Video: Excuses empaths make for narcissists

Urge to control hidden with lovebombing (being nice isn’t an obligation) and magically change the other person, killing the former person. Thanks, Disney’s Beauty and the Beast!

Validating bad behaviours as proof they’re needed.

Feeling superior for “catching” the predator they think they can turn into prey.

Resentment of common sense (if you don’t want them as they are, leave).

Passive aggression masquerading as gender roles (both sexes) e.g. 50s housewife incompetence or bravado complete with gaslighting put-downs around said incompetence.

http://things.justinthrelkeld.com/post/178624223456/maybe-50s-jello-food-actually-was-a-sublimated

Often they aren’t really empaths and covert narcissists pretend to be empaths.

Like autists and psychopaths (they confuse self-involvement with empathy).

Expecting a narc to love is like expecting a man with no hands to juggle.

A common female manifestation:

Intrusive people pushing into your life under the guise of “helping”.

Treating you like the problem (or a problem) and acting like your mother or shrink (power) when you made it clear you do not want this. If you were the problem, they’d want you to see a shrink or leave.

They don’t respect boundaries and try to force things as Being Nice. Those are the biggest bitches of all and to men, seem popular (and feminine, it’s fake feminine to seem less bossy) but women actually keep them at arm’s length with fake niceties to appease them. (It isn’t anything to do with appearance, contrary to what men can assume, as they’ll discover if they marry it).

It’s easy to spot Fake Nice women – does anyone take advantage of their “niceness”? If no, they’re actually a social predator. Real nice people hate the rep and people do take advantage.

It’s for your own good from such fake people is gaslighting, surely you know your own good better than someone you just met?

A common one I heard from men is “she won’t leave me alone, I feel like I’m being stalked!” yeah, because you are? If you tell someone repeatedly to back off and they don’t it’s harassment. I don’t cover female abuse enough but I feel uncomfortable knowing people may twist it or as if I’m speaking for experiences of men than just repeating.

Narcissistic male views marriage as status symbol

And a cover.┬áIt is less a yoke and more a ball and chain because they expect to take, take take and never give (even their gender role) unless they expect more in return – so not a union, more like running a business.

Good marriages aren’t a scoreboard.

Being married isn’t an achievement, you signed your name. It isn’t a status to hit others with like a rhetorical weapon. A good marriage is an achievement but I guarantee the married men bitching about single women don’t have one of those. Shouldn’t you be with your family than wasting time online? It’s un-Biblical, they’re bad husbands. They cherish every woman BUT their wife. (And they deny their body belongs to their wife).

The Madonna/Whore complex means they are emotionally impotent with their own wife. They hate her because she is his wife. (Because they hate themselves, thus resent her for loving him).

They don’t have empathy, they can’t love (even themselves). They can only imitate and parody i.e. seduction, “romance” cliches, while acting out of sync behind the mark’s back (lying, confabulated memory, cheating). It’s ALL superficial so they intend to lovebomb, mirror (to seem like a soulmate) and trick “good” women into the trap of legal union (personality disorders do this all the time, usually the mask doesn’t slip until after the wedding so long courtship had the old role of filtering them out). The prey can’t escape.

There is usually gaslighting during courtship into codependency (or deeper from an already codependent woman) so he uses the woman for supply before the marriage but she views it as emotional intimacy (wrong*), taking advantage of the novelty of the situation and fact she hasn’t seen all his sides (not informed consent). They don’t even know how bitter he is until after marriage, typically (because he is running off her supply so it doesn’t come out). These are later the divorced guys who act like innocent maidens attacked by the dragon of divorce and warn all men off marriage because they personally sucked at it. (Husband is a job so they devalue it once it turns out to be, you know, WORK).

Psychopaths are best known for doing that bait and trap thing with marriage, we need strict legal protections from such people (men and women both) and psychopaths are the most pathological narcissist.

There are plenty of good videos on that channel, including ones about women and traits the narcissist seeks to take for themselves via relationships, as an emotional vampire.

Oh, and they always cheat in marriage. They claim all men are similarly weak or “unhappy” because they don’t like other men either, thinking of other men as happy, faithful or good husbands would kill them on the inside.

So when no-fault divorce is over, they’ll be screwed twice!

Marriages require both parties to have emotional maturity (cooperation, compromise) so any union with a narcissist in it is doomed, even if the other party is a literal Saint. Naturally, it’s never their fault, like any incompetent person so they get married again and again and make the same “mistakes” again and again but there’s no agency involved apparently.

They were innocent victims of the vagina, as they purchased a ring and got down on one knee and said things they didn’t mean and spent months planning and turned up to say some lines and where, oh, where, did they go wrong?

