Misogynists are just bitchy entitled brats

They act like a bitchy woman. They do not act straight.

e.g. As time goes on, he begins to reveal a Jekyll & Hyde personality.

Respectful to friends and superiors, never to ugly women or inferiors. Very antisocial personality.

e.g. He will make promises to women and often fail to keep them. With men, on the other hand, he will almost always keep his word.

Narc triangulation, men say he’s good, women say he’s bad. Narc sucks up attention.

r-types, like Labour pitting Muslims against Christians. Whoever wins, will vote for Labour.

“He’s such a nice guy” – red flag, nice to men = evil to women. Men are meant to compete.

It’s a perversion of gender role.

A guy like that tried ignoring me once, thinking I’d decided to go out with him after being pressured. (nope) Treat them mean and all. Like I said, “didn’t even notice”. Really, actually, didn’t. Since he was playing the female role, why would I? I’m not the man.

If I were a dyke, I still wouldn’t notice him, a male. It STILL makes no sense, to this day.

Answers on a postcard. If they liked ‘strong independent (manly) women’, one keyword there is independent.

He threw a tantrum about me ‘missing him’ (almost stranger) and it being a ‘test’ (not a single date) and stomped off, half-expecting me to chase him. It was comical. His dick was not valuable. Dick is not a rare commodity. Turned out to be a nutjob. Shocker. I’d actually felt better when he wasn’t around, this is why they can’t be the woman.

They treat women mean and act like women (schoolgirls who won’t talk to you), then complain when the woman leaves. They believe affection must be tinged with abuse. Trauma bonds formed by control and gaslighting aren’t love, stupid bitches. Any secure person will run for the hills over broken glass.

“Nice Guy” – repressed rage (usually left-wing, white guilt and Asian fetish) and kinda gay.

An Asian Nice Guy would have guilt with a White fetish, Anglo culture obsession (opposite of weeb).

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mysteries-love/201502/12-ways-spot-misogynist

It’s a defense mechanism from narc inferiority/superiority complex and self-loathing but mostly a blind spot, e.g.

  1. He will be late for appointments and dates with women, but be quite punctual with men.
  2. He is extremely competitive, especially with women. If a woman does better than him socially or professionally, he feels terrible. If a man does better, he may have mixed feelings about it but he is able to look at the situation objectively.
  3. He will be prepared (unconsciously) to use anything within his power to make women feel miserable. He may demand sex or withhold sex in his relationships, make jokes about women or put them down in public, “borrow” their ideas in professional contexts without giving them credit, or borrow money from them without paying them back.
  4. On a date, he will treat a woman the opposite of how she prefers. If she is an old-style lady who prefers a “gentleman” who holds the door for her, orders for both and pays for the meal, he will treat her like one of his male buddies, order for himself, and let her pay for the whole meal if she offers (and sometimes even if she doesn’t). If she is a more independent type who prefers to order her own meal and pay for herself, he will rudely order for both and pay the check while she goes to the bathroom.
  5. He will cheat on women he is dating or in a relationship with. Monogamy is the last thing he feels he owes a woman.
  6. He may suddenly disappear from a relationship without ending it, but may come back three months later with an explanation designed to lure the woman back in.

If that all sounds borderline to you, yes, a lot of misogynists are undiagnosed male borderlines.

3. is a psychopath, as is 5 and 6.

Huge hypocrites, project women as doing all of those. Implying men are impossible candidates.

Lower IQ, since misogyny is an indicator of inferiority. Defense in defense mechanism avoids this fact.

Falsely claim men are intelligent despite huge number of retards.

Only rarely will a misogynist possess every one of these traits, which makes it harder to identify them.

Women haters (unconsciously) get off on treating women badly. Every time they can put down a woman or hurt her feelings, they unconsciously feel good because deep down in their hidden brain, their bad behavior is rewarded with a dose of the pleasure chemical dopamine—which makes them want to repeat the behavior again and again.

Idiots. Defective brains.

The wounded masculine. Sadism. A woman who spots them (empath) and so, isn’t hurt, becomes a ‘bitch’. He was the one bitching, trying to wound her. Not wounding her wounds his ego, narcissism 101.

Real men don’t treat the weaker sex like crap, they have a duty. Women need men and men need women, emotionally.

Biochemical sin eaters

https://www.biblesprout.com/articles/bible/blood-important-god/

The blood represents life, and so sacred is life before God that the blood of animals was used in all offerings for sin as man’s vicarious substitute (atonement) under the Mosaic (Old Testament) law.

