Signs of an Emotionally Immature Adult

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-superhuman-mind/201611/10-signs-emotionally-immature-adult

Little Prince (or Princess) Syndrome, when it occurs in adulthood, is also known as Peter Pan Syndrome.”
Little Prince (or Princess) Syndrome is related to, but not identical to, Emperor Syndrome, a term is primarily used to describe Chinese boys with no siblings who behave like little tyrants.”

Unfair, Princess Syndrome is more common with the Chinese women at present. You don’t see Chinese men giggling and running round big Chanel stores with their friends on Daddy’s credit card.

“Little Princes and Princesses, as I define them, are grown men or women who act as if they are selfish children, narcissistic teenagers, or irresponsible young adults, and feel entitled to behave as they see fit. Following are 10 traits typical of someone living with Little Prince or Princess Syndrome. (For simplicity’s sake, I use the term Little Prince below, and refer to the role of mothers, not father, but the signs are applicable to all genders.)”

A selection;

He acts like a child, a teenager, or a person who is much younger than he is. He might throw temper tantrums or party all night with people 10 years younger than him.

He acts as if women should serve him. He expects to be taken care of and be pampered on demand. He will happily take but never give.

He cannot maintain a long-term, stable romantic relationship. Former partners end up becoming his enemies or new playmates.

He is commitment-phobic in nearly all areas of life—despite having a needy attachment style. It can take him six months to commit to buying a new sofa.

I have seen that.
My words-
“It’s a sofa, you can dump it.”

They see their possessions as an extension of them.
Possessions include people.

If you don’t make them look good, you’re gone.
The excuse is usually pleasing others, so they also look good to you. B.S.

Btw, Asians invented ghosting. You made less money? You missed a promotion? They forget to send you a dinner party invite. It makes you wonder if they’re capable of the friendship thing with one another too.

He is often passive-aggressive, meaning he has a tendency to engage in an indirect expression of hostility through acts such as subtle insults, sullen behavior, stubbornness, or a deliberate failure to accomplish required tasks.

They are not subtle.
Have you ever met a subtle man?… I rest my case.

He is a narcissist or exhibits a childish selfishness. If something is even mildly inconvenient, he will resist doing it.

Emotional child.

He rarely thinks anything is his fault. He blames everyone around him for everything that goes wrong in his life—even his mother if he can’t find another scapegoat.”

Victim blaming, victim mentality… tendency to complain about victim culture because they think they’re entitled to that pity, not that it’s wrong. Whiny and lots of nagging, like an old woman.

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201609/meet-the-real-narcissists-theyre-not-what-you-think
“For example, he suggests, some narcissists can be of the “communal” variety and actually devote their lives to helping others. They might even agree with such statements as “I’m the most helpful person I know,” or “I will be known for the good deeds I have done.” “Everyone has met grandiosely altruistic martyrs, self-sacrificing to the point where you can’t stand to be in the room with them,” Malkin says.

And there are highly introverted, or “vulnerable,” narcissists. These individuals feel they are more temperamentally sensitive than others. They react poorly to even gentle criticism and need constant reassurance. The way they feel special might actually be negative: They may see themselves as the ugliest person at the party or feel like a misunderstood genius in a world that refuses to recognize their gifts.”

They can’t back up their claims and if you compare them, they’re usually average. Pointing this out triggers narc rage.

They don’t just ‘use’ others, they use others as…. it’s instrumental.

They cannot self-regulate, they use other people as emotional tampons (especially men) and require excess ‘take’ and their giving is inferior, low quality but they over-value it because *they* are dispensing it. Thinking you’re special is in your actions, not a set of words. Tend to idolize others too, broken perceptions.

“You can do anything” parenting and teaching is actively harmful

http://aeon.co/magazine/psychology/why-telling-kids-to-dream-big-is-a-big-con/

It comes down to IQ grade. IQ denialism, as it was suggested by Haidt, makes about as much sense now as New Earth Creationism in biology, there is simply so much evidence.

Grades are just proxies for IQ — which most parents are too dumb to conceive of.

IQ isn’t strictly a number, it’s a grouping with an error variance. The Binet IQ was intended for school application ONLY – to ascertain how the child’s learning process could be assisted by teachers at each stage (level of work compared to their chronological age), look at modern Sets for the truest application.

If you’re at the top grouping possible for a human, as an adult, A+/200+ High Genius or basic polymath, you have all the choices. And who doesn’t want options for their child (and by ego extension, a compliment to their own genetic material) but the further down the pyramid you go, the more restricted your future prospects. These are facts.

If you wanna be an astronaut, you’d better be making As and Bs. Just because you sat in the same classroom for decades doesn’t mean you’re equal in life quality potential or entitled to the same things as adults (public school kids and pronounced failures regardless of family fortune are the amusing example).

Telling children they all have equal potential may seem nice, and the Nurture Brigade of modern teaching insist it’s fair (if you are ignorant of their status yes, in case) and necessary (see former) – but it traumatizes the average and below-average children and sets them up for a lifetime of suffering, and probable mental illness (hark! Freud’s ghost laughing in the distance). Children blame themselves when they fail or something goes wrong. Fine if the changes needed are within their control… this is rarely the case here.  The self-esteem movement formed to prevent mental illness, theoretically as a shield against it, and now… many young people are popping pills.