They’re never wrong, according to them. Despite how their life is always a mess.

They’ll claim men are leaders in a marriage but resent the business of actually leading.

This is the guy who’ll claim to be traditional but hates religion and has a long, long line of “exes” you’re not “allowed” to “judge”. They’re such hypocrites they’re a walking joke.

*Emotional labour is real and doing too much of it (for two whole people) can kill a woman (stress x disease risk) or, rarely, a man. Commonly, a man is killed by stress at work (physical labour) but a woman’s lifespan is shortened by stress at home (emotional labour) so who a woman marries can literally be life or death, it can be the difference of a happy life and extra decades. Women need this information.

I’d bet good money that Type A men have an unhappy marriage and the woman has a similar disease risk profile. A married man’s primary responsibility is to his wife and until society pushes this point hard, men won’t try. They’ll ignore the marriage for career, friends, addiction (workaholism is the socially desirable addiction though). If the man won’t Be the Man, nothing the woman does will succeed. Men shirk their duties, abandon the home (literally or spiritually) and what can a woman do about that? Force him? No! Then she’s being the man!

And random but when society values women’s happiness and feminine energy levels over her contribution to GDP, we’ll be nicer overall. EVERYBODY WINS.

I’ve seen feminine women mocked by other women (envy) and torn down by men (who knows it’s easier to bed a High T harridan). Pick your poison, guys. Either you want women to earn their keep and be a whore in your bedroom or you want a docile purer kind and shun the former. You can’t expect mutual exclusives, it’s impossible. And you have to be worthy of the woman you want or it won’t last.

Funny example

One guy I spoke to said he liked “traditional women” but he also filtered FOR a “career woman”.

His words. He thought this was clever. He wanted the status of her “achievements”, you see.

When pressed (and I was pressed myself at the ignorance), he said he expected a woman to have a “good” (secure) job (be locked in), and have “at least” a middle-class salary. I just told him he sounded like a woman… from the 50s.

He literally did, I swear, there were other details that sealed it e.g. sexual experience. Why would any sane man want a wife who’s had more fun with other men?

He insisted there was no contradiction or way this could possibly backfire on him. That, my friends, is the idiot in action. When I pointed out those are impossible values systems, polar opposites, he claimed a traditional woman would be “bad in bed” (like you can’t teach them?) and “lazy” for not wanting an office job. The feminist propaganda has sunk into men the deepest.

They feel entitled to seek their male qualities in their wife.

That’s dysfunctional and you can’t convince me otherwise.

How lazy! What, is he going to take on the female role and give birth?

He only claimed to want trad because it’s the current status symbol, because he likes the idea of it and the supply it might give him. He married an SJW. She cooks sometimes and “lets him” tradlarp. He’s a moron. The woman who is cautious is feminine, there’s no rush – the woman desperate for a husband, any husband, is using you.

I have betting odds on his divorce. Easy money.

https://disenchantedscholar.wordpress.com/2018/07/16/why-wont-women-be-right-wing/

As it is, hypersexualised porno society has made women very masculine, higher T. They also need it to defend themselves in a low trust, multiculti society and that, naturally, never gets a mention. Unsafe society = everyone gets more aggressive. Sort out the former and the latter reverts.

We’re cultural refugees, in a way. Pining for a world that doesn’t exist.

We live in the dishonour culture, where people who act like whores aren’t ashamed of it, they’re proud. With freedom of association, we could avoid these people (m/f).

Not every man who wants to get married would be a good husband. Sometimes they want a slave to abuse but in the Bible such treatment (like property, like using a machine or a PA, housekeeper) instead of the equal yoke, to love and to cherish, was grounds for divorce. So nope, they can’t hide behind religion…. unless we can stone them for adultery (lawsuits were less bloody).

Trad test: what should be the punishment for adultery?

Trads know adultery is a crime. To “commit” adultery demands punishment.

Jezebel spirits and soul ties

Speaking of media, nobody touching Jezebel?

http://www.jonasclark.com/sex-soul-ties-jezebel-seducing-spirit/

“Every person you have sex with leaves a part of them in you. That part is a soul tie. Some, not all, soul ties come from sexual relations. Many more soul ties come from emotional manipulation.”
They’re also called emotional vampires.
Soul ties are also how various Satanic rituals work.

http://www.jonasclark.com/witchcraft-loneliness-church-jezebel-spirit/
“The dullness is similar to a drunken stupor.”
Urge to tag.
“Over time I felt controlled and saw how she used helping me as a way to make her feel good.”
Covert narcissism, the self-proclaimed Saint, they get off feeling superior so you’ll never heal, they can’t allow it.