually rich and insane, it’s still fun to read about those).

https://wellcomelibrary.org/item/b28050964#?c=0&m=0&s=0&cv=0&z=-0.6656%2C0.8599%2C2.8112%2C1.4224

Act like a savage, think like one. Pretty straightforward. Lust isn’t a virtue for men either. Giving in to any desire is a huge display of weakness.

The energy is meant to go to your development. Wasting it elsewhere stunts growth permanently. Degenerate is quite a physical phenomena. If you took identical twins, one would be taller, better-looking and healthier for abstaining compared to a profligate twin.

It does stunt the growth, they’re right. Neuroscience is finding (supernormal) stimulation is really, really bad for you, especially if you’re still developing – the development time is cut prematurely short because the energy gets burnt up. You have a finite supply. Puberty is meant to take many years. Telling men to masturbate, that it’s good for them, might be the first nail in the masculine coffin (same applies for women).

A retardation of your mature sex’s qualities. It’s horrendous.

The best-looking and sounding men I’ve ever seen simply had no desire to masturbate as teenagers (they were busy doing other things). They turned out really well, the so-called “late bloomer” just used to be… normal. By comparison, we all know plenty of people who peaked physically age fifteen then weirdly aged at speed.

Guess what they have in common.

It’s also no coincidence the best geniuses are virgins.

To this day, the life outcomes of those with impulse control are superior, including general health.

Suck on that.

If you want a biological mechanism for this, look into how caloric restriction works. Your body has finite life processing power. Don’t waste it.

Most self-help books for men came in the form of morality lessons.
https://archive.org/details/dangersignals00clar
https://archive.org/details/advicetoyoungmen01cobb

Because they needed it.

No man is beyond reproach.

Brain development and face

Shocking

http://www.unz.com/article/can-we-judge-people-by-what-they-look-like-in-fact-yes/

UNZ and VD are behind

http://charltonteaching.blogspot.co.uk/2018/01/appearances-may-not-be-deceptive-new.html

Appearances are not always deceptive. Indeed, quite the opposite! In this highly informative and entertaining mini-book, Dr Dutton surveys the psychological data in support of the neglected idea that we can tell a lot about someone from how they look. 

They’re still trying to ignore Charlton because he’s genuine.

Really it’s about character. Good or bad.

Do a study on the rise of ugly news readers.

Character and Success by Roosevelt (1900)

http://www.foundationsmag.com/tr-character.html

Bodily vigor is good, and vigor of intellect is even better, but far above both is character. It is true, of course, that a genius may, on certain lines, do more than a brave and manly fellow who is not a genius; and so, in sports, vast physical strength may overcome weakness, even though the puny body may have in it the heart of a lion. But, in the long run, in the great battle of life, no brilliancy of intellect, no perfection of bodily development, will count when weighed in the balance against that assemblage of virtues, active and passive, of moral qualities, which we group together under the name of character; and if between any two contestants, even in college sport or in college work, the difference in character on the right side is as great as the difference of intellect or strength the other way, it is the character side that will win.

applause

Psychology is returning to an appreciation of this with obscure terms like wit, grit and resilience.

Link: ‘Saving the World’ and other delusions

http://thefutureprimaeval.net/on-saving-the-world-and-other-delusions-2/

When you grow up, you stop believing in fairytales. Certainly, you don’t write yourself in as the Hero. Modern culture is infantile, many adults are more akin to children in maturity. The bubble about the Real World is the reason most of us are here. On Best Post I addressed this.

Ah. Can you hear Orwell laughing?

You can ignore me, but I’m not going away.
Neither are the ideas.

However, many of us have the uncanny experience of believing we are meeting a fellow adult only to hear as preposterous a belief as writing to Santa or hunting for the Easter Bunny. It’s hard to keep a straight face.

“I’m gonna change the world.”

laughing rdj crack up

“I’m gonna save the (animals)/(people)/(plants).”

At times like this, it's best to just run with it and laugh

“I’ll be such as awesome person when my dreams come true.” (Usually lottery)

snort lol laugh haha hmph derision yeah duh really uhuh mhmm princess bride

“I work so hard and I deserve this” (They work 20 hours in full a week, tops)

david tennant 10 lol laughing cracking up

“I don’t know why it happened, I did everything right.” (Where is the logic here)

crying laughter lmao

“They wouldn’t lie to me………………………………….”

dean winchester supernatural evil smirk lol laughing amused

“I don’t need a plan, it’s destiny, I know it.”

fake smile laughing wait what wut eh huh be normal dexter

“I’m passionate, all you need is passion” (2 mins later) “My life is so empty.”

Lestat laughter lol lmao haha IWTV film

They don’t hear themselves. They think aloud. The cognitive dissonance is apparent but if you draw their attention to it, it washes over them like a wave breaking over a sandcastle. They think they’re deep because they’re oversensitive and over-expressive (coining it) but really they’re deep as a paddling pool.

My favourites

“I’m a fucking Princess and I will get my Prince”

What to do when the "intellectuals" hit reality like a brick wall? Laugh, I guess

“I need (thing), (thing), (other thing) and (stuff) before I can be happy/human.”

This aims to be a neat summary. Neat explanations are frequently superior.

These people will never, ever be happy. Contented. Comfortable. Secure.

Their lives will always lack meaning. Don’t pity them, it’s terminal stupidity.

You know what they really want? Glory. They want the whole world to bow down in gratitude for how epic and awesome and totes magical they are, Just the Way They Are. They can’t be reasoned with, get out their way and possibly profit on their little crusade, as you fairly warn them not to do it. Play Devil.

you're fucked lol tilda constantine gabriel

These are the people who would have you shot for disagreeing with them. No quarter. No mercy. No option.

