Parental absence lowers child happiness and intelligence

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/312357880_The_Effect_of_Parental_Absence_on_Child_Development_in_Rural_China_The_Effect_of_Parental_Absence_on_Child_Development

This includes emotional absence, re-marriage abandonment (abuse) and being ‘busy’ at work.

This study estimates the effect of parental absence on the development of children in rural China. Although some previous studies have looked into the effect of parental absence on children’s academic achievements, we investigate the effects of parental absence on both the cognitive and non-cognitive skills of children. Our results show that parental absence during early child development mostly incurs negative effects on the academic achievement and non-cognitive development of children. A child whose parents are both absent tends to have lower Chinese and mathematics test scores, lower self-assessment on his/her behavior, and is less likely to be happy and satisfied. A gender difference is also observed in the effect of parental absence: girls suffer more from the effect of both parents being absent on their mathematics test scores than do boys.

Remember, neglect is a form of child abuse.

A parent working over-time for their ego doesn’t actually care for the child.

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/11/151130084008.htm

We looked at children who were left behind with relatives when the parents left to seek employment far from home.”

For the study, which was led by Professor Su Lui and conducted at the Second Affiliated Hospital & Yuying Children’s Hospital of Wenzhou Medical University, MRI exams from 38 left-behind girls and boys (ages 7 to 13) were compared to MRI exams from a control group of 30 girls and boys (ages 7 to 14) living with their parents. The researchers then compared the gray matter volume between the two groups and measured the intelligence quotient (IQ) of each participant to assess cognitive function.

The researchers found larger gray matter volumes in multiple brain regions, especially in emotional brain circuitry, in the left-behind children compared to children living with their parents. The mean value of IQ scores in left-behind children was not significantly different from that of controls, but the gray matter volume in a brain region associated with memory encoding and retrieval was negatively correlated with IQ score.

Since larger gray matter volume may reflect insufficient pruning and maturity of the brain, the negative correlation between the gray matter volume and IQ scores suggests that growing without parental care may delay brain development.

Both parents.

Skipping out to work all the time to get out of the house is still neglectful. We have the MRIs.

They have to do, like 1/3 of the parenting at least, some interactions.

“Our study provides the first empirical evidence showing that the lack of direct parental care alters the trajectory of brain development in left-behind children,” Xiao said. “Public health efforts are needed to provide additional intellectual and emotional support to children left behind by parents.”

Or shame the parents who think a promotion is more important than children.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3904543/

This is the red pill.

The Causal Effects of Father Absence

[not inc. if he was actively abusive if present, obviously]

The literature on father absence is frequently criticized for its use of cross-sectional data and methods that fail to take account of possible omitted variable bias and reverse causality. We review studies that have responded to this critique by employing a variety of innovative research designs to identify the causal effect of father absence, including studies using lagged dependent variable models, growth curve models, individual fixed effects models, sibling fixed effects models, natural experiments, and propensity score matching models. Our assessment is that studies using more rigorous designs continue to find negative effects of father absence on offspring well-being, although the magnitude of these effects is smaller than what is found using traditional cross-sectional designs. The evidence is strongest and most consistent for outcomes such as high school graduation, children’s social-emotional adjustment, and adult mental health.

https://adc.bmj.com/content/103/7/691

Parental absence in early childhood and onset of smoking and alcohol consumption before adolescence

Parental absence was associated with early uptake of risky health behaviours in a large, nationally representative UK cohort. Children who experience parental absence should be supported in early life in order to prevent smoking and alcohol initiation.

Pre-teen degeneracy. They’re also likelier to sleep around, do other drugs and commit crime but I’ve posted how that’s most common in mixed race kids before. Racial confound.

R-selected children with neglectful fathers (or mothers, and/or both) are lower quality per child than they otherwise would be. There’s no ‘sowing oats’ and novelty-seeking when you have kids, total myth. Normalizes child abuse.

Vegans stupid while pregnant again

B12 deficiency causes pre-term birth (higher risk of disease, death) and lower birth weight (yeah, like smoking).

https://academic.oup.com/aje/article/185/3/212/2918733

Really at this point it’s a controlled late abortion than a birth, isn’t it?

