Modern men’s sexual dysfunction

https://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relationships/unveiling-madonna-whore-complex

Ah, the projection is funny to watch. The woman who slept with two men including them is a “whore” but the speaker at 20+ is as morally, spiritually pure as virgin snow. Pull the other one.

The delusions….

Having a tendency to ruin themselves on cheap types and, once burned out, wonder why they hate decent people as boring and resent good women and marriage.

Orgastic impotence (bad sexuality) intrudes too. Plenty of fuckboy types write long articles online that just telegraph to anyone with a functioning upstairs brain that they’re sexually damaged and incapable of intimacy, physical or emotional (typical of narcissists).

As it applies in the context of relationships in modern times, Madonna-whore complex generally manifests itself after marriage or the birth of a child as Dr. Suraci explains:

“A man may think of his wife as a mother and not an appropriate sex partner.

Conditioning.

He is accustomed to having intercourse with a sexy woman and his wife does not fit the bill.

Rude.

She is now the mother – Madonna. Unconsciously, she may remind him of his mother who cannot be a sexual being,” he said.

Idiotic.

You should be able to divorce for that, the husband has duties. Sexual performance and sexual fidelity, physically and emotionally.

According to Dr. Joel Block, Ph.D., a psychologist who specializes in couples and sex therapy, some of these men have a difficult time committing:

They “stray” to keep their vulnerability in check.

emotional immaturity

Cannot have emotional intimacy.

They are usually unconsciously fearful of getting too attached.  Having a woman on the side gives them a better sense of control.  With all this effort, many guys do start seeing their women, especially in long term relationships, resembling their mom”, he told Alternet.

Then they complain when she files for divorce from the biggest baby.

Ask yourself why cheating is the most common reason for divorce.

Well, it’s better than stoning, isn’t it?

While Stefan is going on about the importance of marriage, special attention needs to go on the basic common sense DON’T CHEAT.

However, Dr. Kanaris says that the disorder is exacerbated in a variety of ways, not necessarily just through affairs, but essentially manifests through the male diverting sexual energy away from the primary relationship

That’s what adultery is.

That’s it.

– such as toward pornography or erotic massage.

Still cheating, seeking physical satisfaction elsewhere. How would they feel if the other spouse did it?

Normalised in this society is not normal.

To look with lust in your heart yada yada.

Boys’ hedonism ruins them as men

I’ve been looking for this.

Yes, there’s even a GDP difference between Christians. They don’t dare mention other religions or the GDP connection to IQ (Protestants socially select the smartest workers to breed with, a “helpmate”, Catholics do not). That’s why there was a British Empire but the Vatican just sits there, pouting. Catholicism killed the Romans.

I think daytime alcohol consumption might factor in though.

Since there’s no such thing as a teenager, why don’t we hold teens responsible for their hobby choices? This is the time of greatest potency in learning and you can cherrypick me all the studies about response time you want, those exist in a vacuum. As in, when compared with any other use of time, including SLEEP, it’s the leisure equivalent of brain rot.

Imagine a little kid trying to convince you that because one sweet won’t kill you, they can live off sweets (this is also what vegans do).

And all around the internet, grown men with the same vices complain.

Why can’t we do anything?

Well, it’s a little like sawing off your feet at the shins then entering a marathon.
It isn’t that the other guy or girl has an advantage, you spoiled yourself.

In a healthy society, the words Spoil Yourself would garner the reaction of Kill Yourself.

You can’t blame adults or society for compulsive addictions like picking up the game controller to escape reality the fifth time that week.

Why not exercise? I don’t mean lifting weights, that’s bad for you. Human joints can’t take it, they’ll be the old geezers in wheelchairs while the rest can still walk. The price of vanity.

I mean gentle, everyday exercise our forefathers got by running errands.

You have every right to be lazy. However, if your brain learns nothing else, one day you won’t be able to turn it off and whose fault is that?

You gonna blame Ubisoft?

Don’t get me started on the damage of porn.

It’s worse than the pop music. And you think that’s repetitive.

If I forced you to watch some independent French film involving a tunnel for hours every week, you’d want to shoot me.

Involve a pair of tits, on the other hand…

and this is without going into the illegality of minors viewing such material, the grooming aspect.

Grooming for what? Well, that’s the wrong question. Grooming what out?

Ambition.

