Beware fake trad man

I’m not naming names but sudden engagements are doomed to misery.

https://www.bolde.com/14-little-things-look-like-love-actually-manipulation/

7. HE WANTS TO START A FAMILY. This is obviously a normal, lovely thing to want, but watch how it’s done. If his goal is to have a family so that you can quit working and stay at home with the baby, in a home far away from where your loved ones are, it could be part of his plan to isolate you and take control of your life: he’ll be controlling your whereabouts, your finances and everything else soon enough.

10. HE TELLS YOU HOW MUCH BETTER YOU ARE THAN OTHER WOMEN. You might see it as a compliment when he says all his exes were psychotic but you’re so much better than them. Hey, maybe you’re the best woman he’s ever met. These can be compliments, but not if he’s showing signs of being sexist and discriminatory. He might say, “Women are so [insert negative adjective here], but you’re not like them.” Um, hello? You’re a woman! It’s damn insulting.

etc.

Husband selection is more important than just getting married.

A chimp could get married in Vegas – probably.

I have a pet theory these women become this type after a few years.

https://disenchantedscholar.wordpress.com/2018/07/17/the-scourge-of-the-bitter-mother/

The second line is a definite indicator of abuse.

Sometimes handcuffs look like wedding rings, bitches.

12. HE SUGGESTS THINGS “FOR YOUR OWN GOOD.” He cares about you so much that he’ll show you a better way to do your job, speak to your best friend, make a cup of tea and even lose those extra pounds (that you didn’t even notice). It’s not for your own good at all — it’s his way of controlling you. But screw that, you’re a grown woman who can damn well decide what’s best for you.

This isn’t Build-a-Bitch.

If he doesn’t want to marry you, he doesn’t want to marry Y O U.

If you’re really that incompetent, he shouldn’t be attracted.

Saviour complex and toxic relationships

Something I don’t want to mock, excellent!
You’d think for the part of the internet that goes on, and on, and ON about victim complex, they’d also cover literally the other half?

https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/10/savior-complex-toxic-relationship/

“If you want to be the savior, you’re essentially saying to your partner that you see them as a project to be fixed.

Even if the challenge of their flaws isn’t the primary reason you’re attracted to them and even if they want your help, it still sends the message that you think they need to improve and better themselves somehow.

First of all, you’re dating someone, not flipping a house. You might convince them to make minor lifestyle changes, but you can’t expect them to completely overhaul themselves. It’s a little bit condescending to treat them as your personal pet project.

Unless you’re at least psychologically healthy, don’t. Sick people make other sick people even sicker.

Maybe they do want to make changes. Maybe they do have a certain goal in mind. That’s great. Allow them to accomplish something on their own. You can support them without spoon-feeding them.”

Don’t throw off the power dynamic, it’s unhealthy and neither one will be happy.

“You’re their partner, not their parent.”

And there it is.
Paging Doctor Freud…

“Second of all, your partner might be perfectly fine with the way they are and not want to make any changes. If you look for flaws as a means of finding a purpose or direction for the relationship, that speaks more to issues you might want to address within yourself.”

This is a male problem in particular. Hoe > Housewife? Hoe isn’t short for housewife.
They’re a person, they aren’t a broken car. Fix, repair, review are not words you apply to people.
You need to like them and they need to relax and be human around you without panicking you’re jotting a performance review in your head.

You may laugh but I’ve seen a lot of men do just that and wonder why every woman resents them. They intellectualize their controlling tendencies for ego. Golden rule, dudes. They never ‘improve’ other men.

Rescuers have a condition, the expectation you’ll save them back. In abundance of their effort.
It isn’t altruistic unless you mean the pathological kind. It’s calculating and dishonest.
This is why you pay therapists, the motive to help is clear.

If one person is Dad, but Tyrannical Dad, and always right, you’re wrong to be with them. They don’t want a relationship, they don’t want to relate and be vulnerable, they want an assistant.
If they can’t see themselves clearly, they can’t see you over their issues.

“Your partner is not your therapist, nor are they obligated to heal your past wounds.”
^This.

Where do they learn this? Ally McBeal?
I’ve seen men complain woman B, C, D… was evil because they didn’t ‘prove’ they were different from woman A. That’s an issue with woman A. Your issue. Especially if she’s your mother. Without woman A, you’d see those others clearly. They’ll never fix it or admit they seek rescue because it would mean being humble and accepting weakness or wounds. Avoiding help isn’t impressive, ’tis but a scratch, right?
Don’t get me started on the ones so jaded and terrible they’ve managed to turn the greatest thing in LIFE, into a child’s game.
Better to punch yourself in the nuts repeatedly, it’d hurt less.

Even if you do save them, what then? You have nothing in common anymore.

If they’re perfect, why would they stick around with you, the one who thought they were broken, instead of moving onto someone better? Objectively better.

Why hate on fairytales? The originals were hardcore. Anyone who believes the Disneyfied versions is already too simple to educate.

Video: When male feminists drop the mask of sanity

4:52-5:17

That’s it.

That’s what they’re really like.

Such progress, with the whorephobia and insulting an innocent woman to get at a man.

If you think they would never do this to a woman, you would be wrong.
I have experienced this in real life when I dare disagree with them, a man boy.

There are misogynists in the world, but most of them hide behind the label ‘male feminist’ like a boy hiding behind his Mother’s apron. They blow their top because there are women they can’t control or fool.

I’ve noticed they’re even cowards when doling out threats. Instead of laying claim to it “I want to/will X” they will make it passive and say something like “I hope X happens to you” so cancer is common, also being raped, or “You do X” like suicide to cover for the fact they want to murder you (subtle) or some projected self-loathing like “If you died, nobody would come to the funeral” – they like that one. I laugh at that because ‘if’, like yeah, we could die…. or we could choose not to.

Pointing out this passive-aggression is the source of all their lives’ problems goes over well. I usually make it clear their conceit (disagreeing with me is a capital crime) doesn’t match their averageness. They hate being reminded of their averageness.

My advice for redpill women out there?

There is only one thing you can do. Let them run. Let everyone watch what a disgusting person they are, as they threaten to rape you and torture you (in public) in ways no sane person could come up with on the fly, and maybe film it. For the police. Seriously. They can lash out. If they demand a response, mildly amused mastery in your voice at their “true misogyny” is the way to go. Poker face. It confuses them that you aren’t scared, they erotically get off on your fear.

I’ve seen feminist groups ostracize men on the basis of these performances against me. In disgust. They’re that bad.