Modern men’s sexual dysfunction

https://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relationships/unveiling-madonna-whore-complex

Ah, the projection is funny to watch. The woman who slept with two men including them is a “whore” but the speaker at 20+ is as morally, spiritually pure as virgin snow. Pull the other one.

The delusions….

Having a tendency to ruin themselves on cheap types and, once burned out, wonder why they hate decent people as boring and resent good women and marriage.

Orgastic impotence (bad sexuality) intrudes too. Plenty of fuckboy types write long articles online that just telegraph to anyone with a functioning upstairs brain that they’re sexually damaged and incapable of intimacy, physical or emotional (typical of narcissists).

As it applies in the context of relationships in modern times, Madonna-whore complex generally manifests itself after marriage or the birth of a child as Dr. Suraci explains:

“A man may think of his wife as a mother and not an appropriate sex partner.

Conditioning.

He is accustomed to having intercourse with a sexy woman and his wife does not fit the bill.

Rude.

She is now the mother – Madonna. Unconsciously, she may remind him of his mother who cannot be a sexual being,” he said.

Idiotic.

You should be able to divorce for that, the husband has duties. Sexual performance and sexual fidelity, physically and emotionally.

According to Dr. Joel Block, Ph.D., a psychologist who specializes in couples and sex therapy, some of these men have a difficult time committing:

They “stray” to keep their vulnerability in check.

emotional immaturity

Cannot have emotional intimacy.

They are usually unconsciously fearful of getting too attached.  Having a woman on the side gives them a better sense of control.  With all this effort, many guys do start seeing their women, especially in long term relationships, resembling their mom”, he told Alternet.

Then they complain when she files for divorce from the biggest baby.

Ask yourself why cheating is the most common reason for divorce.

Well, it’s better than stoning, isn’t it?

While Stefan is going on about the importance of marriage, special attention needs to go on the basic common sense DON’T CHEAT.

However, Dr. Kanaris says that the disorder is exacerbated in a variety of ways, not necessarily just through affairs, but essentially manifests through the male diverting sexual energy away from the primary relationship

That’s what adultery is.

That’s it.

– such as toward pornography or erotic massage.

Still cheating, seeking physical satisfaction elsewhere. How would they feel if the other spouse did it?

Normalised in this society is not normal.

To look with lust in your heart yada yada.

Women are repulsed by the visual

Men do not understand this.

Women are repulsed by ugly visuals, to the same degree men love tits.

A woman has to like or especially love a man, to love the sight of his genitals.

Girl sends guy’s unsolicited dick pic to his grandmother

Women are also triggered into flight mode, jet speed, at anything approaching a controlling plot or a sexual stalker.

This keeps us alive.

Women don’t want a caveman with steroid rage and bitch tits.

Poetic men aren’t superficial gym rats.

“On the first few dates” hello entitlement, my old friend…

If she’s so high quality…. nevermind.

translation into Womanese:

So sensitive to your needs I keep sending you guilt-trip essays to pressure you in a vulnerable time to give me things.

See, an emotionally intelligent man would be her shoulder to cry on.

No. This guy practically wants a signed contract.

An unsolicited photo is presumed to have no privacy requirements.

It goes well when he treats her like a human being rather than a Darwinian sex toy responsive to a provider bravado (you cannot mix r and K, dumbass).

“Core stuff… like exercise?”

Ah. I see your problem. She didn’t fancy you because you’re either stupid or vain, likely both.

Why don’t men ever consider, why don’t I see women with vapid men?

He failed the test to make room in a busy life, she was dithering.

Over and premature and inappropriate sharing, he doesn’t know the rules. They are strangers.

She literally has no time for him – or anyone. He takes this like a sensible mature man.

Nah, jk.

He didn’t even lead with a photo of his face smiling at her, he’s an idiot.

“Why can’t women be honest?” This is a fine example. She was honest. She didn’t owe him that.

This is why we can’t be nice to anyone vaguely creepy.

They take any response as a Yes. This ends up with you dead in a ditch.

Hey, she explained? She’s trying to improve his social skills.

