A lesson on authenticity from the Catholics

Unusual post considering I’m not Catholic, but I do think Protestants have abandoned too many of the solid principles in the rush to escape the yoke of a power-hungry Pope (ofc, we’d never have that problem now, perish the thought).
http://www.catholicstand.com/cant-make-silk-purse-sows-ear/

Interesting self-improvement applications. I’ve been looking into grace as it may be channeled by humans, the best ladies are said to possess it, it’s like female charisma, so if anyone else has good resources give us a bell.

“Attendance at Mass, regular confession, spiritual exercises, fasting, and prayer are wonderful vehicles of grace but if we think pious activities will sanctify us, we will only appear to be holy on the outside like the Pharisees”

Recipe for Salvation When You Don’t Really Mean It
step one: adopt three African babies, no more, no less than these, but three is the number of the Trinity
two is too few, four is overboard
three will make thy Lord happy

and so it is written, in my headcanon Bible.

“However, man cannot transform himself into a holy being. As my Irish grandmother would say, “You can’t make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear.”

I was told it means you can’t make bad people good, because they closed that door a long time ago.
Nor can you improve the quality of people without their consent, a concept familiar to those who’ve been to a therapist.

“we are basically trying to save ourselves with our religious works.”

The CHINOs never cared for their posterboi Jesus, as you can tell by the gaudy memes, let alone the Big Man. Politics is always #1 in their hearts. They’d wear hoodies with God is Good, totally forgetting all the humility schtick.

“In fact, self-appointed spiritual disciplines that are not inspired and empowered by the Holy Spirit are self-centered, not God-centered. To put this thought in more shocking terms, when we try to perfect ourselves we are stealing Christ’s job of redemption and sanctification.”

Beware of false prophets on Youtube.
*cough cough Whores of Patreon cough*

““You’re working for satan, not God.” I realized I still had not allowed Jesus to justify me. I was still relying on good works to earn God’s approval.”

Signalling is a sin?
Insincere signalling, I think.
Think of it this way, your salvation is out of your hands. Try to be a good person and do the right thing, the really right thing, and any God worth his salarium would be content with that.

“Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”

Scammers move on quickly so you don’t expose them, all those metaphors about light? Most people doling out advice are in it for something other than truth. Most overt being the love of money…
If you have nothing to hide from a God, why the guilt? Perhaps this is the reason Christianity allowed Europeans to thrive culturally, it taps into our vice weakness (the infamous white guilt) and directs it positively. I haven’t seen pagan religions achieve this, where records exist.

Know thyself, and thy inner jerk.

Link: The false virtues of alpha male

http://www.primermagazine.com/2012/live/dont-be-a-dick-the-false-virtues-of-the-classic-alpha-male
“What’s troublesome is how far we take the analogy, even if we don’t particularly like the alpha males in our office, our circle of friends or our sports league. Because the power dynamic is reflected in the natural world, we’ve internalized the notion that dominance by an alpha male is the natural order of things. As such, we’ve come to recognize the characteristics of a classic alpha male as virtues. Though unseemly at times, we accept them as necessary traits for effective leadership.

I would argue, however, that they are not. While I recognize that our world needs leaders, I would caution anyone away from choosing the asshole lifestyle in the pursuit of alphadom. Because we are not animals. While this behavior may win you a momentary position of power, it won’t last.

Counters, and consequences;
1. There is always someone bigger than you, and they might kill you. You never know if the person you just pissed off in the bar is an assassin. They never look like an assassin, idiot. The loudest person in the bar is least likely to kill you. The quiet guy who doesn’t want any trouble? Buy him a drink and run.
2. Great way to lose friends who call you out and get surrounded by sycophants.
3. What all prisoners have in common for $200.
4. There are these things called rights and they’re legally enforceable.

Here’s a fact, most murderers and rapists begin as lower level abusers, domestic or habitual fighters.

