Signs of an Emotionally Immature Adult

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-superhuman-mind/201611/10-signs-emotionally-immature-adult

Little Prince (or Princess) Syndrome, when it occurs in adulthood, is also known as Peter Pan Syndrome.”
Little Prince (or Princess) Syndrome is related to, but not identical to, Emperor Syndrome, a term is primarily used to describe Chinese boys with no siblings who behave like little tyrants.”

Unfair, Princess Syndrome is more common with the Chinese women at present. You don’t see Chinese men giggling and running round big Chanel stores with their friends on Daddy’s credit card.

“Little Princes and Princesses, as I define them, are grown men or women who act as if they are selfish children, narcissistic teenagers, or irresponsible young adults, and feel entitled to behave as they see fit. Following are 10 traits typical of someone living with Little Prince or Princess Syndrome. (For simplicity’s sake, I use the term Little Prince below, and refer to the role of mothers, not father, but the signs are applicable to all genders.)”

A selection;

He acts like a child, a teenager, or a person who is much younger than he is. He might throw temper tantrums or party all night with people 10 years younger than him.

He acts as if women should serve him. He expects to be taken care of and be pampered on demand. He will happily take but never give.

He cannot maintain a long-term, stable romantic relationship. Former partners end up becoming his enemies or new playmates.

He is commitment-phobic in nearly all areas of life—despite having a needy attachment style. It can take him six months to commit to buying a new sofa.

I have seen that.
My words-
“It’s a sofa, you can dump it.”

They see their possessions as an extension of them.
Possessions include people.

If you don’t make them look good, you’re gone.
The excuse is usually pleasing others, so they also look good to you. B.S.

Btw, Asians invented ghosting. You made less money? You missed a promotion? They forget to send you a dinner party invite. It makes you wonder if they’re capable of the friendship thing with one another too.

He is often passive-aggressive, meaning he has a tendency to engage in an indirect expression of hostility through acts such as subtle insults, sullen behavior, stubbornness, or a deliberate failure to accomplish required tasks.

They are not subtle.
Have you ever met a subtle man?… I rest my case.

He is a narcissist or exhibits a childish selfishness. If something is even mildly inconvenient, he will resist doing it.

Emotional child.

He rarely thinks anything is his fault. He blames everyone around him for everything that goes wrong in his life—even his mother if he can’t find another scapegoat.”

Victim blaming, victim mentality… tendency to complain about victim culture because they think they’re entitled to that pity, not that it’s wrong. Whiny and lots of nagging, like an old woman.

If you find this useful, you might find these too.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/is-america/201601/con-artists-and-their-marks

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-flux/201610/9-classic-traits-manipulative-people

https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201609/meet-the-real-narcissists-theyre-not-what-you-think
“For example, he suggests, some narcissists can be of the “communal” variety and actually devote their lives to helping others. They might even agree with such statements as “I’m the most helpful person I know,” or “I will be known for the good deeds I have done.” “Everyone has met grandiosely altruistic martyrs, self-sacrificing to the point where you can’t stand to be in the room with them,” Malkin says.

And there are highly introverted, or “vulnerable,” narcissists. These individuals feel they are more temperamentally sensitive than others. They react poorly to even gentle criticism and need constant reassurance. The way they feel special might actually be negative: They may see themselves as the ugliest person at the party or feel like a misunderstood genius in a world that refuses to recognize their gifts.”

They can’t back up their claims and if you compare them, they’re usually average. Pointing this out triggers narc rage.

They don’t just ‘use’ others, they use others as…. it’s instrumental.

They cannot self-regulate, they use other people as emotional tampons (especially men) and require excess ‘take’ and their giving is inferior, low quality but they over-value it because *they* are dispensing it. Thinking you’re special is in your actions, not a set of words. Tend to idolize others too, broken perceptions.

No ego? Really no brain

http://www.xenosystems.net/quote-note-317/

Yes, this lines up with what I’ve read.