That’s pity.

He doesn’t know the meaning of unsolicited. Unless a woman says “ok/sure, send me that type of photo” SHE DOES NOT WANT THAT TYPE OF PHOTO. Hell, most women wouldn’t like a random unsolicited photo of a cute puppy! It’s weird! Our creepdar is sensitive!

Koy? Witness the low IQ male, thinking leagues do not exist.

You lead me on – by replying? Wow, that’s like “your Honour, I didn’t rape her, she was wearing a miniskirt!”

“You can’t string me along” – by being friendly, kind, feminine, human. This, THIS is why women need to be cold. Need to, for survival.

You have to” – crazy, crazy entitled.

Imagine if your boss said you had to give him a blowjob because you chatted at the water cooler.

I’m guessing this poor boy bought one of Roosh’s text game books?

A guess, but 99% probable.

The delusion of treating a woman like a cross between an item you control and a slut (when she’s really good) comes through here.

The family needs to be held responsible for the fruit.

Look at all the immaturity of this thread.

That is modern man.

A breakdown for the simple coming across this

I have a good job – I think I can buy your pussy, the one part I care about

I have credentials but cannot reason emotionally for five minutes

I want to settle down – I want to trap you, stranger, so you can never leave me

Take care of my princess – I want to be your Dad but also I’m basing my lust on your appearance, knowing nothing else about you

I’ve thought about you for so long – but never checked in about this with a mature man who would tell me to befriend you and see if we have anything in common before envisaging a white picket fence like a crazy person making a skin suit to be close to you

This is Simpsons tier.

Did all this for you – never checked what you wanted because you aren’t a human being with valid preferences, you will always defer to me, random obsessive man

This is the thanks I get – you should be grateful I want to stalk you and keep you in a jar shaped like my basement. My fixated attention is a priceless unique gift, like a snowflake and the sexual attention is universally prized.

Wow. Just wow. – I am worse than all the people I mock.

I had to look up KYS. It means kill yourself. The narcissist’s idealization/devaluation is triggered pre-emptively by narcissist rage. She is vindicated in making 100000000% the right decision. He is defective inside.

No one wants you – I am a spiteful little bitch who wanted to poison something beautiful

This is good for spotting awful women too. Leave them to one another, they deserve it.

or could ever be attracted to you and your small tits – I am jealous of the man who gets to appreciate your best features and want to make you insecure so you never attract that real man and end up alone like me.

This is the clinical example of a mantrum.

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=mantrum

I was just trying to do the right thing – I was trying to use you but your instincts kicked in and I couldn’t get my way so you have to suffer the emotional hysteria of a man who has never been told No by relatives.

Extend a olive tree – I think I can learn things off the internet and impress other people because I’m statistically likely to be a psychopath, assume everyone is naive and stupid as me. I’m superficial but think I’m morally superior to everyone, including Saints. Really, this is a cover for my degeneracy. My grammar sucks because I cannot pay attention, worse than a dog and will last no more than two months in any person’s life.

Since your gonna have such a hard time out there – I believe everything I read on the internet when it makes me feel better about my own suffering, by telling me that women will get the bitch version of karma, even when they’re a good person.

I thought I’d give you one good fuck before – I think you have the agency of a mop I can pick up and use. I am one of the worst lovers in human history and probably think the female orgasm is a stand-up joke. I think normal men talk like this. You’ll be sorry not to catch my STDs!

Back to the world of loniness and rejection like you deserve – I can judge you as inferior because you aren’t a whore. You’re a prude and that’s something to be proud of, I wish I could have standards but if I repeat the shaming often, you might believe it’s something wrong with you and seek me out to fix you? I get rejected by other men, this isn’t sexual, I’m just a terrible human being and refuse to acknowledge this.

Srsly, kys. – I bought a MAGA hat with no irony. I have no self awareness of my ridiculous existence and refuse to see the family therapist I desperately need. Daddy, why U leave me?????? 😦 Revenge fucking women is my calling, maybe I’ll understand him better if I repeat his mistakes.

