“We have not seen great things done in our time except by those who have been considered mean; the rest have failed.” ~ Machiavelli
Time is the currency. If you can afford to be bored, you’ve won at life. Take up art (probably painting because if it’s crap you get to call it modern and act smug) and Stoicism and enjoy it. Bakadesuyo is a blog that takes all the research findings of social science and presents them like a normal person.
You bump your head on the dopamine ceiling thanks to the hedonic treadmill but you need to seek out challenges and lower your novelty threshold.
I took a look at a little gander of my digital library to recommend you some titles (aside from Meditations and Seneca and the rest of Ol’ Reliable) to pick your brain over;
- A Guide to the Good Life – the Ancient Art of Stoic Joy
- 501 Challenging Logic and Reasoning Problems
- An Incomplete Education
- Big Ideas in Brief
- From Success to Significance
- How to be invisible
- Practical Duct Tape Projects (you laugh but you’re curious)
- Show me How – 500 things you should know…
- Steal Like an Artist
- The Defining Decade
- The Design of Everyday Things
Yes it’s alphabetical and I am lazy. I’m sure Amazon can recc. you some modern Stoic stuff but I can’t vouch for it unlike Good Life. Go to a bookshop and spin around a few times and see what looks good.
Also, do what I do; dive headfirst into an obscure random topic. Something completely out of your comfort zone and difficulty level. If it puts you off as Too Hard, read it. Today I’m reading about antiques, patina and gilding. I have no idea what half these words are.
Never bored though.
This should be in schools.
Technically, the property right is the decision-making power to do what you desire with it.
This is why it royally pisses me off to see others try to tell a person what to do with their own property (give it to charity being the most enraging). They’re literally claiming a right while taking the enriched person’s away, while pretending to do them a favour. Next they’ll want to charge for the privilege of hearing unsolicited wrong advice (where they bear no cost).
That’s amygdala irritation.
The combination of fear, self-loathing, irritation, frustration and confusion.
All amygdala flags.
Usually you have a broken productivity schema. You need to find one that settles it down and that includes figuring out what triggers it (usually subconscious doubts).
You know those kids at school who never did the homework? Theirs was practically dead. Too far.
You know the anally-retentive kid who tried to start early (this was me) – too much. Also too far.
You need to learn to be comfortable with a little chaos in your schedule, a little flexibility.
You need to be in good health first, but time management is the #1 Self Improvement Skill anyone should learn, otherwise they can’t learn anything else. They’re fighting an uphill battle against themselves.
There is always a trade-off, in other words, involved in replacing homemade with convenience food – and, undoubtedly, in replacing food altogether in favour of a gritty beige liquid. Yet Laudan is clear: simply having the choice of whether to spend time on food, or not, is a valuable and empowering thing.
So here’s the secret, the thing that has been plainly obvious all along: Those people out there who are accomplishing great things and seem to get 50 hours’ worth of work done every day? They’re doing it because they have that gun to their head. An imaginary gun, pressed against their temple all day, every day.
All the Ks in the audience be like
Now go go find the most successful person you know. Talk to them about their average week, and listen closely to what they don’t have. They either don’t have friends, or kids, or hobbies, or they don’t keep up with pop culture, or something that you actually consider very valuable to your own life. Their day is only 24 hours long, just like yours. There is no such thing as adding to it — just sacrificing one thing for another.
r-type reader: “Oh noes! You mean I have to choose?! The world should accommodate me!”
I don’t know anyone of merit who considers pop culture that valuable. Most of it is mind-rotting trash.
And your hobbies should be your occupation. As in, you make money doing it. Or gain something. I like to say, make your actions pay rent. (Or dividends, if speaking to another K).
Saying: An inch of time can buy an inch of gold, but an inch of gold cannot buy an inch of time.
The friends and spouse/kid thing remind me of two good articles on the subject of time management. Every successful person has mastered that one skill before any others.
1. RR’s Human Energy is Conserved.
2. Captain Capitalism’s The Economics of Caloric Return.
Back to Cracked;
Otherwise, it’s no different from planning a budget that assumes you’ll have twice as much money as you actually make. If you want to become a different person, part of it is deciding which parts of you need to die.
You mean extra hours won’t sprout out the day cos the Government said so?
I’m not a special snowflake? No superpowers? I am shocked! Shocked and appalled!
