Marriage relieves stress, biologically

Don’t listen to Hollywood.

This Is the Secret Benefit of Marriage You Didn’t Even Realize

“A new study published in the journal PLOS One has provided evidence that having a spouse by your side can be a real stress reliever in a moment of crisis.”
“Interestingly enough, a 2018 study found that when romantic partners hold hands, their breathing, heart rate, and even brain wave patterns actually sync up, which enables them to relieve both emotional and physical pain. But this new BYU study is unique in that it used a more biological means of measuring stress, as opposed to relying on surveys.”

“The study also builds upon previous research that being married can help lower your blood pressure, body mass index, and cholesterol levels, reduce your risk of heart disease and dementia, and even boost your overall longevity. For more on this, find out why Science Says a Happy Spouse Means a Longer Life.”

happy wife, happy life
women don’t need to be told the reverse

If there were a supplement that provided all these benefits, the MGTOW lot would be jumping for it.

I think people would respect them more if they just admitted they haven’t found the right one, no shame in that.

Study Here: https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0212703

“A new study that was published this week in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences found that when romantic partners hold hands, their breathing, heart rate, and even brain wave patterns actually sync up. According to pain researchers, the more those brain waves synchronize, the more the pain that either of them feel subsides.”

Sweet hand-holding study: http://www.pnas.org/content/early/2018/02/16/1703643115

“The mechanisms that underlie social touch analgesia are largely unknown.* Here, we apply a hyperscanning approach with real-life interaction of dyads to examine the association between brain-to-brain coupling and pain relief. Our findings indicate that hand-holding during pain increases the brain-to-brain coupling network that correlates with the magnitude of the analgesia and the observer’s empathic accuracy. These findings make a unique contribution to our understanding of physiological mechanisms of touch-related analgesia.”

Look at the studies. Seems pretty biological to me. It had to pass Ethics.

The male pain is reduced more, it’s just difficult to tell since female results cluster.

Right end of the red line, compare to left legend. Male reduces to zero.

In real terms, the superior improvement of men should be reported.

*Unknown = pair bonding, idiots.

An important nb:

Why is all the religious stuff healthy?

Prayer, fasting, marriage, fidelity, community.

Activates the almonds.

Social evolution et al.

So it’s especially unhealthy that marriage rates have dropped among the working-class.

Why aren’t there rent controls on the cost of weddings? Just a basic wedding.

Not those poncy ice sculptures of a swan, screw those.

Having servants makes you happier

https://www.pnas.org/content/early/2017/07/18/1706541114.full

No shit, someone alert Buckingham Palace.

SCIENCE.

 

Turns out, money can buy happiness.

 

You think Elon Musk launders his own underwear?

They say you all have the same number of hours in a day.

Bull-SHIT.

I’ve met these people who think their shit doesn’t stink.

These self help gurus don’t clean their own shithouse.

Yet they deflect and shame you like you’re lazy. Four Hour Workweek from Mr Expensive Tuition.

One of the most stressful life events, moving, can be ‘outsourced’!

https://paseattle.com/2016/08/20/moving-heres-personal-assistant-can-smooth-transition/

Why do you think they love immigrants so much?

Illegal wages – slave labour.

Nobody points out blatant classism.

Show me one working class politician.

 

Globalization exists so they can abuse foreigners across borders because abusing locals is more legally challenging.

 

Cinderella is literally about a woman marrying out of the need to do housework.

That’s the fairytale.

That’s the magical thing.

 

Give conservative women a housekeeper, dammit!

It’s cheaper than a divorce!

White woman isn’t a slave, the heartwarming folklore tale.

Buying Marital Bliss: Time-Saving Purchases Promote Relationship Satisfaction

https://www.hbs.edu/faculty/Pages/item.aspx?num=53939

If it turns your head, “help” is why rich women have more energy for sex.

It isn’t the fucking spirulina smoothies.*

Most men don’t do manual labour anymore, most women still do. Studies only look at the middle class for this stuff.

They don’t get it. The woman on her feet for at least seven hours has it harder than the social-media browsing office worker. Who cleans the cleaner’s house? Why do women claim they can’t afford more children? When are men “run off their feet”? Why do women take longer to save for retirement while men work over-time, where are they, what are they doing in those prime dinnertime hours? Whose work uniform of clothing, haircare and make-up is more expensive? Whose ‘trims’ cost far more despite literally removing less hair per trip? Add up what women do against what they’re expected to do. It isn’t lazy.