Terrible link but it gets the gist. There are mathematical patterns to this.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/4ha0er/relatives_of_murderers_what_memories_stand_out_as/
They get a sense of invincibility from it and finally ‘graduate’ to murder or rape (both involve taking). They get a sexual thrill out of violating personal boundaries (hence the emphasis of this as a red flag). From medical accounts, they prepare for their future crimes psychologically (what if, but dark) and anticipate it, almost willing an excuse, and sometimes it forms a masturbation fantasy. TMI but true. Plenty of serial killers/rapists are compulsive masturbators. Drug use and alcohol abuse are also common, they like being out of it. Later this forms part of their legal defense.
They begin as antisocial, the clinical behaviours of aggression, and escalate. If they’ve lost one marble, odds are they’ve lost the rest, you just don’t know it yet. You don’t owe anyone your life trying to ‘fix’ them. That’s how you end up dead.

Uncontrollable anger isn’t alpha. Toddlers have it. I’ve yet to hear a single valid virtue of the alpha male that shouldn’t apply to all men (boohoo you aren’t special), and usually most people, in fact. But hey, the self-improvement cult on social media doesn’t care about pesky logic.

Video: The true time cost of entrepreneurship (and overnight success)

It isn’t part-time.

It isn’t 4 hours a week.

It’s a mindset that plagues you every waking hour.

This guy should be famous in redpill self-improvement circles. (Well, I guess they want a part-time get rich quick scheme some of them but the rest of them yes).

This guy needs to be famous. He isn’t a household name because he tells the truth. It is hard. It takes decades of work. In convenience culture, this cannot be true to us, we feel. And when you GET there…

I’ve had that. Be nice to nice people, gracious to gracious people and so on, treat as you find, but the bulk of messages you get from weak connections will be chancers, the exceptions. The two main types of user are casual and malignant.

The best response to the fake nice shirty ones trying it on casually is actually;

I was working every single time you were out having fun. You got memories, I got paid. That’s the price of success and why by now you’ll never be able to catch up to me. But sure, ‘luck’, it was also luck I got better grades than you too, huh?

The reformed bullies are funniest. It’s like a script. Don’t think it’s about you, hence I’m posting the generic script.

Hey, remember me? (they’ll mention where they sat in a class) Listen I’m so sorry about (awful things I did) I was just a kid and I’m really ashamed of it now and I’d like to make amends and I saw (successful thing you’re doing) and I wanted (contact, connection, time, free stuff), it’s (compliments, often back-handed, like allusions ‘luck’) and I’d like to be friends.

The bolded phrase is the entire reason for their correspondence. If their sweet nothings are so good or you make an excuse they really mean it (that’s your vanity talking) say you forgive them but you don’t want them to contact you again. Oh, they’ll contact you again. Bullies can’t stand the victim taking control away. A sincere person would not reply, not even to snidely infer you’ll be sorry (I hope you can find it in your heart….)

It’s like, honestly? You think I’m stupid? Do I have doormat stamped on my forehead? I want you to fuck off and die you abusive piece of shit, you set the terms and chose to start on me. How dare you try and patch this over and further screw me now I’m finally out of school and your clutches. That’s a healthy response to abuse, you are not a bad person for it.
However, if you ignore them, read their messages but resist the urge to reply (reply to a designated vent friend), the mask usually comes off again. Something like…

OMG you’re so ungrateful, (what did they do?) you were always such a (spoiled brat) that’s why nobody liked you and (achieving thing) doesn’t matter because you’ll always be a loser to us.

They still think you care what they think. Just reply: Grow up.
Block them. Done.

When someone’s first impulse is to use you, and emotionally blackmail you with things they have done? That is a sociopath. 1 in 50. They are immature and the best response is to outclass them.

Link: The nagging voices of the amygdala

http://www.mrmoneymustache.com/2012/05/21/embracing-the-nagging-voice-of-success/

Yup….

That’s amygdala irritation.

The combination of fear, self-loathing, irritation, frustration and confusion.
All amygdala flags.
Usually you have a broken productivity schema. You need to find one that settles it down and that includes figuring out what triggers it (usually subconscious doubts).

You know those kids at school who never did the homework? Theirs was practically dead. Too far.
You know the anally-retentive kid who tried to start early (this was me) – too much. Also too far.

You need to learn to be comfortable with a little chaos in your schedule, a little flexibility.
You need to be in good health first, but time management is the #1 Self Improvement Skill anyone should learn, otherwise they can’t learn anything else. They’re fighting an uphill battle against themselves.