Sex and the Narcissist – 2 flavours

The porn addict

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism/2016/08/sex-the-narcissist-sadism-pt-1/

The manwhore

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism/2016/08/sex-the-narcissist-sex-addict-pt-2/

I have nothing to add, really.
The former is more likely a male borderline, in my opinion.

It’s about controlling the other person, hurting them, whether it’s setting one-sided ‘rules’ (that make no sense) or defiling them (usually more religious, actually, Madonna/Whore idealization/devaluation at play).

It’s popular to say rape is about power. It isn’t, it’s about pleasure. Sadistic pleasure.

Consensual sex is a power exchange.

Update: The second category isn’t purely a sociopathic thing.
For the second category that isn’t a predator but instead compulsive and lacking in fulfillment, self-control etc…

“Earlier research revealed that 87% of sex addicts were raised in emotionally neglectful families (Carnes, 1998).”
“Generally, sex addiction is an attachment disorder, meaning that the addict is unable to connect with themselves or others, and these patterns were learned in childhood from emotionally neglectful or abusive caregivers.”
from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/childhood-neglect/2017/07/what-no-one-ever-told-you-about-sex-addiction/

I seemed harsh because I was referring to the sexual predators that plague both sexes.
People with real issues need help, professional help.

Hook-up culture and promiscuity bad for psychiatric health

The “Well, duh” brand of science.

http://researchnews.osu.edu/archive/casualsex.htm
h/t AC

“There’s always been a question about which one is the cause and which is the effect. This study provides evidence that poor mental health can lead to casual sex, but also that casual sex leads to additional declines in mental health.”

Age of first sex (what a pedophilic name that is) is a great marker for mental illness later in life, including risk of suicide. Yes, it very much includes abuse victims. Both count as social harm and personal damage.

Sex is an easy, natural high. Self-medication aside, the disturbance in the psyche caused by yet-more unstable chemicals, self-produced or not, would cause a downward spiral. It’s known as a self-destructive behaviour because there is no limit. It’s about dopamine more than serotonin, a close second. They are training their brain for the worst possible mechanisms, making it weaker, more capricious and brittle. These are the rats who would always push the dopamine lever, forsaking any food, until they die. It is an insane behaviour and at minimum, betrays a form of self-loathing which calls their willing consent into question. At least, medication must be regular and in this case it poses other health risks from the fact sexual activity is not (masturbation is lesser stimulus and may even out as a basic relief depending on timing). Many of them are on SSRIs, artificially boosting their body’s endorphins and continue to seek out more. It should be seen as self-harm, like cutting. They cannot appreciate the little things, which compounds the issue, like a hot-sauce addict who calls any food less spicy ‘bland’. Trendy, foreign food would also trigger dopamine release i.e. foodies are self-medicating. If placed on any dietary restriction, however minor, the novelty ‘buzz’ of food would wear off and they’d stop caring about it. Rations would infuriate and they queue for hours for a mediocre but fashionable dish. Fashions become insane because bored, rich people buy them. Fashions are casual because they are lazy and the psychology needs to be comfortable in looser clothing, compared to a minimal symbol of authority like a tie. They begin to loathe the sex they crave, from a feeling of entitlement, that ‘everybody belongs to everybody else’ and rejection becomes rage-inducting to them as narcissists.

There is no such thing as sex addiction because it’s simply more convenient for them than a dopamine drip (this would save the Government money in the long run and prevent their use as vectors of disease, including memetic transmission). However, sex is addictive. It’s a subtle distinction that must be made as they continue to plummet for the sake of a never-ending hunger, that is irrational and divorced from reality (read: psychotic). Unlike actual drugs, they burn out their body’s own production, which often leads them to begin supplementing with drugs to plug the deficit they feel, from party highs to mixing things and harder stuff. Escalation is the addiction and the sex itself is more a behavioural addiction that spirals into other habits, they do a similar thing with alcohol and chili peppers.

The Nazi undercut sported by hipsters is a symbol of victory over the ideology. It is also convenient to care for and less likely to pick up bugs from their indiscretions.

Street music discusses their favourite things: all hedonic but the treadmill never slows.

The Male Borderline: Commitment-phobes and Sex Addicts

http://gettinbetter.com/casanova.html

It’s not that there are actually more women than men with BPD, it’s that we haven’t identified the ways it manifests in males, as pathological. We might have climbed on-board with the ‘male bashing’ some women have promoted, and assumed this gender had innate deficits when they’ve acted like “jerks,” but what’s often spawned our pejorative view, is aberrant behavior patterns in men with borderline traits. Does that rearrange your mental files??

A colleague who works almost exclusively with male borderlines, has told me that they generally present as commitment-phobes and sex addicts, which seems logical–for at the very core of borderline pathology, is an attachmentissue that starts in infancy, with Mother. This is addressed more fully below, under my subsection; THE WIZARD OF ODDS….

Seducing women feeds his narcissism, and fills his core emptiness–it’s his addiction. Since he can’t form solid/healthy attachments, he takes hostages. Make sure you don’t become his next prisoner.

They’re like a dog chasing a car.
If they got a good woman they wouldn’t know what to do with her, and probably dump her from fear or push her away to feed into his abandonment paranoia.

A lot of PUAs are said to meet the criteria for NPD. This is close to the truth.
In fact, they better fit BPD and they make the entire sex look bad (most of the negative stereotypes about men are based on the immature ones).

Sex ‘addicts’ bad in bed

Quality over quantity, kittens.

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/technology-science/science/sex-addicts-biggest-most-embarrassing-6769757

Obviously, why else keep moving on? They can’t satisfy anyone.

“But researchers found they were also more likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction and “sexual boredom”, which can make it impossible to hold down a healthy, loving relationship with just one person.
“While an examination of the relationship between erectile dysfunction and hypersexuality may appear somewhat surprising at first glance, clinicians recognise the role of erectile dysfunction as a feature of hypersexuality.” the team of academics wrote in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.
“Indeed, dysfunction (accompanied by a low desire for partnered sexual activity) is a common observation in the clinical practice with patients seeking help for excessive sexual behavior, whereas these men seem to frequently use pornography and masturbate.””

Women always raise an eyebrow when a man brags about his sex drive. This is why.

“Perhaps unsurprisingly, sex addicts may find it very difficult to hold down a long term love affair – particularly if their private parts are unwilling to perform their erotic role when required.”

Think about it – if they can’t satisfy themselves, could they anyone else?

reallycome on dean

Meanwhile, oral sex HPV cancer link accrues evidence.
http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/technology-science/science/oral-sex-causes-throat-cancer-7221082#rlabs=7%20rt$category%20p$8

Search term pathogenic cancer.

I believe there was a malignant form passed between dogs via sex too. Historically.

Link: Podcast – The psychology of attraction

http://psychologyofattractivenesspodcast.blogspot.co.uk/

I’m listening to

Men produce more semen when they view more porn stars.

porn cheat archer
Mandatory picture. Not sorry. 

Coolidge effect = male hypergamy. Suck on that hatefact.

In evolutionary terms, this situation is only supposed to happen a few times in a man’s entire life. To take advantage of the super-rare mating opportunity of multiple, nubile available women.
If it happens frequently, as in porn addicts or the supposed sex addict, it’s bad for your health (endocrine system and so on). That’s why many societies dissuaded it and as the manosphere knows with No Fap, it saps male ambition, one of the greatest male attributes.
Seminal volume also changes with age, there are graphs if you go and look.