Marriage relieves stress, biologically

Don’t listen to Hollywood.

This Is the Secret Benefit of Marriage You Didn’t Even Realize

“A new study published in the journal PLOS One has provided evidence that having a spouse by your side can be a real stress reliever in a moment of crisis.”
“Interestingly enough, a 2018 study found that when romantic partners hold hands, their breathing, heart rate, and even brain wave patterns actually sync up, which enables them to relieve both emotional and physical pain. But this new BYU study is unique in that it used a more biological means of measuring stress, as opposed to relying on surveys.”

“The study also builds upon previous research that being married can help lower your blood pressure, body mass index, and cholesterol levels, reduce your risk of heart disease and dementia, and even boost your overall longevity. For more on this, find out why Science Says a Happy Spouse Means a Longer Life.”

happy wife, happy life
women don’t need to be told the reverse

If there were a supplement that provided all these benefits, the MGTOW lot would be jumping for it.

I think people would respect them more if they just admitted they haven’t found the right one, no shame in that.

Study Here: https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0212703

“A new study that was published this week in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences found that when romantic partners hold hands, their breathing, heart rate, and even brain wave patterns actually sync up. According to pain researchers, the more those brain waves synchronize, the more the pain that either of them feel subsides.”

Sweet hand-holding study: http://www.pnas.org/content/early/2018/02/16/1703643115

“The mechanisms that underlie social touch analgesia are largely unknown.* Here, we apply a hyperscanning approach with real-life interaction of dyads to examine the association between brain-to-brain coupling and pain relief. Our findings indicate that hand-holding during pain increases the brain-to-brain coupling network that correlates with the magnitude of the analgesia and the observer’s empathic accuracy. These findings make a unique contribution to our understanding of physiological mechanisms of touch-related analgesia.”

Look at the studies. Seems pretty biological to me. It had to pass Ethics.

The male pain is reduced more, it’s just difficult to tell since female results cluster.

Right end of the red line, compare to left legend. Male reduces to zero.

In real terms, the superior improvement of men should be reported.

*Unknown = pair bonding, idiots.

An important nb:

Why is all the religious stuff healthy?

Prayer, fasting, marriage, fidelity, community.

Activates the almonds.

Social evolution et al.

So it’s especially unhealthy that marriage rates have dropped among the working-class.

Why aren’t there rent controls on the cost of weddings? Just a basic wedding.

Not those poncy ice sculptures of a swan, screw those.

Video: Excuses empaths make for narcissists

Urge to control hidden with lovebombing (being nice isn’t an obligation) and magically change the other person, killing the former person. Thanks, Disney’s Beauty and the Beast!

Validating bad behaviours as proof they’re needed.

Feeling superior for “catching” the predator they think they can turn into prey.

Resentment of common sense (if you don’t want them as they are, leave).

Passive aggression masquerading as gender roles (both sexes) e.g. 50s housewife incompetence or bravado complete with gaslighting put-downs around said incompetence.

http://things.justinthrelkeld.com/post/178624223456/maybe-50s-jello-food-actually-was-a-sublimated

Often they aren’t really empaths and covert narcissists pretend to be empaths.

Like autists and psychopaths (they confuse self-involvement with empathy).

Expecting a narc to love is like expecting a man with no hands to juggle.

A common female manifestation:

Intrusive people pushing into your life under the guise of “helping”.

Treating you like the problem (or a problem) and acting like your mother or shrink (power) when you made it clear you do not want this. If you were the problem, they’d want you to see a shrink or leave.

They don’t respect boundaries and try to force things as Being Nice. Those are the biggest bitches of all and to men, seem popular (and feminine, it’s fake feminine to seem less bossy) but women actually keep them at arm’s length with fake niceties to appease them. (It isn’t anything to do with appearance, contrary to what men can assume, as they’ll discover if they marry it).

It’s easy to spot Fake Nice women – does anyone take advantage of their “niceness”? If no, they’re actually a social predator. Real nice people hate the rep and people do take advantage.

It’s for your own good from such fake people is gaslighting, surely you know your own good better than someone you just met?

A common one I heard from men is “she won’t leave me alone, I feel like I’m being stalked!” yeah, because you are? If you tell someone repeatedly to back off and they don’t it’s harassment. I don’t cover female abuse enough but I feel uncomfortable knowing people may twist it or as if I’m speaking for experiences of men than just repeating.

Study: Happy people aren’t actually more empathetic, probably less

Stick that in your well-intentioned pep talk.

http://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0110470

A contrasting empathy attenuation hypothesis suggests positive emotion would be associated with lower empathy, because positive emotion promotes self-focused or antisocial behaviors…. This suggests that trait positive affect may be associated with decreased objective empathy in the context of mood incongruent (i.e., negative) emotional stimuli, but may increase some aspects of empathic performance in the context of mood congruent (i.e., positive) stimuli. Taken together, these findings suggest that trait positive emotion engenders a compelling subjective-objective gap regarding its association with empathy, in being related to a heightened perception of empathic tendencies, despite being linked to mixed abilities in regards to empathic performance.

In other words, they’re less responsive [read:dumb] to anything realistic [neutral] or less than their own rose lens of sunshine and lollipops. You can’t get through, it’s like a positivity shield highly irritating to everyone else.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/neuronarrative/201501/why-happy-people-often-seem-tone-deaf-negative-emotions

The only area where happier people outperformed less upbeat people was in reading significantly positive shifts in emotions. In other words, they were better at identifying emotions similar to their own.

Another way to describe the study findings is that, despite their confidence, upbeat connectors are somewhat tone deaf to negative emotions, but more attuned to positives ones.

…Our work suggests that our self-reported beliefs about how empathic we are may not always accurately reflect actual empathic abilities. In the case of this study, trait positive emotionality [how happy we feel] appears to be one factor that can lead to a striking divergence between beliefs and abilities.