And almost all things are by the law purged with blood; and without shedding of blood there is no remission. Hebrews 9:22

Only as atonement is linked with death, the shedding of blood, and not life set free, would it appear to become efficacious in the covering of human sin.

It’s a sacrifice, yes, living ones exist in Satanism.

Clears karma.

A Satanist told me.

They differ on exactly how.

https://www.theguardian.com/science/2012/oct/17/young-blood-reverse-effects-ageing

How about you pay those student loan debts in literal blood, children?

https://www.theguardian.com/science/2014/may/04/young-blood-reverse-ageing-mice-studies

And it won’t remain voluntary (or paid) as long as the socialists have their say, that’s a cover.

“For the greater good” they can take your very youth juice. Finite, it is finite supply and that fact is covered up. It would also impact the health of the “donor’s” germline, aka offspring. You have been warned. It’s worse than genetic tampering. Why don’t their own kids “donate”?

“Between consenting adults” covers their ass on many immoral things.

They already steal (and sell) placental stem cells and cord blood (they deprive of the newborn baby by clamping immediately). They already eat children, they could grow this stuff in a lab and refuse.

God doesn’t want human sacrifices, Satan does.

These people are SICK.

What, did you think those college blood drives actually go to sick kids or something?

Nope!

Jezebel spirits and soul ties

Speaking of media, nobody touching Jezebel?

http://www.jonasclark.com/sex-soul-ties-jezebel-seducing-spirit/

“Every person you have sex with leaves a part of them in you. That part is a soul tie. Some, not all, soul ties come from sexual relations. Many more soul ties come from emotional manipulation.”
They’re also called emotional vampires.
Soul ties are also how various Satanic rituals work.

http://www.jonasclark.com/witchcraft-loneliness-church-jezebel-spirit/
“The dullness is similar to a drunken stupor.”
Urge to tag.
“Over time I felt controlled and saw how she used helping me as a way to make her feel good.”
Covert narcissism, the self-proclaimed Saint, they get off feeling superior so you’ll never heal, they can’t allow it.

Can structures be emotional vampires?

I would argue yes, since they are mass intention of individuals.

http://albionawakening.blogspot.co.uk/2016/09/life-draining-soul-destroying-things.html

Just don’t ask me for a full list, who has the time?

I think the Renaissance got architecture right – grand, majestic, with a few flourishes.

The medieval is humble but good for smaller purposes. The Victorian is fine for squashed environments.

https://www.theguardian.com/cities/2016/sep/16/bad-buildings-damage-mental-health-research-anxiety-depression

Glass and concrete is the soul-killer.

https://www.thecut.com/2016/04/the-psychological-cost-of-boring-buildings.html

One upside of deficit spending is that it funnels money into useful academic channels, rarely.

By accident.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brutalist_architecture

These places look like prisons, much like the thought paradigm of postmodernism.

For your interest

https://www.currentaffairs.org/2017/10/why-you-hate-contemporary-architecture

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2017/07/23/exclusive-new-buildings-should-knocked-ugly-government-minister/

https://blogs.spectator.co.uk/2017/03/new-tory-manifesto-make-beauty-affordable/

https://blogs.spectator.co.uk/2016/11/time-make-transport-beautiful/

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-14547088

It reflects the popular mood: grim.

http://plazaperspective.com/can-stop-building-ugly-modern-architecture/

All glass, nothing to show.

No soul.

https://topdocumentaryfilms.com/why-beauty-matters/

There was a great lecture by a respected architect but I think it was taken down.

That’s been happening to an awful lot of good content recently…..

What should our home look like? is a fundamental question.

Who’s discussing it? Even the bloody appliances! Do you need a toaster that could spy on you?

This is shocking in England, we worship our homes (see “Watching the English”).

How far back do we go?

Video: How to get offended

Status signalling, the modern fainting couch. Pass the salts, Ruth!

It’s a tantrum, pick the most trivial thing and nag anyone around you about it because Power is evil. It’s weirdly fascist to argue who should get what from a position of equality.

PC, the never-ending euphemism treadmill and doublespeak of modern sin.

A very passive aggressive censorship.

A self-righteous indignation.

Look up the definitions of bigot and gaslighting and see if you can spot a difference.

There is no right answer to get.

You should know what you did.” [1] followed by what they hope is a stern, disapproving, matronly expression. I have experienced that. They deny Burden of Proof habitually. Any personal responsibility, really. The ‘I can’t believe you just said that’s [2] of the world.