Globally, preterm birth and low birth weight (LBW) cause more than a third of the 2.9 million neonatal deaths each year, and prevention of these events is an important component of reducing the mortality rate among children younger than 5 years of age (1, 2). The causes of preterm birth, however, are complex, and few interventions have been successful in preventing it (3).

Really.

Eat some fucking cheese. So complex.

tfw Mother Nature hates you.

However, in a recent meta-analysis, Haider and Bhutta (10) concluded that multiple-micronutrient supplementation may reduce the risk of LBW and the number of stillbirths but not the risk of preterm birth or neonatal mortality. Thus, a more targeted micronutrient supplementation practice may be warranted.

Won’t work.

You can’t supplement stupidity.

If they’d rather the baby die than get over themselves, they don’t deserve kids.

I love the ineffectual response of “supplements won’t work, but our solution is more of them”.

Your intellectual betters, behold!

Importantly, B12 deficiency may be a proxy for inadequate nutritional status, and it is possible that some of our findings are related to nutritional status and not specifically to B12. A predominantly plant-based diet is low in B12 but also other nutrients, such as vitamin D and zinc, that to some degree may be associated with preterm birth (42–44). We did not have information on dietary intake or blood levels of these nutrients. Nutritional status could explain the present finding of an association between B12 and birth weight in low- and middle-income countries but not high-income countries. However, lower vitamin B12 levels were associated with higher risk of preterm birth irrespective of country income. It seems less likely that nutritional status can fully explain this finding.

Vegetarianism: the Third World baby death diet.

Indian women generally have lower dietary intakes of B12 because of their mainly vegetarian diet, making them susceptible to B12 deficiency (46). Additionally, Indian newborns are among the smallest in the world (45). Our findings suggest that pregnancies already at the greatest risk of resulting in small newborns were the ones that were most vulnerable to low levels of B12. The association between B12 and the risk of preterm birth was consistent across studies in both high-income and low- and middle-income countries, and generalization to countries not studied may be feasible.

Stop eating vegan junk food.

In line with our findings, maternal obesity has been associated with B12 deficiency in several populations (47, 48). It has been hypothesized that this association is due to altered fat distribution and metabolism in overweight women compared with normal-weight women (47). Maternal weight is positively correlated with newborn weight (49), and failure to adjust for maternal weight may underestimate a positive association between B12 and birth weight.

Clearly Mother Nature is fatphobic.

paper 43
Zinc supplementation for improving pregnancy and infant outcome
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25927101
44
Vitamin D supplementation for women during pregnancy
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3747784/
https://www.cochrane.org/CD008873/PREG_vitamin-d-supplementation-women-during-pregnancy

Put down the leafy greens.
“However, it appears that when vitamin D and calcium are combined, the risk of preterm birth is increased.”

Maternity leave good for children, misogynists

The mothers are far from being selfish* and lazy.

(*Expecting the man to make the money, his gender role?)

http://bernard.pitzer.edu/~dmoore/psych199s03articles/Brooks-Gunn_Daycare.pdf
Show me the equivalent study on fathers, please. [TLDR Tender Years is true.**]

Past nine months, needs more research to say it’s bad (the positive claim, burden of proof).

**You’d expect this loss of the father is survivable since men died all the time of war, hunting and disease yet we’re demonstrably still here. 

Note for idiots: Survivable is not desirable. Hume is disappointed in you.

Ideally, women should take maternity leave, if the couple can afford to. Whether she does or not is her husband’s business (read: not yours).

-Gender games

https://www.mercatornet.com/conjugality/view/the-myth-of-the-transgender-desistance-myth/21592

It’s a phase caused to numb the pain of an unhappy time in a person’s life, like SJWism or MGTOW.

Transgender: it isn’t you, it’s your anatomy. (logically, still you)
SJW: it isn’t you, it’s white people. (so no, they aren’t feminists, race>sex or male examples wouldn’t exist)
MGTOW: it isn’t you, it’s women. (usually white women, so cucks)

When the time passes, it disappears like a goth phase. Otherwise, Hulk rage.

Last month a new chapter was opened in the debate on childhood desistance with the publication of a new article in the International Journal of Transgenderism by a group of transgender-affirming activists and clinicians headed by Julia Temple Newhook. Desistance is when children who are diagnosed as gender dysphoric by medical practitioners go on to accept their bodies and do not end up identifying as transgender once they have passed through puberty. The article questions the exceedingly high rates of desistance reported by previous studies.