I’m gonna gocsll one of the 3 or 5 women who live just to fuck me either individually or all at once – I definitely read ROK and live in a deluded world of fantasy involving a harem of white women. This makes me a good person rather than a sad degenerate who sorely needs a slap and some decent priorities. I can trust Roosh on what white women want. So many seem to adore him.

Full stops – rage typing is the longest conversation you’ll ever get from me, borderline psychotic poet. I will continue to stalk you on social media, send bitchy screeds to your friends to turn them against you, maybe try to get you fired in a few months because I am the sorest loser and will never, ever forget this. It’s your fault I have no life, and every other woman! I will end up being conned by a Thai bride who said she was a virgin. This is still not my fault. It’s society.

Sending it to his grandmother – finally, the rot is exposed.
Except he gets it from her. Hence, they need family therapy. She victim blames. Okay, tell the police? It’s harassment. Spot the r-types, that are fine with this all the way up to public sex.

This is why you post them to gay sites. They wanted everyone in the world to see, and now they’re uncomfortable too!

He’s not in school – grandmother admits he is a psychopath

schedule frees up – porn addict, maybe drugs

I wouldn’t want you to see him – I’m acting like I’m rejecting you first so you feel bad, I am also bat shit and have no sense of right or wrong.

I’ll have him send an apology – I think you are stupid, he will never change, now or in three divorces’ time

I’d rather he not contact me again – woman knows grandma is a cunt.

Just go to the police, darling. He threatened you multiple times.

“hormones are something” – retardation is genetic

“he does need reminding” – I’ll tell him it was your fault for not appreciating the baby

I’m sorry you went through that – I just looked it up and since you can press criminal charges I’m trying to butter you up with sweet granny act

BUT – I am covering this little pampered prick’s ass

he was just confused – telling you to die wasn’t enough to do once, he really needed to make sure you knew he was seriously fantasizing about your death, lovely woman who has been bothered out of nowhere by a nutter, his future threat to you will be written off by me as misguided until he gets stabbed in a bar for being a little bitch to the wrong person

He is a good person – He gets it from me

He takes this tack with most women, so don’t feel singled out  – this is normal, forget it’s illegal and blame yourself. Don’t seek out other victims or go to the police, especially if he keeps coming after you in ten years, from a bush. I don’t expect an 18yo+ to act like a fucking adult.

I really think he was just confused – knowing female psychology I hope you will get confused and hate yourself for causing this anguish when your only crime was to be nice to an omega one time and own a phone

Have a good night – don’t bother me again or I’ll show you my narcissistic rage too

Send my best to the family – I will come after you harder

I see your in school now, congrats – Here’s a distraction! A little flattery, I’m so smooth! I looked up where you live!

I’m not really sure what else to say – to reiterate how I will blame you until my death for his “loneliness” and want you to suffer just like he does, painfully, would be easy to screencap like this for police, so I’m going to pretend I’m awkward instead of murderously angry. Cunty church women who bully children into being insane are the worst form of evil.

 

1850 fuckboys

We call that an attention whore.

Studs are just the male forms of coquettes. There’s nothing impressive in it at all – anyone can flirt with a person they don’t care about. The name for a male tease is coquet.

https://english.stackexchange.com/questions/77958/woman-is-to-coquette-as-man-is-to-what

A man who from vanity or selfish motives aims at making himself generally attractive to the other sex; a male flirt;

From cocky, which clearly applies more to men.

Why rude? A person can be promiscuous emotionally.

Literal mansplaining

I can’t find that pointless blog post I was gonna put.

All blog posts are pointless. Still.

It’s like a weird combination of ignoring someone, telling them to shut up but then expecting they’ll listen and agree with whatever you say like the peerless wisdom of Moses bringing down the Ten Commandments. Imagine every conversation with the opposite sex was like talking to a Reddit atheist who kept quoting Dawkins out of context, citing bad memes and he was 100% certain your mounting irritation was in fact sexual attraction.