This lie about potential doesn’t even sink in (because for this to apply, they are dumb) when they’re adults. Millennials are miserable. They see their age-peers succeed and assume (all else being equal) there is something they can do about it, and feel entitled (+) or wronged (-), that their own course isn’t going the same way (a few come up with lies i.e. their competition is cheating, or secretly evil).

n.b. IQ is computed by age, so child ones are unreliable although age 11/12 is highly correlated, it’s best to get retested as an adult and expect a small dive. Many supposed prodigies fail on this count because they were merely ahead of the curve at school (by external factors of socialisation, see Gladwell’s Outliers), and not genetically ahead (permanently ahead). Hence, prodigies seem to burn out, when in fact the fakes (harsh but true) merely crash into the wall of their genetic potential. Elements of the modern school system e.g. obedience to popular belief, lack of imagination and rote memory dependence also contribute to this false-flagging of intelligence, as it were, rewarding traits which are, in effect, the anti-genius. Lies on the other side of the IQ fence.

Video: Your average degenerate

I can see the point. I think this is r-type low-IQ low/no Need for Cognition dominance as culture panders to the lowest denominator who is crucially – easily parted with their credit cards. When the credit tap dries up, we’ll see a flip, in my estimation. Salesmen go where the money is. In a monetary vacuum, nobody looks up to these people. Adverts are a dream that consumer buys into. They matter. They have importance. There are things catered to them, after all. Increasingly, they shape their identity around what they are told is valuable about their ‘demo’ by the master puppeteers.

However, the use of degenerate in Europe refers to primarily sexual or rarely, other form of antisocial abuse with traumatic shockwaves to surrounding societal structures (mostly drugs, because the rush and risk is similar to sex).

These people complain when what society said would happen, does. The classic routes worked where none of the others did, it’s almost-Darwinian societal structure selection. See many atheist countries lately? Yet these individuals are ignorant of history and think their trendy opinions will lead them right forever. When they’re inevitably ruined, as society warned them from childhood they would be, they expect everyone else to play parent and clean up their mess. Bailouts. Everywhere. For adults. They complain they are oppressed and nobody listens to them whine. – Probably ‘cos they know they can’t talk you out of being stupid, it’s a lifelong condition. This is the rationale behind that Law of Power on the ‘unlucky’. The same faulty decision-making will fell you too, if such is the cause of their woe.

Take advice from a suicide on life? Sure, what’s the worst that could happen? They’re naive and destructive, a fatal combination in ANY OTHER SOCIETY IN HUMAN HISTORY.

They failed to grow up and each failure thereafter compounds their issues. Leave them be. The issue is assuming everyone is an expert for having an opinion. Nope, most opinion (has a right to exist but) is irrelevant beyond its dwelling place because it fails basic reality checks. They are marked by their ingratitude to people who humour them, and play parent, who tell them the truth. You don’t want to behave, you don’t want the truth, what do you want? ~ it is sensible to ask. To be God. A life with one half cut out. Rights and no responsibilities. Highs and no lows. These people are an insult to children, they may in future count as a form of antisocial retardation; the ignorance of the laws of physics applied to social beings, of the conflict between biology and agency, of chemistry applied to their under-developed brains. They are arrogant enough to believe they are exempt from the rule of the Universe they inhabit. There is no such thing as morality, there is no objective Universe. If you ask, they believe this. They may as well live in a social media cave (Plato) and be done with it. These people would honestly do better in an asylum than out in the harsh realities of a world they dispute to exist. If we lived out in space, we’d shoot these people out of the airlock for sport. They are a waste of resources and it’s a cosmic joke they support all abortion. A temporary boon in global fertility off the back of the tireless noble Victorian productivity (stone-dead two productive generations later, 1901-1961) they derisively mock allowed them an existential hurrah they have wasted for others before the next Malthusian population-levelling event pops up and takes them down into the sinking abyss of genetic irrelevance, the human equivalent of the Dodo. I laugh at these people, for what else is there to do? The village idiots are running the show, may as well enjoy it. We may not see the men in white coats approach them from the corner of our vision but trust, their time is approaching. As George Carlin said, we’re circling the drain, and things pick up speed as we near the end of this era, as we’ve seen in the past year or two. We are the spectators who live in interesting times.

Morality is a slippery slope, which isn’t a fallacy at all when applied to realpolitik, covered with a shiny hard plastic layer of Doublespeak and called a “trend” instead.

The Memo Millennials have missed

Snape was a role model in some ways

This is what happens when you raise children on (everyone gets a) Gold Star permissive parenting schemes.

Little Emperor Syndrome. You cannot get everything you want.
They lust but do not love. They want but do not need. They want their fair share, which happens to be more than their friends. They take without giving. They want data without perspective. The Just World (fallacy) is attainable. I stand for equality, same treatment and outcomes is fair. Government can solve all our problems, like parents, the money never runs out. Who needs to think about the future, carpe diem. Drugs aren’t harmful ‘cos they’re natural but medication is ‘cos Big Pharma is bad unless it legalises my high. The world is my entertainment and I can send death threats to the creators because they owe me for indulging them. Credit is like free money, right? Sleeping around is consequence free, STDs have treatments dude. I can make a $100k living with my postgrad in Medieval Madrigals.

What’s the ideology of the parental generation? Oh yes, hippies.
We have adults with the minds of spoilt brats and we should be wary of the tantrum when reality sets in and they discover Bank Mummy spent the inheritance on a series of sex cruises with toyboy Rodrigo.