Ask any man who doesn’t really use porn or never did rely on it (the toxic 3D video kind), and men who broke the severe psychological addiction to its release (everything bad for men is scientifically referred to as self soothing) and you’ll find they have more energy. Freud knew this, which begs the question why was free porn allowed?

In an age of nuclear war, the world doesn’t need men. It doesn’t need soldiers. Men who are meek – capable of aggression but also capable of self control – so it beats it out of them. Or it ingeniously makes them beat it out of themselves.

Anything heavy on the endorphins is not good for you.

The scourge has a name but it goes disused – hypofrontality.

Vices do not just get a mention because everyone is a wet blanket. They destroy an individual’s life and that’s fine, they chose it and nobody cares. You wanted to ruin your own life, okay. However, they tend to spread like diseases. The wages of sin we see in modernity – bad fathers  > bad families > bad children > bad economy > bad marriages > bad children > bad fathers.

If men want to lead society, they must first reject vice. The cycle of Empires is clear about this. There is no way around it. That’s the fee, anyone can buy power if they suffer for it first. It’s just that men have the best natural advantage to grab for it – if they don’t androgynise themselves with destructive hobbies first.

The destructive hobby is a 20th century invention.

Think about that.

Prior to that hobbies were either useful, fruitful (including money) or self-creative.

(Exception: the original feminists maintained little girls were wasting themselves on pointless occupations, busywork.)

Hobbies used to be lifestyle choices. There is no such thing as a suicidal lifestyle choice.

The men did well out of that. By keeping teenage men out of the workplace too, it is great for the old men who couldn’t keep up but wastes their time when at least apprenticeships or some part-time work are vital to retain brain functions.

One of the biggest false takeaways from this: let’s make learning fun! – lazy teachers everywhere

You can’t throw ipads at this problem until it goes away.

Learning is not fun. It is a job. It is hard. It is work. That is its value.

LEARNING IS WORK.

Don’t fear work. Don’t lie to them. Don’t make it seem easy. Have faith in them. Stop infantilizing everything.

Let the lazy kids drop out and ruin themselves pre-emptively (13/14 should do it) than hold back the rest. Head Start failed. You can’t make everyone college material.

Asia is pounding us in league tables because they still learn by rote, the Victorian method that worked. It isn’t some patronizing fun task. You take it seriously, it’s a job. Stop measuring little kids like Nordic countries do or they’ll give up too soon. Pay students, a meagre amount, maybe means-tested. Take education seriously or standards seriously fall.

This includes: fire all teachers below a certain IQ. They make terrible role models. There used to be morality requirements of a teacher, to prove character. Bring those back.

No mixed schools. Lower performance, optimize for performance.

Oh, and PE classes are ridiculous. Why should little girls be doing army drills, no wonder they become mannish? It releases testosterone.

Bonus observation:

The American economy will never recover until the video game industry dies. Gamergate happens, a lot of men opt out of new releases and a short time later the economy is doing better. Coincidence, friends?

Stupid “men” learn to consider success in a fake world as real. It’s kinda like status Communism, they get all the shots of adrenaline and endorphins pumping, so why try? So why seek that the hard, real way? The biochemistry makes it feel real already.

Cool or pseudomature?

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7890529

It’s hard to find studies on this.

They’d rather make money selling them things.

https://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/06/18/thirteen-in-years-but-10-or-15-in-thoughts-and-action/?mcubz=0

The wide spread in young people’s rates of social and psychological maturation has led some researchers to propose that we think about adolescents not just in terms of their chronological age, but also their subjective age: how old they feel and act.

The concept of subjective age seems like an excuse to drop age of consent.

We already have legal age and mental age.

Agency is similar in root to age.

Signs of an Emotionally Immature Adult

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-superhuman-mind/201611/10-signs-emotionally-immature-adult

Little Prince (or Princess) Syndrome, when it occurs in adulthood, is also known as Peter Pan Syndrome.”
Little Prince (or Princess) Syndrome is related to, but not identical to, Emperor Syndrome, a term is primarily used to describe Chinese boys with no siblings who behave like little tyrants.”

Unfair, Princess Syndrome is more common with the Chinese women at present. You don’t see Chinese men giggling and running round big Chanel stores with their friends on Daddy’s credit card.