1 The correct answer is I am not a telepath, adults talk about things, Sue. Now do you want your rattle or will you just throw it out the pram again? Also acceptable is Okay, Mom since it’s creepy and Freudian, like them.

2 The correct answer is I can believe that. like they are the dumbest person you ever met (they’re certainly a candidate). Alogia works excellently on SJWs, considering most of them have thought disorders and intellectual disabilities and do it themselves [3]. Two walls, talking. Have fun chiding yourself.

3 In before ‘that’s abuse’: they start it, they know what stonewalling is, they intend to humiliate you like a sociopath and it is unprompted, a coward’s mode of attack. Treat them like the emotional children they are and give them a taste of their bitter medicine. Ultimately, this is why ignoring them works, since they dearly crave attention.

Male borderlines

Borderline is already under-diagnosed in women, more often depression, histrionic personality, (ego, identity) anxiety or narcissism.

But male borderlines are under-diagnosed even more than that. Usually men are tarred as sociopaths (antisocial personality) if they feel empty, or narcissitic personality if they’re grandiose (faking it).

http://namimc.org/male-borderline-personality-disorder-know/

A lot of manosphere and self-proclaimed redpill types match this, and even complain when (other) borderlines are attracted to them, or plain narcissists (there is a co-dependency between the conditions in romantic attachments, the NPD feeds off the BPD’s attention and false identity is created like an ego plug, for both).

Red flags to look for include:

  1. Frequent romantic relationships (often too close together): Do you know a male who has been with tons of women? Did this guy feel guilty or did they feel admired? Believe it or not, some males with BPD symptoms will date multiple women (feel guilty later) and refuse to commit due to a fear of abandonment. Other males will “scare” their spouses away with their quick tempers, argumentativeness, and sometimes even physical aggression. An interaction with a male with BPD may include the individual saying any and everything to trigger their spouses anger. Their relationships may be frequent and too fast. Individuals with BPD tend to be emotional which is why some individuals pursue multiple relationships that begin too fast and end before you can blink.
  2. Drama laden behaviors and attitudes: Most of society, primarily men, would say that “women are dramatic.” Some women would agree. In fact, it is a natural thing for women to be emotional with all of the emotions and hormonal fluctuations. But for males, the drama would look at bit different. For example, I previous worked with a 13 year old male who would come to therapy idealizing me and his work with me almost all month until the final week of the month when he would become very detached emotionally and standoffish. He fluctuated between liking me and confiding in me, to rejecting my ideas and therapeutic support. During these “episodes,” he would also break up with a girl and pursue another. He would also reach out to old girlfriends via texting with the excuse that: “I didn’t end things right, I need to make it right.” This continued for years.
  3. Roller Coaster emotions, thoughts, and behaviors: Again, as stated above, most men are not dramatic but sometimes the way in which emotions are expressed can feel like multiple personalities. Men with BPD will often become “hot” and “cold,” change perspective quickly, or exhibit very angry and hostile emotions toward others. This is the type of person who will exhibit a consistent and stable pattern of behavior, perhaps even for a long time, and then quickly change into what seems like a completely different person. An example of this would be a teenager being a “daddy’s girl” one moment, and then later telling the father how awful of a person he is and how unfair his parenting is.
  4. Hot and Cold interactions with others:Some individuals with BPD really struggle with relationships and often have trouble with interpretation of comments, body language, and emotions. For example, a male with BPD might find it quite disturbing that his wife speaks to other men while in public. He might begin to behave oddly such as being emotionally distant, becoming easily angered, not openly communicating, or begin taking everything personally. This same man may later act as if nothing happened and instantly appear to be one of the most fair spouses you could ever have. The emotions of BPD are like a roller coaster at times and it can be difficult to determine what emotion the individual might exhibit from one moment to another.
  5. Frequent suicide attempts or SIB: It is a known fact within the world of psychology and psychiatry that individuals with suicidal ideations (i.e., thoughts), gestures, or threats will often use suicide as a way to manipulate their loved ones or somehow prove that they are “lovable.” For example, the man above on #4 might become so jealous of his wife talking to other men than he decides to tell his wife that he will kill himself if she does not refuse to talk to other men.In this case, suicidal thoughts, threats, or in gestures is used to manipulate someone else. However, there are individuals who are seriously considering suicide because the symptoms of BPD “causes” difficulties in various domains.The pain is so intensified including the fear of abandonment that suicidal thoughts may temporarily comfort the sufferer.
  6. Attention seeking behaviors: Some individuals with BPD (primarily adolescents with BPD traits) crave attention, even if it is negative. The loud attitude, the blatant and aggressive words, the criticism, the accusations of being unloved and abandoned all draw attention to the individual. Males who exhibit BPD traits will often cut themselves or harm themselves in some way and then draw attention to how they harmed themselves. Other males with BPD traits may engage in risky behaviors such as unprotected sex, having multiple mother of multiple children, domestically abusing his family, making threats to keep everyone afraid and confused, or entertaining a negative group of peers (e.g., gang involvement),
  7. Dependency/co-dependency: Co-dependency or dependency is often a very common symptom of BPD. As stated above, the fear of abandonment makes it difficult for individuals with BPD to maintain safe, healthy, an satisfying relationships. On the other hand, there may be times when someone connected to the individual with BPD begins to rely, emotionally and psychologically, on the individual with BPD. The relationship is dependent upon the other individual who may be just as (or more) emotionally and psychologically unstable.
  8. Anger outbursts but social charm: Many of us are used to hearing that sociopaths or narcissists are superficial, shallow, and manipulative. But we must also consider that an individual with BPD (who may also have other diagnoses) can become very angry to the point of manipulating situations or responding to confrontations/arguments inappropriately. Anger outbursts can occur more than we think in individuals with BPD.