Kenneth Zucker’s rebuttal, “The myth of persistence,” is a brilliant riposte. Zucker, a psychologist and clinical lead from 1981 to 2015 at the Child Youth and Family Gender Identity Clinic (GIC), Center for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH), is an internationally renowned specialist in the field of gender dysphoria and gender-identity development as well as the editor of the journal  Archives of Sexual Behavior.

Just pointing out it’s a mental illness will get you arrested here.

Are anorexics fat too? Must I be forced to agree publicly? (dysphoria has many forms)

What about class dysphoria? Must I treat a poor man like a rich man?

This has been about revoking your right to “treat as you find” and express disapproval.

The American Psychiatric Association named Zucker to be the head of the Sexual and Gender Identity Disorders group in 2008 for the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, also known as the  DSM-5, and he is a member of the World Professional Association for Transgender Health  (WPATH). In short, Zucker is a professionally trained psychologist with a profound expertise in gender dysphoria and the intricacies involved with childhood gender identity disorder (GID) diagnosis (which was reclassified as Gender Dysphoria under the DSM-5).  …

Trans activists spearheaded a successful campaign to have Zucker terminated following what Jesse Singal refers to as a “show trial.”

SJWs Always Lie.

Turkeys for Christmas.

It goes to show the depth of their illness, when if you don’t mutilate and harm their group, they’ll punish you.

To reconcile the cognitive dissonance (e.g. cosmetic surgery won’t change a misdiagnosed personality disorder) they force others to make the same mistake out of spite, in a classic sunk cost fallacy.

Typically, if someone wants a ton of cosmetic surgery and a complete physical overhaul, you’d be looking at NPD, BPD and possibly ASPD if they want to look “sexier” (to be a better predator). It’s like changing the cover on a lamp, it doesn’t really matter. In a personality disorder, they will never, ever admit this. Because there’s no bulb.

They want to know they’re worth spending the money on for surgery. Narcissistic, seeking external validation. Covert narcissism can present as constant victimhood and helplessness (a manipulation tactic). The money as a lump sum would work on this group because they’d suddenly “change their mind” and not want surgery.

OR that they can manipulate the clinicians to get what they want, sociopathic. So they’d push for brain surgery if it were the most prestigious treatment option.

OR they think it would actually help, having no stable identity to show, borderline (halfway between neurotic and psychotic). Then they actually have a reason to commit self-murder because they chopped off and “killed” parts of their anatomy already and there’s no going back. Even if you could magically get a POP! new body, you’d need to do years of brutal psychological hard work (adolescence) developing a real personality. No shortcuts.

Painting a door won’t change the house location.

I would hypothesize that when more follow-up data of children who socially transition prior to puberty become available, the persistence rate will be extremely high. This is not a value judgment—it is simply an empirical prediction . . . parents who support, implement, or encourage a gender social transition (and clinicians who recommend one) are implementing a psychosocial treatment that will increase the odds of long-term persistence.  

Allow the parents to push it on condition that, as an adult, their child can sue them for barbaric sexual mutilation if they’re wrong and using them for attention (abuse!)…

The pills affect brain development so it’d be quite a lawsuit.

Taking the “desistance myth” and inverting it perfectly, Zucker shows how the Temple Newhook commentary speaks against desistance by pushing social transition:

Temple Newhook et al. (2018) go on to state that “It is important to acknowledge that discouraging social transition [with reference to the Dutch team’s putative therapeutic approach] is itself an intervention with the potential to impact research findings . . .” Fair enough. But Temple Newhook et al. (2018) curiously suppress the inverse: encouraging social transition is itself an intervention with the potential to impact findings. I find this omission astonishing.

Translation: liar liar pants on fire

Why are women delaying children?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-5908717/Women-freezing-eggs-unable-men-commit-relationship.html

They can’t find a man to commit to the investment with.

“Single women are freezing their eggs due them being unable to find men who will commit to a relationship, rather than to focus on their careers, new research suggests.
Delaying motherhood to focus on work is the least common reason women undergo the procedure, a Yale University study found today.”

“Some 85 percent of the participants were single”

The instinct is that strong.