And then there’s the march of the Sure, I get it morons. Who never got the tactful ability to keep their mouth shut on any issue, ever. We call those gobby, it’s something only women and gay men used to do but now men nag and whine and bitch because those are verbs and they do them now. Men became the shrew (but what about ME?) e.g. in a conversation he interrupted on periods. They think they look philosophical but they’re ….what’s the pretentious word they misuse? Solipsistic. Er, selfish in normal people tongue. It’s always got to be about them because why bother talking about anything else, they must be the centre of attention at all times even when not around.

It used to be only teenage mean girls pulling this shit. They’d grow out of it. Nobody claps the guys round the ear at a certain age (18) and tells them to STFU if they have nothing nice to say.

If you have nothing nice to say, don’t pretend you’re nice?

Silence is golden. Why aren’t Americans teaching this anymore? Turn taking, humility…

The funny part is that women do it but it’s rare a woman would be so rude (and you probably missed the cues to stop looooong before that point). In the case of men it’s expected to jump in and help, regardless of qualification and socially vaunted. Mr Worldly Expert dives in with yet another piece of nonsensical bollocks he pulled off wikipedia while skimming something vaguely related on the toilet last month. No, your opinion doesn’t magically become relevant. It’s like my opinion on male circumcision, I keep saying we need studies because I’m not a man, I lack the parts and this keeps things objective.
The sad part is it’s still controlling what other people talk about, which is not on. People don’t have to stick around and listen or care, but you can say almost any boring shit you want. *stares in blogger* It’s the internet.
You’ll never hear a white, middle-class American male say ‘I don’t know’ these days. It’s the scientism, they equate waffling and useless trivia to personal value.
No, never. It just makes you obnoxious. You know when two of  them try to outdo one another? Everyone else in the room, men included, is relieved to have a break. No one cares. They were being polite.
It’s also related to the jerk who only asks how you’re doing, on say, a holiday, so he can talk about his own. That one’s pretty even though. I guess the crux of the actual mansplaining thing, and not the attempts to shut men up on their own issues, is that women are burdened socially based on the expectation we’ll listen to any old shit without pointing out it’s shit because then we’re the bitch. The etiquette says that isn’t rude, wasting someone’s time to brag is. Derailing a conversation you don’t like with one-upmanship is rude, whoever does it.

Man is critical > clever.
Woman is critical > there must be something wrong with her! This one’s malfunctioning!

In a way, smartphones and the like have made men more socially backwards than any stereotypical historical misogynist. It’s catch 22. Whatever we say is spun against us. Are you actually a woman? Are you bad at being a woman? No, we’re trying to hold this mess of a conversation together for you, thanks for caring.
The judgemental Victorian men in films were actually very polite. They valued attempts at learning and expression, in part because schools doubled as finishing schools and they had to LEARN manners. Where do kids learn it now? Rap?

FFS, you made me sympathize with Laurie Dippy Penny.

Anyone expecting you to stand there quietly and listen to their monologue like an obedient pet has gotta have some issues. Take up running and run away.
This is why therapists exist, you pay them to let you take over the room.

We have an old term for those, conversation hogs.

Rarely, it can be female, like the woman going on and on about her nails. It needn’t be political.

I guess the unfair dichotomy goes as such;

Woman does this > Ah, stupid women.

Harsh. Why is the entire sex dragged into it?

Man does this > Ah, he tried.

WTF.

Male narcissism and misogyny

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2017/09/are-male-narcissists-also-misogynists/

So many studies, so little patience.

Yes, a core trait of inferiority.

https://disenchantedscholar.wordpress.com/2017/07/24/link-inferiority-the-opposite-of-genius/

It isn’t a complex, if it’s a fact.

Logically, you cannot feel threatened by an outgroup if you are secure. So either they are insecure or lying about who’s the superior sex. Bears don’t have to tell racoons they’re bigger.

Link: Gaslighting in marriage – why it’s wrong

It isn’t purely men that do this but in a marriage, I’ve never heard of a woman doing it.

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2016/01/20-situations-in-which-men-gaslight-women/

Those ‘redpill husbands’ claiming this is prosocial domination are covering for their antisocial, divorce-causing behaviour.