Of course there’s something or what is speaking?
What is the inner monologue, if not Freud’s ego?

Ego holds the reins between id and superego.

Id is the enemy. Rampant desire. Hidden.

What holds the id? Ego.

Superego can be an enemy if neurotic or misinformed. Hidden.

What holds it? Ego.

You need ego.

Ego is the nice guy here. Ego is never the enemy.

You need identity.

It’s incredible they claim to be a vegan biswicurious lemur from the future, whatever identity, but then go on to claim they don’t have an ego.

Ego when formless produces no identity and no opinions.

Read a damn book about the terms you use. It’s a technical term and layman use is really for overwhelming id and WEAK ego. Ego is never hidden so we refer to it often, it’s observable, because it’s faulty by being too weak, confusing regular people, who assume it’s too strong because we keep discussing it but the force behind is coming from other constructs. Psychodynamic 101. Further battering that weakness with meditation or whatever else will make your neurotic desire-based anxiety worse.

It’s like saying there’s no Buddha. They refer to the individual, idiots.

Link: What ‘progressive’ liberals do best

http://www.conservativehome.com/thecolumnists/2016/11/what-do-progressive-liberals-do-best.html

Political correctness does exist as a competing form of manners among the middle-middle class, and it posits superiority over those above it (as, absurdly, privileged) as well as those beneath it (ignorant bigots).

In a word, it’s signalling masquerading as manners.

Funny how they’re exempt on ALL counts. Imagine what they were like as children! Shh, I’m telling! You used a bad word! (Albeit a correct word).

They wonder why nobody is listening to them anymore and even in the cases of classic liberals, actively voting against them. We’ve all been, collectively, far more polite than they ever could be, to put up with it for years.

For comparison

http://www.foundationsmag.com/civility.html

Whereas they are quarrelsome as a preacher at a Satanic ritual, who wouldn’t be so gauche as to say the other person was using the ‘incorrect’ pronouns, when those are dictionary-standard. Social justice is a smirking, smug means of social control.

It’s called political correctness because A. politicians are polite liars and B. they live to ‘correct’ others, generally unable to control themselves.

If you force a man to love his murderers (terrorists) you have driven him mad.

Yet, what is social justice without an authority? And they don’t have God? That leaves… themselves.

Yep, it’s an egomaniacal/megalomaniac complex, writ into politics. Consider, without politics, what do they have to talk about? How boring are they, as people?

Finally, everyone else, everyone they disregarded as the reviled majority, is signalling against them. Everyone is finally aboard the identity politics bandwagon and they don’t feel special anymore. [hypocrites] Little do they realize, this is to teach them a lesson with their own poison. That would require an ounce of self-awareness.

Everyone else replies: I am not one of you. I am proud of that.

They call this the rise of populism or nationalism or some other sneering jibe. They’re making it tilt harder and slip power from their hands.

They demonstrate no awareness of consequences (among the liberal privilege) because their very lives are sheltered and coddled. Rather than being open-minded to the ‘experiences’ of others, they shun and ridicule them. How dare the lumpen-prole question them, they don’t even attend theatre! Mind your place and ‘educate yourself’, says the girl who waits tables or lives off her parents. Expect they will lose many popularity contests elections, if not actively bet against them. Peoples are slow to rise and hard to quell.

Again, distrust anyone who makes politics their life. And what do they reply? The personal is political. Nay, it’s vanity. All is vanity and hashtag selfies with office paper signs. It would be one thing if they had a life, to be so self-obsessed with. How boring are they, individually?

I think we all know the answer. Worst of all, they’re incapable of having fun.

I mean, really, who slags off someone’s fancy dress costume?

And who tells you what to wear, aside from an obnoxious step-parent?

They have only themselves to blame for the ways they’re privately despised.

omg really wtf go away no audrey

By all means, trust fund baby, tell me about wealth redistribution and how much you admire Karl Marx.

It’s a false rebellion to preserve their social power.