Disagreements about chores are a primary source of relationship conflict: both men and women become frustrated working a “second shift” at home. Using data from nine studies of cohabitating working adults in committed relationships (N = 4,316), we provide the first empirical evidence that couples who make time-saving purchases in a typical month report greater relationship satisfaction. We also document why and when buying time promotes relationship satisfaction: Time saving purchases enable couples to spend more quality time together, protect couples from conflict, and are most likely to promote relationship satisfaction when couples are faced with controllable (vs. uncontrollable) stressors. These findings suggest a relatively simple solution to a critical source of marital conflict: spend money to buy time.

The Industrial Revolution caused a lot of divorces.

Suddenly, the sexes worked apart.

*Scum drinking scum.

https://www.livescience.com/48853-spirulina-supplement-facts.html

Teenagers used to work in place of immigrants but state schools refuse to let them go below the age of eighteen now. Also their minimum wage is lower, which is slavery. The anti-social habits of modern teens are the typical depressed habits of the unemployed, who feel useless.
Middle-class frat brats holding tiki torches can be laughed off. What terrifies the Left in its nightmares is a working class capitalist demo. Wages, work hours, immigrants being held above the law (protected class is against the tenet of blind justice). Offer all three and you’ll win any election.
UBI ignores how adult mortality is most predictive at retirement and how unemployed people are almost all depressed. This isn’t pocket money from parents, these are adults. Infantilization is an abuse tactic. The poor are already infantilized are not knowing what’s good for them, high time preference (unlike spoiled brats?) and degenerate sinners (criticism of welfare queens instead of deadbeat sperm donors, who made them).

Poor people binge-drink, middle-class people are alcoholics.
Poor people are crazy, middle-class people have intermittent explosive disorder.
Poor people are stupid, middle-class kids have dyslexia, ADD, on the non-existent “spectrum” everyone is on.*
Poor people are fat, middle-class people are victims of a sedentary office environment.
Poor rape victims must’ve been prostitutes, middle-class ones are real victims.etc.etc.etc.

*If everyone is on the DISABILITY spectrum, no-one is.
Logically, if one metric of psychiatry applies, so does IQ. Doesn’t that fit the symptoms better?

Video: 10 arguments against pre-marital sex

or fornication, if you dislike PC terms.

Pleasantly surprised by this logic.

Yes, promiscuity x divorce risk must be studied more, actually. Much more. One major issue mathematically is how few promiscuous marry AT ALL to even qualify for the studies so marital rate too (since that’s important information for people). Then psychological issues round out the methodology for the ones that predispose to those behaviors in the first place (not a free choice, a compulsion) and muddy the waters in the non-pathological population (i.e. not personality disorders).

It seems to operate by weakening pair bonds until the person is incapable of making them.

I know AC would agree with me that an amygdala atrophy study in the promiscuous and also divorced groups would be illuminating. Imagine if you can check divorce risk with a brain scan before marriage!

And once developed, can it ever shrink or is gain permanent?

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This is an old truth that has been only relatively recently abandoned. The reasons for all Christian principles are entirely practical. There is a saying ‘you are not punished for your sins, but by them

The big lie spoken by manwhores in particular is that ruining themselves emotionally (and physically) will make them better husbands for the right woman. The feminists carbon copied that rationalization, it’s still bullshit. How does adding psychological issues make you better in any way? And why should your spouse have to clean up the messes left by a trail of people who hurt you? And if you were remorseless and mistreated, abandoned them, what’s to stop you doing it to your spouse? Why reward that with love and fidelity?

Some people are incapable of loving and therefore don’t deserve to be loved.

Unequal yokes are abusive.

In romantic/sexual relationships, what doesn’t kill you makes you weaker.

“Muh Experience” is the idiot’s way of claiming that learning everything wrong will make them right. It’s insanity. This isn’t a pop quiz you can redo, it’s your life; it isn’t a game you can respawn into ad nauseum, you are learning patterns and reactions and if they don’t work, you’re far, far worse off than the person with NO “experience” – this is Dunning-Kruger.

Experience of failure means you’re wrong. You’re the common denominator.

The definition of insanity is the man who fucks around and wonders why he can’t find marriage material.

Hook-up culture has trained men into being useless husbands, they have the opposite required qualities.

To put it crassly, they’re saying “I shit in the pool, why is the water brown?”

Where have all the good women gone? Well, how many women have you slept with? Subtract those from the communal pool. Now extrapolate.

No, you can’t Have It All. You never could, it was a Boomer marketing gimmick. But the economy (and GDP) make more money from cads than dads. The politicians are playing them. They don’t care about you. They don’t care if you’re a genetic dead-end.

