You got it.
Then there are the ones who respond to sexy like a bitch in heat.
You know the two people you should call sexy? A stripper and your wife.
Why? It’s their JOB.
This applies to men as well, I find it really disrespectful when people drool over a man and call him sexy. It’s a person, not piece of meat. Is this a porn audition? No.
Should I explain this?
I shouldn’t have to explain this. I’m not going to. It’s too easy and he’s too thick.
If you don’t read it, it’s the sexual version of this:
If you can see what’s wrong with this picture in his ‘story’, congratulations, you’re more mature than he is. That is a male, but not a man.
It causes me to wonder how many of these people we immediately label as narcissists are in fact male borderlines, because they don’t have an identity, they follow the social trends with no opinion of their own, following what others say they ‘should’ be doing, complete with other people’s deadlines, and this is indicated by how they want to switch it up, play dress up and try on all of them. As if it’s a choice, what person you are.
Also: good women don’t wait around for a boy to figure out what a catch they are, they Next him before they waste their youth and take the next bus that comes along. A better bus, a bus with a future. Good women are scarce resources, especially in this century, and he expects the MMP to be a place where he has the power….?
MMP and SMP are complete opposites.
These people will end up on the shelf like the feminist trying to ‘Have it All’ and they deserve to be. Anyone who treats people like toys and puts them down, leaves them and expects they can come back in at a later date and pick them up again is in for a life-ruining surprise. The worst thing isn’t never finding the One, it’s rejecting them because you didn’t know what you had. Move too early, end up with the wrong person, move too late, end up rejected and alone.
The dating pool shrinks past 30, also when most people hit the Wall pretty firmly. Their potential is either actualized or wasted at this point and that’s why marriages were arranged with slightly older men, because they have to prove their role as providers before a woman buys in. But expecting you’ll have your shit together by (age) is stupid, it’s excusable as a teen because you have no life experience but I keep seeing this from people in their 20s. Most people die before that happens and it’s very rare with the best planning and behaviour. Making and limiting your important life decisions based on fantasies is retarded.
I’ll make a bet. He takes advice from Roosh and co.
aka He takes life advice from somebody with a shit romantic or non-existent marital life.
Do these people take diet advice from fatties?
Oddly, he’s demonstrating hypergamy, thinking he can infinitely trade up like a video game and eventually marry the Best Woman if he holds out long enough. Nope, the good people get snapped up sharpish. This is what I like to call The Illusion of Scarcity. It isn’t about how many men/women there are, it’s about the quality for the thing you want (marriage). Not to mention, he has an anxious-avoidant attachment style to a woman who is clearly indifferent, so even if he got married, he’d get divorced, I’d bet good money.
As for his own SMV, I’ll leave this here.
All this coming up. They’re still banging on the pedophilia drum.
Not opinion, but a fact. There is no agreed-upon definition in academia.
This gets into arbitrary vagueness, it could literally be like 50 shades of grey. There could be 50 different terms for 5 things, each slightly different along a scale. The scale could be contracted or expanded, from 5 to 5 million terms, and people would still identify themselves along the Likert scale because that is how humans respond to scales in self-report. They fall prey to experimenter’s biases. Kinsey used it to justify his own fetishes. Including the mere use of Likert instead of checkboxes, intended to give firm results. How special do you feel? Do you identify as a snowflake?
In the most logical, hardest scientific terms, here would be the genuine definitions that would work in law (nothing less would work);
Sex (noun): chromosomal. Male, XY. Female, XX. Various genetic disorders would thus be accounted for under Both (still within the binary of a dimorphic species).
Gender: firstly, nothing to do with identity. Masculine, Feminine, Androgyne (both). According to Jung, everyone has both, which makes the last category meaningless, so everyone would fit into masculine or feminine based on their 51%+ score on something like…. The Bem Gender Inventory? Purely psychological, fluid and prone to change.
(Sexual) Identity: behaviour and its choice (see? nothing to do with gender and arguably, sex).
Sexual Orientation: which sex do you identify in sexual terms (physical attraction toward)? Male (sex as a noun), female (sex as a noun) or both (bisexual). If neither, you don’t have one, so it isn’t a valid question to answer, a simple N/A or blank would suffice. Note: non-physical attractions are invalid as all normal humans feel those (agape) and this is a polite descriptor of lust.
This last rules out invalid claims to orientation (based on age, a changing factor, species or other non-humans, or state of life, for example). Paraphilias (fetishes) are likewise discounted, as non-personal attractants by definition.
Social conditioning (inc. pornography) CAN change sexual orientation/identity, as most people know it:
This does not bode well for the future of Sex Ed at increasingly younger ages pushing abnormative sexualities. Maybe Putin knew something we didn’t? At the very least, porn should be credit-card subscriber-based only, cut off completely from children, the entire video model is truly as addictive as alcohol or drugs (maybe 21 in places);
99% of these people were adults and had had time to form a proper sexuality and relationships prior to their issues. This meant, that as one neuroscientist suggested, with the right help their brains could be returned to their previous sexual identity, even if the images they had viewed cannot be completely forgotten.