To any kind of personality condition, they refuse to accept responsibility for their actions or the outcomes because it’s so integral to who they are, they cannot conceive other means. It will always be the fault of the Other e.g. so a gay BPD man will blame all Other man, a straight BPD man will blame all Other/ all women, see what I mean with the manosphere thing? Is that not exactly what they do?

Despite claiming to be alpha (no grit, no LT plans like a psychopath) and chill (apathetic), they frequently burst into rage online, in articles and videos and in person. They usually have domestic abuse accusations on file, but like a psycho, play victim. You can’t be the strong one and the victim. However, they’re highly emotional and try to talk out of this with rationalization, confusing it for rationality because again, they have no true identity so may think they’re ASPD and secretly getting one over on everything, but in truth they don’t even know what those things mean e.g. loyalty, love, rationality, they lack a sense of self like a baby.

PUA appears to be an excuse that all the antisocial behaviours are signalled as positive e.g.

I’m not a slut, I’m a stud!

Women don’t want me? Women can’t have me! Nobody can hold me down!

I’m not dramatic, I’m exciting!

Draining? You’ll miss me when I’m gone!

I’m not mean, I’m funny!

I treat them badly because they deserve it, and I deserve to be worshipped because I am Manly Man McAlpha!

I’m not lonely, I’m a lone wolf!

I could get any woman I want, they’d be so lucky to have a user like me.

When I’m cold, it’s cool. When a woman’s cold, she’s a frigid bitch and there’s something wrong with her.

The Jezebel Spirit

It’s strange that in modern discussions of social/sexual possession by ’emotional vampire’ types, nobody mentions the Jezebel (not uniquely female but often).

They control via sex.

I saw a very recent somewhat famous example of this and it can prove an addiction to some victims, seeking to fix the woman with each attempt and leaving suddenly when she goes for the kill commitment.
These are women they’d never have children with, they know it’s a bad idea. Reproductive abuse happens, guys, she can ‘forget’ to take her whore pills.

NEVER DATE A WOMAN YOU WOULDN’T WANT TO MOTHER YOUR CHILDREN.

(there’s the true test of femininity, would she love her own babies? more than herself?)

Rule for life. And vice versa.

http://www.propheciesofrevelation.org/jezebel11_pg2.html

She loves to steal your influence, spouse, ideas, job, money, innocence, and take credit for things she didn’t accomplish. She makes you feel powerless, out of control, confused with severe bouts of depression and vain imaginations raging against your mind.

Do you hear her complain about her enemies like they’re less than human?
Does she fake femininity around you?
Does she rarely complain about you, but speaks down to you like a mother when she does?

Jezebel targets the ignorant, the spiritually weak, the hurting, wounded, offended, the lonely, even the corrected rebellious. Jezebel works in spiritual deception and guile to advance her own agenda.

To create soul ties the Jezebel spirit must first seduce you. They flatter and make you feel special or good about yourself. This works for some that have never felt special or never had anyone say much good about them. The Jezebel spirit knows how to “feed you” with compliments if that’s what it takes to build a relationship with you.