“Little Princes and Princesses, as I define them, are grown men or women who act as if they are selfish children, narcissistic teenagers, or irresponsible young adults, and feel entitled to behave as they see fit. Following are 10 traits typical of someone living with Little Prince or Princess Syndrome. (For simplicity’s sake, I use the term Little Prince below, and refer to the role of mothers, not father, but the signs are applicable to all genders.)”

A selection;

He acts like a child, a teenager, or a person who is much younger than he is. He might throw temper tantrums or party all night with people 10 years younger than him.

He acts as if women should serve him. He expects to be taken care of and be pampered on demand. He will happily take but never give.

He cannot maintain a long-term, stable romantic relationship. Former partners end up becoming his enemies or new playmates.

He is commitment-phobic in nearly all areas of life—despite having a needy attachment style. It can take him six months to commit to buying a new sofa.

I have seen that.
My words-
“It’s a sofa, you can dump it.”

They see their possessions as an extension of them.
Possessions include people.

If you don’t make them look good, you’re gone.
The excuse is usually pleasing others, so they also look good to you. B.S.

Btw, Asians invented ghosting. You made less money? You missed a promotion? They forget to send you a dinner party invite. It makes you wonder if they’re capable of the friendship thing with one another too.

He is often passive-aggressive, meaning he has a tendency to engage in an indirect expression of hostility through acts such as subtle insults, sullen behavior, stubbornness, or a deliberate failure to accomplish required tasks.

They are not subtle.
Have you ever met a subtle man?… I rest my case.

He is a narcissist or exhibits a childish selfishness. If something is even mildly inconvenient, he will resist doing it.

Emotional child.

He rarely thinks anything is his fault. He blames everyone around him for everything that goes wrong in his life—even his mother if he can’t find another scapegoat.”

Victim blaming, victim mentality… tendency to complain about victim culture because they think they’re entitled to that pity, not that it’s wrong. Whiny and lots of nagging, like an old woman.

If you find this useful, you might find these too.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/is-america/201601/con-artists-and-their-marks

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-flux/201610/9-classic-traits-manipulative-people

https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201609/meet-the-real-narcissists-theyre-not-what-you-think
“For example, he suggests, some narcissists can be of the “communal” variety and actually devote their lives to helping others. They might even agree with such statements as “I’m the most helpful person I know,” or “I will be known for the good deeds I have done.” “Everyone has met grandiosely altruistic martyrs, self-sacrificing to the point where you can’t stand to be in the room with them,” Malkin says.

And there are highly introverted, or “vulnerable,” narcissists. These individuals feel they are more temperamentally sensitive than others. They react poorly to even gentle criticism and need constant reassurance. The way they feel special might actually be negative: They may see themselves as the ugliest person at the party or feel like a misunderstood genius in a world that refuses to recognize their gifts.”

They can’t back up their claims and if you compare them, they’re usually average. Pointing this out triggers narc rage.

They don’t just ‘use’ others, they use others as…. it’s instrumental.

They cannot self-regulate, they use other people as emotional tampons (especially men) and require excess ‘take’ and their giving is inferior, low quality but they over-value it because *they* are dispensing it. Thinking you’re special is in your actions, not a set of words. Tend to idolize others too, broken perceptions.

Overprotective parents cause Peter Pan Syndrome

They wouldn’t dare put a real pathology in the DSM V.

The parents might not be able to blame their children. They might stop paying their shrink bills. Quelle horreur. 

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/05/070501112023.htm

Peter Pans – almost always male.

When sexually mature, promiscuous and critically, definitively incapable of commitment (seeing it as tantamount to prison, do not expect logic, but preposterous metaphors from them). As you can expect, problems with pair bonding, even purely social connections with other men. Therefore, they tend to befriend one another. Mature and successful men avoid them but they rationalize this as a virtue and brag about it.