These useful idiots would literally argue the man who fucks 100 women and finds no love (0/100) is better husband material than a man who fucked zero women and also found no love yet, the unproven quantity. Narcissists lie.

Lust doesn’t lead to love, it leads to personal disgust. Hollywood lied so you’d sell your soul buying their stuff to fill the emptiness of your single life. They can’t admit it without the self-loathing attacking them so they blame the “thots” in standard projection and denial of agency. If you’re so easily led into temptation, you’re too weak to call yourself a man.

If you treat your love life like a game, women will see you as a joke.

“Muh Bible” misogynists

This isn’t the meme you want but it’s the meme you deserve.

Source:

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20Peter%203:6-8&version=WE
Narcissists and atheists always lie (about the Bible).

So I screencapped, provided a link and enough context either side that the meaning is plain.

U mad?

For more real Christian quotes (from the Bible) to trigger liars:
https://disenchantedscholar.wordpress.com/2017/12/27/differences-without-power-dynamics/

How to stay married

We need more records from men like this rather than bitter screeds from divorcees and bachelors. The advice sources are polar opposites to one another because they lived it.

There’s an obvious point I made earlier, I’ve noticed any time a selfish person marries (even if they marry a saint) the union is doomed. This is one of my most popular posts:

Don’t marry a selfish person who cannot combine in a marital UNION or if you are one, know this and do not marry. You can’t “make it work” unless you get a personality transplant. Being selfish, they don’t really try and therapists will tell you they superficially make an effort only as a means to abuse and control. The power dynamics must be equal because both are working for one another.

Do I have to mention the obvious, like liking each other when sex is off the table? Shared values? Good taste in friends? No vices?

His points are, for the record and lightly extrapolated:

  1. Faith in God. Appreciation for the sacred.
  2. Loyalty (goes both ways, just assume on all these).
  3. Asking God for a loyal spouse, who would stay in hard times too.
  4. Know your dealbreakers and shun them quickly (nothing you do yourself either), especially addictions and the delusions that often accompany them e.g. smoking.
  5. Do not put yourself in a situation where you grow close to someone unsuitable. Common sense?
  6. “Your wife will be your best friend in the world or your worst enemy and which one she is, is down to you” – Grandmother.
  7. “No matter what, you never speak bad of her in front of anyone else, never (bitch) about her.” – Grandmother, about respect.
  8. Never degrade or make fun of her” (mockery, is not funny) – “to her face especially, the world will do that enough and try to put her down, she doesn’t need her husband to do that” (be the sanctuary). – Grandmother
  9. “Everything you buy, put her name on it. She’s an equal portion of this family and treat her as that, don’t treat her as a second-class citizen or worse, a slave! She’s equal in every possible way” (investment, union) “including in the bank accounts and anything else that you have your name on.” (trust)
  10. “Wait five years before you have children, before you even consider having children. That time will be the glue that allows you both to know each other and love each other. That five years will be invaluable.”

The most important takeaway, don’t indulge in the gay best friend bitch fests society is also introducing and encouraging men to take part in. The thing a woman most wants is the same as a man: respect. If you can’t give that, it won’t last. It is down to the man to show respect and it will be reciprocated (since, implied, he sets the tone).

We need valuable old advice like this.

Bravo, bravo.

I wonder what the divorce rate is if one is an atheist? I have won a lot of bets checking that.

Personal SHTF

The dependency network is interesting.

On the one hand, they shame you into getting 401ks, an IRA, ISA, “rainy day fund”, “emergency money”…

oh, but don’t you call it prepping!

I think it’s the mindset of fear against self-reliance.

If you learn too much independence as a citizen, including Fuck You money or untaxable savings (e.g. growing herbs and not buying), the fear vanishes. That fear is their power over you.

Our ancestors had freer speech because they had fuller wallets.

Why were women shamed for managing and working in the home? They couldn’t tax us. They couldn’t brainwash us. They couldn’t control us. Corporate laws in many ways act like an overbearing husband – turn up 9 to 5 even if you can do all the work 2-6.

Think of all the false economies of kicking women from their domain. Instead of one efficient, untaxable wife you need: cleaner, cook, nanny, builder, shopper, chauffeur, prostitute (theoretically)… Marriage is immensely efficient division of labour for both sexes, no wonder the Powers That Be try to make it seem like a bad deal.

The convenience economy relies on us: our dependence.

If we snapped back to 1900 levels of marriage by point of a shotgun, the economy would instantly depress – half the labour force, half the tax revenue and half the job opportunities at least. Supply/demand.