Almost all societies in the past had a complex bucket of metrics involving personal virtue, material success, and success of the family – with “impact on the state of the world” being an also-ran at best.

Between the 19th and 20th centuries, self-improvement switched from character, what you DO, to a model of personality, what you ARE. There’s your problem. The ___ of Personality.

Despite being their stated Life’s Purpose, they haven’t thought about Saving the World for five minutes straight. Know why?

“Saving it from who, exactly?”

The bad guys, presumably.

“What are you going to do with them?”

#~*sound of tumbleweed*~#

err what wut wtf scared rdj

That’s right, the fastest means to accomplish that goal is unpleasant, the fastest way to save the world (but not all humanity), involves mass murder. And that’s how history was made. Dictators and all. ‘Saving the World’ isn’t fun, kids. The question shouldn’t be Can I? The question should be Why would I?

Accurate gif, terrifyingly accurate

Video: Why do young people fake mental illness? Laziness

This discussion is important. Why are the number of claims in excess of the real ill?

  • Absolution of responsibility.
  • Victim cred, can be exchanged for a career as Professional Victim.
  • A bulletproof excuse.
  • Argument winner (that’s low, mentally ill people are conflict-avoidant in the first place).

n.b. The people who went to a therapist in good faith, told the truth and were among the overdiagnosed who actually have nothing wrong with themselves? You have my sympathy. You were let down. You should be glad you aren’t ill, you don’t have a disease. The therapist in a position of trust let you down, they weren’t being objective and you should consider suing, especially if you were on harmful medications. I don’t address you herein. You go away, you do you honeys. I’m here if you wanna vent.

rdj claps applause mhmm

The people who think it’s like picking out sweets to excuse their personal failings going through the DSM and self-diagnosing, with no training or background, who refuse to see a professional or listen to someone objective or lie to the therapist? For personal gain? No personal suffering unless you count being insufferable to those around you? Fuck you. That’s disgusting. It’s the mental equivalent of pretending to be disabled.

Most people can’t be mentally ill. The abnormal cannot be the norm, it’s an oxymoron and mathematically impossible.

Often, the fakers, ignoring Munchausen which would be deeply ironic, present their character flaws as a clinical problem because they were raised to rely upon the authority of the Medical Model instead of their parents. This is why Freud started out as a surgeon and brought in childhood stuff, recently validated in epigenetics.

However, your past doesn’t excuse your present if you aren’t literally ill. Medical test, brain scan ill. Positive psychology is for normal people who want to self-improve, the self-improvement sector stems from this line of theoretical thought. You aren’t ill, you’re capable of change and your brain is plastic. Well done.

Those with the temerity to self-diagnose (ignoring the people whose parasites gaslight them into believing they’re ill for personal gain, those parasite people in your social sphere might be ill themselves ironically) even avoid the clinical responsibility to work on their “disorder”. This is vital. A mental illness causes suffering. You want to do the work. For years. Decades. Forever. You want the pain to stop. You want to be “better”. Absence of this desire (barring anhedonia, you can test for) is …alarming.

Patients have as much responsibility for their condition as their therapist. This is what they mean by “You have to want XYZ” because you work together, you work with them. This differs from regular medicine unless you count the niche of lifestyle factors, and the fakes have trouble with this fact for obvious reasons. They hate standards.

Mental illness is for life, and then comes the liar’s rejection of the whole shebang because hard work is hard.

They skip appointments out of laziness, they refuse medication knowing and sometimes openly complaining it does nothing (regular patients want it to do something). Having any illness and following any prescribed work is hard work, and you can spot those people like red flags in a sea of white when they start acting up with their character flaws and pretending to be without agency when it’s convenient (a chorus of – I can’t! I can’t! I can’t!) or that they can’t be at fault or blamed for anything because Condition. Real mentally ill people are mortified at this abuse of their illness for expedience and never do it. This is a known problem when they take on too much, refusing to acknowledge the limits of their condition from pure motive: they try too hard. Often for the sake of loved ones. Sometimes they break down and grudgingly admit their condition was the cause of some problem or perceived failing, but surely observers can see the difference between the real deal and the fakes?

Some bad therapists use these fake people like cash cows, knowingly diagnosing them to either 1. make them go away foisted onto someone else or 2 make money off the diagnosis (yes, they do) and the pills (whether they’re taken or not). This is part of the reason we have personality disorders, treated in spite of the acknowledgement they can never be treated (go team logic). Essentially, their job is to stop the character flaws harming those around the cause, nothing about protecting the cause themselves.

Around the Turn of the Century, psychology went from discussion of character to personality. Personality is often nonsense, useful for hiring and other practical applications but clinically invalid. Character is about building up and working on skills and yourself. It’s a maturation process of growth anathema to the Millennials this in-authenticity afflicts in particular. The 20th century chose the easier convenience approach to Self and has been regretting it ever since. It doesn’t bloody work.

A great therapist hurts your feelings for your own good.

That is their job. They don’t tiptoe around your problems so you’ll be a good feeding trough. They want results.

They aren’t an adult nanny. They aren’t Mary Poppins of the Mind. You aren’t supposed to like them, that’s child psychologists for literal children (owing to the lack of maturation again).
They have more in common with Hannibal Lecter. They will go deeper into your psyche than you are comfortable with and extract the worst pain, watch you cry, be truly vulnerable, then comfort you and help you move on from it productively. You become a better person in their hands because they force you to become one, they mold you into a better version of yourself.

Yeah that’s all I can say on the subject of fakery without getting angry and unprofessional.