But every obese person imagines themselves a decade from now having become thin, every coward imagines they’ll be brave, you get the idea. There’s never a defined plan for how to get from Point A to Point Z, and never an acknowledgment of the unbearable truth…
No mention of opportunity cost. Of course (sign it’s an r-type writer plagiarizing).
Stop. Don’t make be backtrack. If you had the gun to your head, you’d goddamned well find the time. If you can’t make yourself start in the next 24 hours, you wouldn’t do it even if you had 24 lifetimes.
He even mentions their high time preference, without using the verbose name;
Any great long-term project that seems impossible to most people — from building a house to writing a book to becoming an actual ninja — is possible to the people who do them only because they don’t just focus on the end goal. There’s only what they have to do today. Don’t misunderstand me — it’s not that they ignore the goal, it’s that they don’t regard what they do today and what they want to have 10 years from now as separate things. The future isn’t a fanciful wish, it’s just the logical end of a long chain of todays. What they do today and what they want to be long-term are the same thing.
How hard are the K types laughing to realize the r types literally don’t get this?
It’s like they’re fucking five. This r guy thinks no one else has discovered this.
This, right here, is at the heart of every unfulfilled ambition in your life. We use the same word — “want” — to mean two completely different things, and the constant confusion between those definitions is why so many people are disappointed in how their lives turned out.
Wrong. Want refers to intangible desire. Will refers to planned action.
Americans use ‘want’ when they mean ‘will’ because the casual culture punishes the active.
Here’s the ending, icing on Mr. Cupcake;
Now look around you — look at all of the minimum-wage people who “want” to be rich and/or famous, with some vague notion of, I don’t know, being on a reality show some day or getting “discovered” for some talent they didn’t know they had. Now look at all of the MBAs working 100-hour weeks on the trading floor because they “want” to be rich. The difference in the two is night and day, but in many cases the former group doesn’t realize it. They just stay poor while the other group starts shopping for vacation homes.
Or they blow their lottery winnings because they don’t know being rich involves more staying rich than becoming.
And I’m starting to think that the world really is divided between those who have a clear idea of what it means to want something — including the total cost and sacrifices it will take to get it — and those who are just content to leave it as an airy “wouldn’t it be nice” fantasy. The former group hones in on what they want and goes zooming after it like a shark. The latter looks at them, shakes their head and says, “How do they do it?” As if they have a cheat code, or a secret technique.
“What, you’re saying we should all be douchebag stockbrokers working hundred-hour weeks?” No.I’m saying that while some of you are sitting around the coffee shop talking about how you “want” the system to change, that douchebag is accumulating money so he can actually run for congress. Because when he “wants” something, he doesn’t sing a song about it. He prices that shit and makes a down payment. And when that relentless BMW-driving douche has kids, he’ll teach them, too, what it really means to “want” something — to be single-minded, and voracious, and to pursue it to the ends of the Earth. Instilling that lesson goes just as far toward preserving wealth and power in a group as the actual inheritance they’ll leave behind.
That is the paragraph which tells you he, himself is an r-type.
He assumes people who are better than them, must be bad people. Because they couldn’t possibly deserve it, could they? If he can’t win himself, there must be no way to do it fairly, legally, honestly. ~ bunny hamstering.
Are you scared of those people? Are you imagining them as cold-blooded stock brokers and lobbyists and swindlers, the Wolf of Wall Street types who are eating away at the world like a cancer? Well, they scare you because it’s a glimpse at what accomplishing great things actuallycosts. You know Steve Jobs was a fucking psychopath, right? So the next time somebody asks you if you want to be rich, really stop and think about it. Think about what it will take. Think about what kind of person you’ll need to become.
Money doesn’t make you evil. Quit believing in cartoons, you’re a grown man. This is why pop culture is rot.
Here’s the close (he doesn’t know his ABCs);
And that’s the point of all this — I’ve found, as time goes on, that everybody gets what they want. Not what they say they want in order to make themselves look good to others, or what they tell themselves they want so they feel better about the current state of their life. No, I’m talking about what they really want. And to find out what they really want, you don’t need to ask them. You just need to look at what they did today. You want to change, start there.
You mean…. what they deserve???
A new study titled “Power and Time Availability” by the University of California Berkeley has found that the more power you possess, the more time you feel like you have at your disposal. The study asked a few hundred people, some primed as “bosses,” and others as “employees,” to fill out surveys about how much time they felt they had to complete a specific set of brain teasers. They found that the “bosses” often thought they could pack more tasks in to a finite amount of time,