They ‘accidentally’ fall into bed ‘early’ and easily. They ‘happen’ to be into all the same sex stuff as you or willing to try anything behind that seeming ‘innocence’.
This makes men feel guilty. Guilt makes men easy to control.

The Jezebel spirit takes advantage of all our flaws and weaknesses. As your relationship with Jezebel continues she makes you feel that you can’t live without her and need her in order to be successful.

Stockholm Syndrome works better on men than women.

The urge to protect is perverted, so in appearance the adult woman is girlish and almost pedophilic for a man’s taste, but if you watch her behaviour she’s worse than a social dominatrix. The man can try to hide a history of such women, trying to unconsciously make himself less of a target. This doesn’t work, they can smell it. Man with money. Man with status (more valuable than money). The worst gold-diggers are status whores. They use such men like ladders, often happening to work in a career where being a ‘duo’ makes sense. Guess who’s on top?

The control of Jezebel doesn’t happen overnight. The control is little by little and bit by bit. This spirit beats you down a little at a time.

Sound like psychological abuse?

Jezebel’s demonic power sucks the life out of you and makes you want to give up and quit. You say things to yourself like, “What’s the use?”

Usually it’s apparent objectively in that no matter how hard you work, your career goes nowhere. They usually say things like “oh, but my girlfriend is very supportive.” Where do you think that energy is going?

Perhaps the Jezebel spirit entered your life when you were the most vulnerable. Maybe you needed help and the Jezebel spirit was there.

Abusers want the victim completely dependent on them.
It’s like an invisible leash. She’s allowed to slacken it, but the moment you look elsewhere…

Puppet on a string.

Others notice they interrupt any unsanctioned happiness or redirect it to themselves (energy). She can’t be ‘strong’ and in need of rescue. She’s a user.

They feel vengeful against the opposite sex, whichever it may be. They seek to humiliate them in various ways, not including that relationship with them, often someone far beneath them in looks. This includes working ‘with’ them i.e. to keep an eye on them and dominate them in their profession among colleagues under the guise of feminine help and in the case I’m thinking of she talked the guy into adopting a fucking Chihuahua.

A fucking Chihuahua.

There’s a picture of him online smiling like a total prick and the hideous thing has a pink collar.

I was looking at it aghast, I mean, I can think of means to humiliate men but that is evil.*

It’s often said that borderlines, for example, fear abandonment.
No, they don’t.
They fear their victim getting away.

Of course, there’s one way to test these people.
Stop sleeping with them.

that's enough stop please karen will and grace

This is why men fall prey in particular. They know they don’t want to stay with her in their heart of hearts, but it’s free/cheap sex… or so they think. Women never put out without getting something in return. If you don’t know what that is, it’s probably your agency.

Yet because they fear being cut off from the control outlet of sex, they threaten with it.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/stop-sleeping-with-donald-trump-supporters_us_57a1e4c7e4b08a8e8b601bb6

Suggest a break, specifically a sex break, and watch the rage bubble up.
Losing their narcissistic supply.
Then the passive-aggression and overt manipulation, if not guilt-tripping, trying to induce the ultimate state of self-loathing and personal insults (weirdly fixated on race).

* Do you need me to tell you she converted him to social justice and, worse than this, The Mindy Project?
Stories like these are the reason I have lost all hope for Western men. Although I guess it was his fault for dating crazy non-white chicks in the first place. It was never going to end well. White women are worse at controlling our men than all the other races. The Asian women are best, look at the stereotype of what happens to an Asian woman when you put a ring on it, an overbearing woman with balls bigger than any man, specifically the Chinese are masters at this slow burn ingratiation process before turning and crushing the spirit, not the Japanese as suspected by Geisha culture. The Chinese are closely followed by Africans, who are a little more upfront about wanting partially-white babies (and rejecting suitors from their own continent/racial group, from self-hatred, which the children also inherit). If she was really sweet and innocent, she wouldn’t fall into bed so quickly and she wouldn’t be interested in you. Oops! babies often happen 2-3 years in, when she feels she ‘deserves’ an engagement (do not give her one, say it’s outdated and Patriarchal, warn her of this before as collateral), sometimes five years if she has her ‘career’. Naturally, if you ask, she’ll expect you to drop your career, for Princess Pinko, although yours probably makes far more money and is further along. She’ll make you feel bad about that.

run-bitch-ruuuuun

If she’s so independent, she’ll make the perfect single mother!
Extra SJW status points! They think single mothers are better than wives, right?
And never feel bad about forcing an SJW into an abortion. They love it. They get them repeatedly. Either that or so much alimony you lose your house in Hampstead.