“Speaking of the findings , study author Dr Marcia Inhorn said: ‘Our study suggests that the lack of a stable partner is the primary motivation. Freezing eggs holds out hope for many”

It isn’t education, it’s the stability of marriage.
Speak to women.

this comment explains the ignorance
“Men wanted to settle down when in their 20s. Stop blaming men for your failures women”

Where are the men financially capable and willing to settle in their 20s? They don’t exist anymore, Grandpa. And a woman still needs to earn food and other living expenses before getting married?

They want totally helpless Disney princess women who magically survived until he showed up.

That’s impossible.

Oh and she has to be super tough and rugged and cool – and deeply feminine!

Frilly apron wearing, pie-baking, gun-toting anal-sex preferring cool girl!

Manic Pixie Dream Waifu!

Wow, why do they attract borderlines so much who try to be everything?

They have no idea what they actually need is simple (and not contradictory) because they feel their wife should be a status symbol, there I said it. Who gives a shit what people think, you bloody omegas. It’s a wife, not a girlfriend. There’s a reason those never work out aka FAIL. The things you look for make it short term. You don’t know what you want.

Male choices are polluted. Your instincts are wrong.

They also focus on trivial shit like music taste and video games and whether they tolerate your BS (enabling is toxic, actually) then ignore divorce risk things like needing matching religion and politics. That includes your own. If you want a Christian, you need to be a real Christian or your divorce risk is still high. You can’t blame the other party. You cannot mitigate your divorce risk by choosing a “good” woman – and why would those women want them? It’s an investment, both parties need to decide to invest.

Imagine –

It’s 6pm, the baby won’t stop crying and your husband prefers a horrid desk job to seeing his child now the novelty’s worn off. The dinner you slaved over for three hours is cold and you’re pretty sure he’s fucking his secretary. All he does is give you money like a child then ignore you like a baby-making Furby. Sexually you’re frustrated because he doesn’t want you since he insisted on watching the baby come out and insisting you breastfeed. You feel ugly, exhausted and unloved. He’s nicer to his friends than he is to you.

That’s practically more miserable than the single mother getting the same or more money.

Was this man a real man? Was he a good choice? Is he superficial or successful?

Selfish people will fail in their marriage. Any selfish person must never ever marry.

If there’s no mutual exchange, they severely over-rate their attractiveness e.g. age 25+, 30+, 35+ = freaky sperm psychiatric risk. Women sense this. It doesn’t matter if you’re Don Draper IRL if you’re unhealthy. Plus cheating is the most common reason for divorce so the ones who plan to cheat deserve to be abandoned, they broke their vow. It’s like signing for insurance and defrauding, they don’t owe you because bad faith, trust bond is gone. Hey, stoning would be cheaper than divorce lawyers and less painful.

A man’s sperm is best age 18. Biologically, men should marry and reproduce 18-21, to 25 latest. The manosphere totally ignores this because it doesn’t care about you. A woman’s fertility peaks 21-28. The system must stabilize. They lie about these things, however I doubt they can read the data and with women it’s more intra-family health. Schools do not inform boys they even have a biological clock! Like the retirement scam.

Another thing these guys in the comments typically say – women should “prep” for decades to be good wives (mileage of definition may vary) but men just need to show up at the end of the aisle one day with penis. That is how all millennia of societies worked, O.K. I guess they own a katana too?

Most comments also fall for the “women want Don Draper career man” trope.
No? Traditional women want a man who is around! Nobody wants a spouse they never see!

nobody.

There are plenty of divorced or single rich men who thought money bought wife approval. She can get her own money? The kids hate them too, it’s a film trope for a reason, it’s fucking child abuse. It’s physical abandonment however much money you throw at them in guilt and their brains still demonstrate it (and in girls things like menarche hitting earlier, as if they’re dead!)…

They have no idea what women want. Look at how Don cracked at the end of that show, those guys are rich spoiled losers totally dependent on a fake economy and rigged promotion system. The gold watch career is GONE. Raising a family on one income is OVER. Workaholism isn’t sexy. It’s a mental problem.

Women have always worked, just not the easily taxed forms? They expect a lot of work from such a woman (at least 50 hours a week, add it up!) but disrespect her enough not to call it that?

That’s your woman, you should be singing her praises!