If they had a brain, they’d hate globalism and the rise of developing nations more than anyone, having the most to lose. They’ll understand when they spend their twilight years working in a supermarket because the pensions ran out. Presently, they assume they’re ‘too good’ for it. They will soon be corrected. Social mobility usually goes down.

“You can do anything” parenting and teaching is actively harmful

http://aeon.co/magazine/psychology/why-telling-kids-to-dream-big-is-a-big-con/

It comes down to IQ grade. IQ denialism, as it was suggested by Haidt, makes about as much sense now as New Earth Creationism in biology, there is simply so much evidence.

Grades are just proxies for IQ — which most parents are too dumb to conceive of.

IQ isn’t strictly a number, it’s a grouping with an error variance. The Binet IQ was intended for school application ONLY – to ascertain how the child’s learning process could be assisted by teachers at each stage (level of work compared to their chronological age), look at modern Sets for the truest application.

If you’re at the top grouping possible for a human, as an adult, A+/200+ High Genius or basic polymath, you have all the choices. And who doesn’t want options for their child (and by ego extension, a compliment to their own genetic material) but the further down the pyramid you go, the more restricted your future prospects. These are facts.

If you wanna be an astronaut, you’d better be making As and Bs. Just because you sat in the same classroom for decades doesn’t mean you’re equal in life quality potential or entitled to the same things as adults (public school kids and pronounced failures regardless of family fortune are the amusing example).

Telling children they all have equal potential may seem nice, and the Nurture Brigade of modern teaching insist it’s fair (if you are ignorant of their status yes, in case) and necessary (see former) – but it traumatizes the average and below-average children and sets them up for a lifetime of suffering, and probable mental illness (hark! Freud’s ghost laughing in the distance). Children blame themselves when they fail or something goes wrong. Fine if the changes needed are within their control… this is rarely the case here.  The self-esteem movement formed to prevent mental illness, theoretically as a shield against it, and now… many young people are popping pills.

This lie about potential doesn’t even sink in (because for this to apply, they are dumb) when they’re adults. Millennials are miserable. They see their age-peers succeed and assume (all else being equal) there is something they can do about it, and feel entitled (+) or wronged (-), that their own course isn’t going the same way (a few come up with lies i.e. their competition is cheating, or secretly evil).

n.b. IQ is computed by age, so child ones are unreliable although age 11/12 is highly correlated, it’s best to get retested as an adult and expect a small dive. Many supposed prodigies fail on this count because they were merely ahead of the curve at school (by external factors of socialisation, see Gladwell’s Outliers), and not genetically ahead (permanently ahead). Hence, prodigies seem to burn out, when in fact the fakes (harsh but true) merely crash into the wall of their genetic potential. Elements of the modern school system e.g. obedience to popular belief, lack of imagination and rote memory dependence also contribute to this false-flagging of intelligence, as it were, rewarding traits which are, in effect, the anti-genius. Lies on the other side of the IQ fence.

Sex, promiscuity and sexual preference

The man who despises himself tries to gain self-esteem from sexual adventures—which can’t be done, because sex is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man’s sense of his own value . . .

The men who think that wealth comes from material resources and has no intellectual root or meaning, are the men who think—for the same reason—that sex is a physical capacity which functions independently of one’s mind, choice or code of values. They think that your body creates a desire and makes a choice for you just about in some such way as if iron ore transformed itself into railroad rails of its own volition.

Love is blind, they say; sex is impervious to reason and mocks the power of all philosophers. But, in fact, a man’s sexual choice is the result and the sum of his fundamental convictions. Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy of life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself.

No matter what corruption he’s taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which he cannot perform for any motive but his own enjoyment—just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity!—an act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exaltation, only in the confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire. It is an act that forces him to stand naked in spirit, as well as in body, and to accept his real ego as his standard of value. He will always be attracted to the woman who reflects his deepest vision of himself, the woman whose surrender permits him to experience—or to fake—a sense of self-esteem . . . . Love is our response to our highest values—and can be nothing else. ~ Rand