For a boy aged 10-14, with no previous sexual experience, there is no reset button. [DS: this is because the brain kills off or ‘prunes’ the disused connections] We could have future generations of young men who objectify women and have totally unrealistic ideas of sex and in some cases men who will have their brains re-wired by extreme imagery to the extent that they could be a risk to the women and children around them. We shouldn’t put our heads in the sand and await for some true scientific evidence. We need to do something now.
Who does that sound like?
Is this a better test (than erections) for sexual orientation?…………
It is a dangerous practice and any parent who encourages their child to indulge (separate from the debatable issue of masturbation), is frankly guilty of child abuse (as all future centuries will see it, like we see cocaine in Coca Cola for Victorian children now or other hard drugs in ‘cough medicines’): http://yourbrainonporn.com/why-shouldnt-johnny-watch-porn-if-he-likes
There’s a kicker though. The capacity of our teen to wire up new sexual associations mushrooms around 11 or 12 when billions of new neural connections (synapses) create endless possibilities. However, by adulthood his brain must prune his neural circuitry to leave him with a manageable assortment of choices. By his twenties, he may not exactly be stuck with the sexual proclivities he falls into during adolescence, but they can be like deep ruts in his brain—not easy to ignore or reconfigure.
Sexual-cue exposure matters more during adolescence than at any other time in life. Now, add to this incendiary reality the lighter fluid of today’s off-the-wall erotica available at the tap of a finger. Is it any surprise that some teens wire semi-permanently to constant cyber novelty instead of potential mates? Or wire their sexual responsiveness to things that are unrelated to their sexual orientation? Or manage to desensitize their brains—and spiral into porn addiction?
Loneliness can make a person more addiction-prone (as a self-soothing or self-medicating behaviour?)
In short, the same reward circuitry in their brains that makes them want to fall head over heels also leaves them especially vulnerable to addiction. In contrast, most rodents don’t like alcohol. They have to be bred specially to use it. But both prairie voles and humans will drink, suggesting that similarities in their reward circuitry make possible a strong buzz.
…Bottom line: Drugs can hijack the bonding mechanism, and register as a sort of love-substitute.
I’ve never known a lonely man who didn’t have a self-soothing behavior to try and compensate (a lot of alcoholics, some porn addictions, a few other drugs, a LOT video games as a secondary ‘hobby’ – when it’s a time sink like TV) and periods that reminded them of their loneliness acted as weakness triggers to engage.
…It’s almost as if the reward circuitry of a pair bonder has a “little hole” crying out to be filled by a pair bond (even if the individual never bonds). In the absence of a mate, a pair bonder will look around for something else to fill that “hole.” Obviously, we humans often try to fill the “hole” with lots of friends, serial affairs, porn, drugs, alcohol, devotion to a guru or a cause, or whatever—all of which furnish, or at least promise, some neurochemical satisfaction.
The important point is that the brain mechanism that primes a pair bonder to bond is mechanical, not rational.…
So no, they aren’t ever choosing to do these things. That is not a plausible answer. Addiction muddles the concept of motivation.
…Note: Pair bonding is not a moral strategy; it is a mating strategy, and arises from a subconscious brain mechanism. The vole example demonstrates that bonding is not a cultural phenomenon…..
Please read The Mating Mind for details.
According to biologist David Barash, normal pair bonder “sexual behavior is neither especially frequent nor especially fervent.”
Manosphere is wrong on marriage again….. (priorities change when children arrive).
The fact that pair bonders stay bonded without constant sexual fireworks suggests that the bond itself is normally rewarding.
All of this means that much of today’s sex advice won’t work well for lovers who want to remain paired.
Including the manosphere (short-termism), while encouraging married men to cheat and bemoaning high divorce rates.
As far as male N sexual partners, more monogamous men (lower count) are happier:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cupids-poisoned-arrow/201107/guys-where-do-you-fall-the-monogamy-spectrum because the novelty factor isn’t guiding/controlling them (impossible perfectionism, hedonic treadmill, they can literally never stop because boredom becomes akin to death).
But hey, they don’t want to be told that because they’ve already screwed up and out of spite they want other men to screw up too, much like slutty feminists who encourage good girls to go bad…. (In sum: the r-types deserve one another).
As the previous link makes clear, in behavioral context, it makes them less human (more like a hollowed-up sociopath they admire);
Such effects impact relationships. Constant novelty is one of the prime reasons Internet porn is a superstimulus for the brain. Erotic training that relies on novelty as aphrodisiac can condition users such that familiar partners quickly lose their luster—confining users affected to shallow hook-ups. Also, the non-climax aspects of sex (skin-to-skin contact, kissing, comforting stroking, playful behavior, etc.) may be too unfamiliar and subtle to register as deliciously rewarding. Unfortunately, these are the very behaviors that soothe the brain and help couples strengthen their bonds.
If you have any doubts as to the damage of these early influences, look up “psychological imprinting porn”