And they won’t do their fair share, even with childcare?

But nannies are evil and kids need their dad around? For what? To stare at them like possessions?

The guys saying this shit wouldn’t last a week being normal (no fast food and so on) with a small group of well-behaved kids. They’d snap.

Humans didn’t evolve to raise a kid, singular, alone. They need round the clock care, especially babies. You need shifts. I’m betting those guys refuse to let her live around relatives to help out because Muh Career.

The 50s postcard was bullshit even then. Everyone drank, smoked and medicated to numb it.

You need to go back older than that. They refuse. They’re too lazy to be real men. Everyone works. Nobody gets to sit with their feet up being an alcoholic porn addict or whatever. God America, what happened?

Oh, it’s past five so you get to be a slob? No? Parents do things they don’t like all the time! You have to. Dependents aren’t appliances that switch off at 5.30pm week nights. Only a man child would disagree. You are a parent forever. No breaks. These are the guys who bitch about lunch breaks. That’s why women avoid them. The man is meant to be the strong horse, biologically. A woman has to rely on him. He can’t sit there expecting foot rubs when she’s been working all day too (more manual work*, usually, in a weaker body) and there’s hours of work still.

The 50s started daycare and nursery cheats, remember. It was never humanly possible!

Okay, good luck finding a magic woman who will throw a sword at you, while we’re at it, when you can’t accept simple red pill truths about the modern world. This is it. This is the world you live in. It sucks for women too.

Like, if she is with you for your money that’s dumb. You will lose your job. Then what? And did you never see Desperate Housewives? Hours of time to cheat with Juan the Poolboy if all you provide is cash. What about when you retire?

They can’t say “it’s good when we avoid family for the ego boost of a career (don’t lie) but the need in this economy for a woman to earn her keep makes her evil” and “we refuse to marry and single mothers are the devil but women should have magical babies supported by magic money and raised by magic invisible fathers”.

Like, pick a narrative and stick with it, bitches.

Men who hate domestic life? NEVER MARRY.

When an adult chooses to become a parent and they’d make a bad parent, the child suffers.

Picture your kid hating you. If you get angry, never breed. Narcissists don’t want kids, they want supply. The internet confuses the motives.

*Irony: modern mother has more manual exhausting work than her desk job husband.

Interpersonal deprivation from single fathers

If you’re going to call out something dysfunctional, nobody gets off scot-free.

http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/019251394015001006

Snape is underrated as an inspiration

If modern fathers were so great, their kids wouldn’t be whining on blogs about their bitch of a Mom, there wouldn’t be a criminal element or out-of-wedlock birth rates. Emotionally disturbed children are low fitness. A child is not like a talking dog or a car you can throw in the garage while you continue a Peter Pan bachelor deathstyle.

There aren’t many studies on single fathers because most men are too cowardly to stick around and do the hard work of raising a child they produced, a slight bias in the sample. Naturally, this scorn I heap on doesn’t apply to the widowed or those abandoned without a choice. Indeed, those men are truly courageous and society should support them. Real Patriarchs, great men. Doubly so if they don’t harm the child by re-marriage and commit to the greatest responsibility a person can have, re-marriage is selfish and purely for the parent’s sex life and social status. Look up the Cinderella effect for starters. Gen X onward gave us plenty to study, fake parents fuck you up. The abusive step-father is a cliche.

Single mothers are actually, as implied by studies like these, better-equipped to raise alone (but not ideal and not to be encouraged). Their struggles are largely external and economic, rather than inner psychiatric like the fathers who get easily overwhelmed and murder the children in all the newspaper stories to spite the mother. Scientifically, you would expect this difference from evolution, women have childcare, men have warfare. Questioning either one is pure idiocy. There are dimorphic reasons for this advantage like female empathy, EI, neural responsiveness to a baby’s cries, lower chance of infanticide by far compared to easily frustrated men but socially, women were often widowed after wars. Brothers, uncles and cousins would step in and help past the tender years. Single parents with a ‘support network’ of extended family are completely fine, considering. When compared, it is worse to have a single parent father than a single parent mother. Yet nobody dare say anything.

Accurate gif, terrifyingly accurate

You people make me sick, claiming to care about the children. Stefan is shit-scared of this topic and he discusses almost everything.