In a 1998 study of 130 newlywed couples designed to explore predictors of divorce or marital stability, marriage researcher and author Dr. John Gottman and colleagues, labeled this observed behavior of husbands — as “bat-em-back” — due to the force with which husbands automatically acted to cut off any attempts of wives to influence. To the researchers, this intentional behavior was likened to that of a baseball player at the plate, ever ready to “bat” a home run.

This and subsequent studies found that a husband’s “refusal to accept influence from his wife” — in effect, gaslighting — is highly predictive of divorce. On the bright side, findings also showed that a husband’s “acceptance of influence from his wife” is even more predictive of a stable and happy marriage.

Essentially he’s depriving her of her role, refusing to allow her to support him.
Well, if you didn’t want support, why aren’t you single?
If you hate the feminine, why legally and spiritually bind yourself to it?

Are the abusers honest about this fact? No.
Never. They’d lose control. You cannot cooperate with someone who wants to destroy you.
They don’t care about the marriage bond and they certainly don’t care about the other spouse.
In Biblical terms, they are letting the team down on the cherish part of the vow.

Naturally, the problem here is not male partners, rather the social conditioning that trains men to anxiously feel they have to prove masculinity on the basis of how different they are from women — and in general that means avoiding the “soft” stuff their female partners want, such as romance, nonsexual touch, doing things she wants or likes (without feeling emasculated), etc.

Anyone who does that whipped sound, you can tell they’re bad with women.
Love is a verb. Do or do not do.

Culturally speaking, we don’t trust that a baby boy will grow to become a man in the same way that an acorn becomes an oak tree. We expect men to be on guard throughout their lives to prove they are the “real” thing, and not “sissies” or “gay” and the like. And men’s fears are real; everyone is “watching,” male and female, ready to shame them to get back on track. (This shaming has intensified in last two decades.)

As Ali notes, gaslighting is a result of social conditioning rooted in a set of beliefs regarding gender roles and masculinity, such as that:

  • Women’s opinions don’t hold as much weight.

  • Women’s wants should not be treated as legitimate.

  • Men should never express regret when their actions have caused pain.

aka psychopath

Who doesn’t want to live with a psycho?

Geez, no wonder they divorce the bastard.

If they really believed any of those false beliefs, they would never, ever marry.
They’d rather die on the end of a shotgun.

I don’t think the men who do this realize – if we brought back fault-divorce, men would lose because dissolution is normally their fault. It’s a failure of EQ on their part. That’s also why they refuse therapy, they don’t want to change, like a toddler. They’d rather hurt/weaken or lose the spouse.

“Hamstering” explained as bullshit;

Because women are conditioned to collaborate and empathize, this tactic can send a woman’s brain into an exhaustive wheel-spinning mode of explaining, complaining, crying, begging, pleading, etc. (and women’s socialization leaves them more susceptible …),  and deceive a man’s brain into making several false, misleading (and unfortunate) conclusions.

Victim blaming, hilarious. Note that they’re fine around normal people though. It’s mere proximity to the loser who feels the need to throw around diagnoses like a Munchausen by Proxy (Woe is me because of them) that’s the real issue.

For one, they interpret the effectiveness of this thought control tactic to silence their partner’s voice as “proof” of men’s superiority, rightful dominance, strength and intelligence compared women’s, etc., and thus get tricked into relying on a tactic that harms their relationship, and gradually pushes their partner away.

They crave attention, spew bullshit, get what they wanted – but it’s the woman’s fault?
Amazing magic trick.
The dumbass doesn’t know he’s conditioning women not to provide him affection.

That’s a level of retard I’ve never seen.

In truth, gaslighting is a major obstacle to forming a healthy, vibrant couple relationship — emotional intimacy. For most female partners, for example, a failure to build emotional intimacy often means a gradual loss of interest in sex.

Literally the manosphere.

Women don’t want me – how is this their fault?

But while discussing their relationships, you can never, ever talk about them.

Guess the common factor.

Guess the problem.