They regress frequently to various stages of childhood, notably when stressed in an argument (especially one they started, quite the bully to relieve their random anxiety). They tend to violence and physical aggression, but not when a parental-like figure e.g. police, boss, or other authority e.g. club bouncer is present. They laugh at the law until before a judge for their ignorance/recklessness/cruelty, when they play victim. Remember, sorry is the magic word and you can break any law as long as you pretend you’re sorry after…

The male (at least 9/10, he is male, it is a male condition based on physical aspects of denial, as they cannot menstruate, that brings women to speedier emotional maturity as it’s hard to deny*) is easy to spot because they act like a teenager into their twenties, hold similar expectations for themselves and their life into their thirties and, humiliatingly for their relations, beyond. As other men begin to accrue success in their 20s/30s, they’re still stuck doing the same nonsense as their school years. They blame society for this, they are always blameless because they are always duty-free, the Real Victim Here (TM). There is no midlife crisis because in their mind they are still fifteen. They are simply immature. The world is forever their oyster. In myth we find nothing like this, the young gods have to die to get anywhere. Or else otherwise grow up and renew into adulthood. The ancients would’ve cut them off and forced them into real employment. Nowadays they whine on blogs about the many ways The Man has wronged them and start up pretentious forums blaming literally anyone else for their personal life. Conspiracies are popular. It alleviates some of their deep-seated guilt. They sometimes try to pull rank where it is least appropriate, with the green rudeness of a child e.g. correcting a Christian on the Bible as an atheist, lecturing women on babymaking and so on. They attempt to appear as if they have moral authority and we find many con artists and fraudsters in their ranks. It would be fine if they kept to their own but so ensured of their own superiority and legal invincibility, they see the world as both inferior and a mark, with goods they earned but didn’t deserve as much as him, because he has real feelings, unlike everyone else. Real feelings and excessive volumes of them, as well as poor control of himself in general, make him worthy of pity. Everyone is out to get them, as they are out to get everyone. Paranoia (vague, unfalsifiable) is aggression projection.

They see any societal obligation as a trick, a prison. However, to everyone else, they are a Fool, with none of the luck, thinking society will hold them to special, zero standards (yes, narcissism) and to think they are being put upon, asked something in excess of average. Is it any surprise their father abandoned such a case? Emotionally or physically? At a certain point they do become completely insufferable and cannot be helped by anyone but a professional. Do they seek a professional? Never. That would be a responsible thing to do. Instead they’d rather waste their life and suffer, and cause others to suffer around them as well. They’re the first to tell you how nice and great they are, like a child at a reunion begging for attention.

They project their own flaws onto women. Much like serial killers, they have a dependent relationship with their mother. All other women are whores, or something to be used. You see, the world is their playground. We are all toys (Machiavellianism with none of the wit).

They see ‘feminine’ virtues as weakness e.g. compromise, popularity, empathy, fortitude, all these for ‘suckers’. By making it female-exclusive, they can never be accused of them, in their twisted mind. If you remind them of Jung’s balance, they get offended.

The hard thing is never necessary, and they would argue, seldom the right thing either. This is awfully convenient for them. 

It isn’t women that terrify them but the burden of fatherhood. If they happen to cause a pregnancy, they’ll blame the woman. You see, in their minds, they do not believe they are fertile, because what child can have children? They are deluded, at times possibly psychotic e.g. accusing a woman they consented to have sex with of rape, because she fell pregnant. They often make excuses to abandon the woman and that’s how deadbeats are made. The more psychopathic ones will torment their new family out of resentment for curtailing ‘his’ freedom (belonging to and only due to him, as the only Real Human) and slowly push them away, often with male-seeming outlets e.g. strip clubs, porn addiction, affairs, also cutting off financial support (this being the one objective form of abandonment that cannot be concealed, either they pay or not). Still, they are a veritable cornucopia of excuses when pulled up on this objective fact, like a child who ‘forgot’ his homework. Physical or other abuses of the mother are also common, since her body shackles him to his spawn, intellectually, and he probably identifies with a male child too much to hurt it (narcissism). They are the type to murder their children to ‘get back at’ the mother and then kill themselves in faux grief to avoid Patriarchal legal punishment or to simply beat/punish the female children for reminding him of their mother. Usually, child abusers start on the little girls, for various reasons (access, sociability, gaslighting, guilt-tripping, lower odds of revenge or being believed, acting out/up accusations, ‘straight’ sex, and so forth) if they can.

A good Patriarchal society whipped this scum out of town at the first sign and let him starve. They knew better than to think it could be fixed by kindness, such people are a cancer. Their enemy is the Patriarch, the Father they came to hate, although they are liars. They often call for a Patriarchal system, believing it will increase their power as a male, extending it to all males, rather than installing it to families, including mothers. The childless receive no benefit from a family-oriented system but he is quite stupid. The urge to control others is as strong as their urge to be ‘free’, with their perverse definitions of all taking and no giving, no duties, no responsibilities, to travel and use people like disposable objects, only to be revered in old age as if hedonism or owning genitalia is an accomplishment. They seem to believe too, that speaking out cheaply for the cause of Patriarchs now will prevent them from being treated as they justly deserve if that system came about e.g. they wouldn’t be kicked out of society away from the nubile daughters and rich drinking buddies.