But about the ones who choose to neglect their spawn, a form of abuse…

How could you be so selfish to deliberately harm your future children like that, especially after criticizing women for doing the same thing?
I know someone in child psych (academia-famous name) who calls people who deliberately become single parents “monsters” because all the life outcomes and even the kid’s physical health suffer. “How could someone do that on purpose? There are some evil people, they aren’t just little Mini-Mes.”
And it is always about the narcissistic parent. Spend fifteen minutes researching the damage of being raised by one, it’s the template for dysfunction.
They swear off having kids themselves, from spite and we can’t really blame them. If you don’t learn healthy parenting in a dual-unit healthy household united by a strong marriage with no cheating (distrust is the killer), it’s difficult to come back from. It’s like bargain-basement child-rearing, also, why are people trying to make this one thing so cheap? This is the one thing you don’t want to cheap out on. Nothing else in your life matters. If you wouldn’t die for your child, don’t have one.
They, that neglectful type, have the nerve to then complain about women fobbing off kids to daycare and nannies, oh, so they won’t do any less than 100% of the childcare, all by themselves? Right?

No room to move on that standard?

The narcissism of small differences is aptly named.

Having children is bigger than marriage. If you won’t get married, you can’t handle kids. If you want to inflict the cold world of rootless parenting into a child’s life, please get sterilized, it’s for the best. Those parents end up hating the child once they realize the hard way what it’s about. You can’t return them to the store or dump them like a girlfriend.

The mental issues are caused by being taken care of by strangers and an absentee or inferior parent. These guys are never dedicated. They love their drinking buddies more. Seriously.

Children take up all your time, even bathroom time. They couldn’t babysit for a week, I’d bet money. Solo, no help, for a week, none of them wanna do it. So much for being alpha and taking responsibility, lol. If it’s so easy, if it isn’t hard work, get paid for it?

They’re little children themselves, they cannot handle it. Most deny what it takes.

That means only part-time work max, no nights out, no business conventions and no holidays. Like, ever. No holidays. Considering how many of these guys complain about freedom, it’s a little like they’re locking themselves into a Houdini straitjacket. Plus chunky padlocks.

The good parents aren’t online saying how easy it is. No good parent says it’s easy. Those are outside observers or the shit ones.

This is with two parents and a marital support. Everything comes second to kids, especially companies: you are no longer an individual when you have dependents.

https://www.inc.com/jeremy-bodenhamer/5-lessons-that-saved-my-marriage-after-my-startup-almost-killed-it.html

Not to mention, surrogates have pitiful quality genes. National IQ India: 82.

https://www.reuters.com/article/us-surrogate-mothers-india/surrogate-mothers-in-india-unaware-of-risks-idUSKBN0LY1J720150302

“Babies from multiple pregnancies are more likely to be premature or have cerebral palsy or learning disabilities”

When Tanderup asked doctors if they told surrogate mothers how many embryos they transfer, one answered: “No, we never ask them and they are not even informed how many are going to be transferred. They are illiterate, uneducated girls.”

Clinics typically reduce the number of fetuses according to commissioning parents’ wishes. A lethal solution is injected into unwanted fetuses around week 10 of pregnancy.

Then there’s your children you murdered for being inconvenient. Turns out, men can get abortions too!

Nobody says a fucking thing.

Last month Thailand outlawed surrogacy services for foreigners following several scandals, including an Australian couple that allegedly abandoned a baby with Down syndrome with his Thai mother but took his healthy twin home with them.

thatsjustsickewwtfgrossno

When you mix chocolate with shit, it all becomes shit. Don’t be shocked if it’s retarded, and I wonder if you’d indulge in the 24/7 round the clock care required?

http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/tog.12010/full

I don’t think so.

[And yes, the risk of birth defects and disabilities skyrockets with artificial methods. The fact they didn’t look this up, first page Google-tier, doesn’t surprise me. They’re low IQ.]

Parents must cooperate, Trivers researched why and even proved it mathematically. Children need a balance of their influences. And if you think girls or boys are innately inferior, you don’t deserve to breed. I ask the men planning on using a surrogate, what happens if you have a little girl? You understand nothing about little girls. Great way to make a lesbian, though. Look up role model theory.

Unless you’re going to cross-dress and roleplay the feminine influence too?