Why details? They might help some poor schmuck who can learn better.

He won’t ever, ever see this post btw. Although I wish he would. Dude. What have you done?
Just don’t marry the crazy, please. These women are great at extracting proposals. Like, experts. It’s scary.

http://pagesix.com/2016/01/07/2016s-top-50-bachelor-list-already-down-to-49/

The spiteful little dog (the smaller a dog, the more concentrated the rage), such an emblem of its true master (the woman) was the crowning moment of WTF for me in that story. I give up on helping the sap.

minor rant,

kinda like that Asian plastic surgery Princess gold digger to the white British billionaire a while back
https://disenchantedscholar.wordpress.com/2015/12/01/11-ways-to-spot-a-crazy-gold-digging-whore/

in case you missed it

I’ve heard such women in the ladies’ room talk about snagging a man, usually a rich man or a white man, someone to control with fake femininity. It’s sick, they’re uglier on the inside if that’s possible. These guys have no idea, she does the exotic innocent act and can stay around to get a certain type of baby before making off. These women come from a matriarchal culture, look at the Grandmas. That’s who they really are, shrews worse than… well, the alternatives. Their careers falter too as with all abuse it messes productivity so they have nothing to fall back on, the fools. It never twigs why, and nobody has the heart to tell them they’re ruined. All because nauseatingly phony feminine wiles distracted their upstairs head when better women are a click away in any case. Ego ego, all the way down to the gutter. These women keep moving because everyone hates them where they came from, this never twigs either, if they stopped shagging them for a week she’d have nothing to manipulate with or blame him for. They hug them at strategic points too to shut them up** and the fake giggles get on my tits, as someone who suppresses giggling. It’s like a gold-digger but also Stockholm Syndrome, so they say like oh my career is on the rocks but my girlfriend is supportive. The passive-aggression disapproval like a mother annoys me, passive-aggression isn’t feminine. Look at the timing. Manipulation is difficult to detect, unless you look at the timing. Like, if you wouldn’t sign over your finances to them, you don’t really trust them not to screw you over. That’s what having sex is like now, with alimony. Then again, a lot of them want someone to feel superior to, by being the hot one. I don’t have too much sympathy with the fools who go back to abusers. What a waste.

Terrible taste offends me more than bad behaviour. If you’re going to be shallow at least have good taste. And I only respect men based on the quality of their women, if they can stick their dick in ugly, and worse, frequently and happily, I don’t wanna know them. They lost any respect because their hindbrain is underdeveloped to the proper standard. All women care about this, why do you think we ask about exes and try to find pictures? Other men, the powerful ones no coincidence, judge by it too, why else give you a plus one to the office party? Trash travels down the same street. The same goes for women but the average man is less attractive than the average woman so this must be accounted for. Discrimination and discernment are highly important in social relations and intimate relationships are the best test of character. Better some freaky fetish than deliberately dating beneath them for some self-loathing reason. They abjure their league so we keep them at a distance too. They get a rep. We aren’t stupid. They hate themselves, their level, they’ll sabotage us too. I hate when they lie about something everyone can see n’all, like, we aren’t screwing it, the endorphin squirts haven’t hurt our perception of reality. She isn’t a ‘nice person once you get to know her’ the need to include a clause shouldn’t be there. Bad sexual history, bad partner in anything. ANYTHING. Have you heard the CEO advice? When looking at a promotion, they look at the women. Those choices are the most important you will ever make. Sometimes you look and think ew, how could you? They’re
so ordinary. Not plain, which can be quite nice, but just bland? Boring? Ugly certainly, but not even interesting with it? How could that impress them? Were they tricked? Sometimes they are. It’s too funny to laugh at them, we just pity. They’re ruined forever on their better options now. It’s like a CV. They don’t even spring for her plastic surgery so it looks like a concubine arrangement and he wonders why he gets no respect at work. No shame. No idea what character defect they’ve shown the world. “Not our class, dear” as the saying goes. Don’t expect to come crying to us… the partner, on the other hand, must be reveling in it. Especially control of a certain type of white straight man from a conservative background. Getting one over on The Man, by jumping on him regularly.

**Strategic hugs bring out the paternal in men and release oxytocin, quelling any sudden independence of thought.

In short, if they hate your very being (white, male, privileged education) DO NOT FUCK THEM.

They hate you. They’ll ruin your life!