Nowadays they keep secret social media accounts or avoid them altogether, terrified of the parental figures of society, like employers, from knowing what they are and denying them opportunities.  You see, they can abandon you, but you cannot abandon them. You must give them everything because they deserve it. They probably have a list.

Do not pity them, they want you to nurture them like a mother figure so they might use you, as a parasite.

Good news?

They die alone, having no true friends. They are forever lonely because they cannot connect with themselves and refuse to grow (modern parlance: sell out). They are stuck but aging. If they have children, they are loathed for their ultimate failing, in secret or openly. Strangely, they balk at open accusations of how they behave, wishing to rebel Them Vs The World, while openly admitting their actions/beliefs when it is socially desirable (compulsive deception, stemming from no true identity, possible borderline feature). For example, they will claim to be monogamous but also claim monogamy is impossible or over-rated (cognitive dissonance doesn’t affect children as they are incapable of logic, these men are retarded in many ways) to make themselves seem more appealing in other men’s estimations and gain their favours (this is also wrong, and hardly ever works, but they are too dense to see it). They cannot connect with women, because they are not truly men. They do not deserve the title, instead accurately, they are adult male. Women are an alien creature to the man-child. They do not like (read: temper tantrums/mantrums) being reminded of their age or its consequences, they project their ignorance (or innocence) onto the object, and call women crazy/stupid/wrong etc. Here we find a glib misogynist (you cannot hate something you do not understand) that dismisses anything he doesn’t understand or that goes against his preconceived beliefs as <relates to women speciously, therefore I may ignore it>, this neurosis enables his lifestyle. Escapism and emotion (that they inaccurately dub masculine for egocentrism) are their sole purpose in life, these combined they call experience. A postmodern monster. The fuckboy is also a Peter Pan with a focus on the psychopathic sexual aggressions (people merely as soil to stake a flag in, porn as real). Modern society enables these people e.g. the parasite single of the Japanese male. The Western equivalent either mocks them, projecting by geography, or idolizes them (Japanophiles and some very creepy sexual attractions you must take seriously).

Quite the pearl-clutchers, they are easily offended. It’s always your fault.

I don’t blame the parents, when the child is an adult.

*I’ve seen a handful of female variants, but they were very masculine, presenting like the male case, hating themselves, and they were always on the Pill, usually from their teens. They deny fertility as a responsibility or any other aspect of physical and sexual health. Never want children, love abortion. Refuse to get sterilized, because that’s a limit and infertility is associated with age.

Link: The Fuckboy Files

I’m tempted to laugh but this is all too common.

Can you imagine any traditional man behaving in this whiny petulant manner?
They seem to think they’re being assertive when they’re being aggressive and failing, frankly.

Basically, look at these, and never do anything like this.
fuckboyfiles.tumblr.com

Note how each desperado thinks the woman should make a special exception for him? For no reason? And they all think like that? That’s male entitlement.

Imagine they’re wearing Goth attire and saying these things, it sounds pretentious and pathetic, yes?
They expect respect without ever giving it.
They confuse being powerful with being nasty (like a Mean Girl).
They think because they’re a man, woman are a suitable verbal punching bag (this is the worst part).

Y’all Yanks need biscuit games to teach your boys the art of losing gracefully, like a gent.

Video: PUAs and SJWs of the internet, act your age!

h/t Chateau Heartiste

You can almost completely sort the two issues (no perspective and not selfless) neatly into those categories, based on immaturity, with some overlap.

SJWs: the girl who always has to win an argument, cries over trifles

PUAs: the fella who can’t take a joke on him, constantly shows off to gain attention, violently angry when he loses

This is why the mockery of the modern memeplex.

“A part of one’s personality isn’t growing up with the rest.”

Ask yourself: How old am I?

  • When someone disagrees with me?
  • When someone pokes fun at me?
  • When I want attention?
  • When I am confused?
  • When I don’t get what I want?

The central problem of immaturity is one of entitlement. The world owes you nothing, like Mark Twain said.